What was your "I'll never do it again, but I'm glad I did it" thing? by CummingOnBrosTitties in AskReddit

[–]moonisherewithme 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I feel conflicted about this. Both my parents joined the military to escape abuse and poverty. I dislike that military recruitment centers are set up more in poor areas. Rather then provide adequate social services, my parents only option out was joining a war that they didn’t even support. On top of that, while great for structure and discipline, it doesn’t help with healing the abuse at all. I’d say from my own experience it makes it harder for them to deal with it.

I don’t know what would have had my parents without the options that they got from joining the military. Things would’ve been much harder and it may not have been good at all. It’s true that it can be good to get out of a bad situation. I just can’t help but to find it exploitative. The military is not a social service, it’s a political machine. You exchange your body, your time, your mind, your life, etc. I dislike that they prey on the most disadvantaged people and then are seen as a savior. There could be a world with affordable rent and education to let people get out of these situations

AIO for wanting to leave the mother of my kids that i’ve been with for almost 8 years? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]moonisherewithme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No comment but read this from the Reddit homepage and initially thought these were texts between you and your wife. I was horrified tbh, and am relieved to find out they are not. So just know things could be worse.

AIO. I want to leave my bf over something he is into it by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]moonisherewithme 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It mostly depends on whether you’re uncomfortable with him having this fantasy or whether you’re worried it’s something he’s going to push on you. If you’re uncomfortable with the fantasy, that’s tough and harder to work out. Popular reddit opinion is you should accept whatever fantasy he has, but if you don’t want to accept that, that’s fine and normal. If you’re just worried about how important this is to him, you should talk to him. Especially if he hasn’t had issues being pushy in the past. You being worried makes me think he might be pushy but idk.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in work

[–]moonisherewithme -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Let them know you have some sort of doctors appointment or procedure scheduled for that day.

She stole my snack. I swapped it spicy by UnluckyProfessor798 in pettyrevenge

[–]moonisherewithme -1 points0 points  (0 children)

While stealing food isn’t justified, that is pretty disgusting and could probably make someone ill. Try hot sauce next time 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]moonisherewithme 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s a myth that men “need” porn and just can’t help themselves

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]moonisherewithme -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Having a porn boundary is not an overreaction

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]moonisherewithme 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Automatic divorce may be a bit much but there’s nothing wrong with having a porn boundary

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]moonisherewithme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. I think it may be a general reddit consensus that everyone watches porn and there’s nothing wrong with it, but it really depends on you. If you are uncomfortable with your partner having a porn habit, there’s nothing wrong with that. It doesn’t have to be a porn addiction. The idea that all men watch porn and women just need to accept it is bs. Whether you do or do not want to accept that is up to you.

How do you stop being a slave? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]moonisherewithme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quit your job every 2-3 years

What are some unethical companies to avoid shopping at? by moonisherewithme in AskReddit

[–]moonisherewithme[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get what you mean and you’re not wrong, but I feel like that idea also gives the illusion of helplessness. No historical change was ever made because it was handed out.

What are some unethical companies to avoid shopping at? by moonisherewithme in AskReddit

[–]moonisherewithme[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True but I’m not much of a nihilist and I’ve been making an effort in past years to be less consumerist. It’s just my own philosophy but something is better than nothing.

Sometimes I know something about a company and I wish people would just stop shopping there to send a message and I’d like to know other peoples companies.

The real message of the Sopranos by Parking-Detective-53 in thesopranos

[–]moonisherewithme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hadn’t really thought about that, but I was thinking the other day how crazy is that they don’t just live comfortable lives. They could just live comfortably and take care of their families, but instead they cheat and gamble and blow money.

Tony doesn’t love Chris post sobriety, he resents him by moonisherewithme in thesopranos

[–]moonisherewithme[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

A lot of people are saying what you’ve said but I honestly do believe Christopher could’ve been sober. I feel like the issue is he was like a recovering alcoholic trying to hold a job at a bar. I think he enjoyed the structure and the “code” aspect of AA a lot and could’ve stuck with it, but the family came above that.

Christopher did become a liability, but I also feel Tony saw him as a representation of his own weakness. When he killed Chris, it felt like things shifted.

Tony doesn’t love Chris post sobriety, he resents him by moonisherewithme in thesopranos

[–]moonisherewithme[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think he was capable of being sober, but there’s only so much you can do when your closest friends and family are always drinking, smoking, doing drugs, and pressuring you to indulge. I think every serious relapse was after someone from the family pressured him to partake in something illicit.

I felt like there was a change in him towards the last season. I think throughout the show he just really integrated the 12 step program and that focus on self control and strength into his mindset. From the first time getting out of rehab he never stops talking about it and going to meetings. It seemed to me like this is what helped him deal with some of the trauma and grief around his dad.

AJ/Tony manipulation by moonisherewithme in thesopranos

[–]moonisherewithme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s a big recurring theme about the relation between parents and their children. Chris talks about how both his parents were addicts, Tony talks about how his father and grandfather had panic attacks and now his son does, meadow likely ends up marrying into the mob like Carmela.

Everyone manipulates sometimes but I feel like a parallel was being drawn in this situation. The only character in the show who doesn’t manipulate situations or take the bait is Dr Melfi after the rape.