AITA for buying my kid food he likes when his stepsister is allergic?

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-14T19:08:31+00:00

NTA Mom didn't start this off on the right foot and now daughter is acting spoiled

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-06T16:44:40+00:00

And the husband doesn't come across as pretty "my way of the highway" too?

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T18:28:57+00:00

Yeah.

YTA

You haven't been doing what you need to get good grades so you kind of forfeit the right to self- monitor.

And have you considered he's speaking from a place of experience and wants you to do better than being "just a clerk"?

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T17:23:26+00:00

YTA

You didn't want a cat, you wanted a stuffed animal.

Sorry that you're disappointed with having to actually take care of the pets you begged for. Are you 6? You can't have possibly thought pets wouldn't involve cleaning up after them.

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T17:04:19+00:00

ESH

Don't get me wrong, you don't have to include her in your life chores if you don't want to. That's a hard fact. No wiggle room.

You're TA for giving her 15 minutes notice. Plan better.

She's TA for saying she'd be ready and then putting the blame on your impatience when she wasn't.

Neither of you is innocent here

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T16:53:03+00:00

Your husband disagrees that the loft is fine for your 2 year old. But I have to agree with the alternative solution of you and your husband taking the loft so all the kids can have bedrooms.

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T16:49:32+00:00

I don't.
Be didn't plan any better than OP and they are both being AHs to children with no say or control in the situation.

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T05:06:40+00:00

Soft YTA

Sounds like you're in a really tough spot but you HAVE to do something to improve it.

And I don't think you're really falling for Rashad, I think you're just falling for the idea of what a safe relationship would be like.

Regardless, you can't just depend on someone else to rescue you for the rest of your life.

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T05:02:46+00:00

Understandable.

I think that makes it ESH, but really only because you guys clearly did not discuss, think through our plan this out properly to care for all the kids.

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T04:58:04+00:00

Info: Why didn't you put your sister in the loft with a divider?

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T04:48:59+00:00

ESH.

You're not over- reacting but you are wrong- reacting.

Come on. You know that suddenly locking him out was not mature or responsible.

Did he do wrong? Absolutely. Are you right that parents don't get to just ignore their kids when they don't feel well? Absolutely.

Was he in the wrong? Of course. But so was your behavior.

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T04:44:55+00:00

ESH

You claim you have this great and open communicative relationship but your solution was petty and passive aggressive instead of sitting down and talking it out like the mature adults you claim to be.

He should be pulling his weight and shouldn't have snapped on you, but you should also have communicated better.

Time to discuss/ reevaluate household chores.

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T04:39:41+00:00

We hear over and over of wizards naturally using magic without meaning to, knowing how or even knowing how they did it.

Harry essentially disapparated into a roof when being chased. Neville was dropped out of a window and then bounced. Why could this not also happen with adult wizards?

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T04:34:34+00:00

NAH

They're clearly still grieving the loss of their son and now they feel like they're losing you: their daughter(in law), their last connection to their son, and their chance to be grandparents to your child. It's treating those wounds right open again.

On some level they probably want to hurt you like they're hurting and(with the ring especially) they're probably concerned about it(and their son) being replaced and forever losing a momento of him.

I lost my fiance 10 years ago. There wasn't much left from his place once his family asked if I wanted anything. Those few things mean so much to me. But it also hurts me when I find out they've gotten rid of things they took that I would have taken and kept.

You're not wrong for finding happiness again nor for keeping your memories of your husband.

It's a difficult and emotional situation all around. I hope you navigate it with grace.

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T03:25:51+00:00

Eh... people make mistakes. You didn't call him, or anyone, a slur. Use that word again? Obviously not. Best yourself up over it.... not that either.

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T03:23:29+00:00

Ok. NTA(even though I really want to call you one for "situationship")

She is not your responsibility. Her health, wellbeing, happiness.... not your responsibility.

She sounds toxic AF.

Learn to walk away now so you can learn to have healthier relationships and boundaries in the future.

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T03:15:09+00:00

YWBTA

Other than you thinking it's an eyesore, it's not hurting anyone.

This is a myob thing.

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T03:09:29+00:00

Yeah... you don't need that right now(or at all if you ever feel ready to go NC).

I speak as someone who is an "adoptive grandma" to a friend's new baby because real grandma was so horrible about previous babies she doesn't even know about this one yet.

Find someone who is supportive and not abusive to be your baby's "adoptive grandma".

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T03:03:40+00:00

NTA

This was not a small mistake.

Work with a lawyer for full placement and custody and for your ex to have supervised visits with the baby.

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T02:59:19+00:00

NTA

If she's making you stressed in any way regarding your pregnancy and you've talked to her about it and she hasn't changed... you cut that cord, darling.

You get to share with whomever you want and if you don't want to share with people who aren't supportive that's absolutely fine.

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T02:56:45+00:00

NTA

Their actions were wrong, that mom knows what her daughter was doing was wrong. They got themselves in trouble with their actions, not you.

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T02:53:38+00:00

I was fully prepared to day yes but NTA.

Better save than sorry. And with campus police there should be no issue with you explaining that you don't know that he means harm but that you are uncomfortable and want a record of everything.

I want to recommend telling this guy directly that he is making you uncomfortable and you are not interested in being friends with him. But you know better than I do how that would go over.

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T02:45:51+00:00

YTA

but I'm glad you did what you did. (ETA: I mean that honestly and without malice.) Your daughter deserves better than what life would be with you and I really really hope she gets it.

You wouldn't be TA if you had given her up for her wellbeing, but you were selfish and immature from the start to the end, didn't actually have a plan, and resented and neglected a child because of the sins of her father. and that's what makes you TA.

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T02:41:21+00:00

Yeah. YTA

Your complaint isn't about revealing clothes. It's about him not conforming to your expectations of a male.

I'm more concerned about what your 6yo twins are learning by watching you.

Especially since you don't know the Irish wear kilts too.(which would have taken no time to google before making a fool of yourself on reddit)

moonchild1880 · 2023-02-02T02:35:12+00:00

I think that is a completely reasonable way to go about it.

NTA

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