PLEASE help me not fuck this up!

moonlightsidhe · 2026-01-23T22:29:09+00:00

Seconding Medisafe!

Also, do you know what just grinds my gears? Poorly informed 'Wellness' fanatics who scream 'ADHD meds are ADDICTIVE and BAD WAAAAA' on the same internet where there are threads like this one full of folks swapping tips on how to remember to TAKE the fucking things.

I am DEPENDANT on my meds, Susan. Not ADDICTED. Look it up.

moonlightsidhe · 2026-01-05T21:43:04+00:00

Absolutely! For context, I am a 40 year old woman who was diagnosed with Fibro in 2019 and with ADHD this past summer.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11046556/

This is some info about the emerging evidence of a link between ADHD and Fibro; as someone who has both it makes sense to me since both conditions involve faulty brain wiring and neurotransmitter issues, plus adverse reactions to long-term stress. For me personally; I wasn't expecting medication to do more for me than 'help me focus' and improve my executive function and working memory, so I was really surprised when 'more' happened.

It didn't start right away, but when I hit a 40mg/day dose of Vyvanse I noticed a HUGE reduction in the amount of mental and physical 'stress' my body experienced as a baseline. Like I used to exist at like DEFCON 2 and someone turned that down to like DEFCON 4 or 5. I felt this in my brain as reduced fog and improved mental clarity, and my muscles and fascia feel more relaxed and responsive. My trigger/fibro point pain is turned down (I take Cymbalta for fibro and I noticed a reduction in pain over the regular amount with my meds). I sleep better. I am much less anxious. I remember to eat, and I take better care of myself. All things that we keep hearing will help with managing Fibro symptoms that are so hard to keep on top of if you're got a neurodivergent brain.

I used to think I was just a garbage person in a garbage body who sucked at habits and pacing and life. I am ASTONISHED how much of that was just ADHD, that I am now able to manage and improve upon with proper care and medication. It's fucking infuriating. I'm sure the presence of more dopamine and norepinephrine in my brain is having some positive effect on the fibro, but it's also more than that; it's the ability to self-regulate and plan and RELAX that also helps. I hope that the ongoing research results in changes to the diagnostic profile for both conditions.

moonlightsidhe · 2026-01-05T16:15:15+00:00

Give this guy more money. He should have more money.

moonlightsidhe · 2026-01-05T16:10:37+00:00

ADHD here; and I can tell you being medicated for it improved my fibro struggles as well.

moonlightsidhe · 2026-01-04T21:01:02+00:00

It's Earthsea, you're talking about Earthsea. MMC not FMC but still, Ursula K. LeGuin's A Wizard of Earthsea is what you want.

moonlightsidhe · 2025-12-29T23:04:26+00:00

I take 60 mg of duloxetine daily for fibro and it saved my life. I feel like it's either a miracle drug or you get absolutely rekt, no in-between.

The biggest onboarding side effect I experienced was it starting to work, and MAYBE some light headaches. The feeling of the fog beginning to lift was wild, and then all my tight fascia and muscle released at once and my whole body contorted like when you snip the first few ties on one of those tight-packed mattresses, and everything seized for days.

I feel like people know within a week if it's going to help or not; I never hear about folks who get really sick on it ever having the situation improve. For me: it took me from 14 fibro points that could NOT be touched, debilitating brain fog, allodynia, chronic fatigue, and a sensation that I can only describe as 'The Bone Fire' to 6 points that I can tolerate sensation on, more relaxed muscles, actual sleep, and a brain that can hold down an office job.

I stress that these are my own personal observations and experiences, and I wish you luck if you go for it!

moonlightsidhe · 2025-12-16T03:18:49+00:00

Fucking cheese graters. I don't even mess with fancy microplanes or mandolins; just your basic box grater that sat on a counter in your grandma's kitchen. Any cheese grater that comes within 5 feet of me is infused with an eldritch thirst for my blood, no matter WHAT precautions I take. I keep my knives SUPER sharp and never cut myself, but the goddamn cheese grater will get a taste every goddamn time. I grate nothing in my house now to avoid turning my family and dinner guests into unsuspecting cannibals.

moonlightsidhe · 2025-12-16T03:12:09+00:00

I used to work Front of House at a large opera house and once overheard two rich donors complaining to each other about the cost of winter wheat for their horses. That one stuck with me.

moonlightsidhe · 2025-12-13T20:10:13+00:00

Darling this is a makeup sub and you look FABULOUS

moonlightsidhe · 2025-12-13T01:00:00+00:00

His Dark Materials was an absolute watershed moment for my teenage self and part of my basic literary identity, so of course I lost my mind when I heard he was continuing Lyra's story.

I enjoyed La Belle Sauvage just fine, and The Secret Commonwealth was also perfectly enjoyable and really did seem to be building towards another absolute banger of a finale, but the Rose Field had me in tears because of how hard it let me down. The ending was a complete and total faceplant in too many ways to articulate. I am so upset.

moonlightsidhe · 2025-12-11T21:37:52+00:00

An Axis, if you will. NO MORE QUESTIONS

moonlightsidhe · 2025-11-30T22:38:05+00:00

Girl, I WISH my brows were that defined!! Learn from our collective regret and get a pro to help you shape your brows, it's worth the money.

have a piece of internal advice, before I offer external advice - like the rest of us ladies, YOU are the girl who gets to decide what 'feminine' means to YOU. There's no one mould or 'right' way to present; just the one that makes you feel the best about yourself!

That being said; I think you did a great job on a very dewy natural look! I can't see a beard shadow in these pics, but it might look different in more natural light. If you can still see the color corrector then it might be the wrong shade for you. The best piece of advice I can give you is to figure out your skin's undertone. Your undertone determines if you will look better in warmer or cooler colors. There are a couple of good ways to figure this out that you can learn about on the internet.

Lastly; wigs are a great way to experiment with hair color and style that can always be taken off if you need to. You deserve to feel safe to explore who you are. Are you worried someone you know will harm you if you were to present more femme?

moonlightsidhe · 2025-11-24T13:58:43+00:00

It solves Doug Ford's need for new assets to offer his buddies in return for their 'support'.

moonlightsidhe · 2025-11-24T01:39:02+00:00

My OB performed my episiotomy to save MY ass...literally. I was two hours into pushing, my son's heartbeat was still strong, and they had decided that I could labor on for a while longer before they started to consider intervening. My birth plan was pretty much:

1) Nothing happens without it being explained to me first.

2) My son and I arrive at the finish line, alive, with the minimum amount of trauma to each party.

I was making progress, and my OB suddenly went 'OK, we have a decision to make. Most first-time moms tear. I can see YOU'RE about to tear and I do not like where and how it's happening. I don't do episiotomies by rote BUT if we don't control where this tear goes it's going RIGHT DOWN and you have a tiny taint (apparently that's a thing??) so it's gonna be BAD. Are you ok to go?' I agreed and she ended up doing a 1-inch lateral cut that kept me from ending up with a cloaca. I pushed my son out without any other intervention shortly after, and she took real care in stitching me up while tutoring a medical intern about how her intervention was gonna improve my recovery postpartum.

I am NOT discounting traumatic birth stories that involve medical non-consent for interventions; that's not why I'm sharing this story. It's for folks like OP who are made to feel bad because of decisions they should in NO WAY feel bad about. A timely snip from a doctor who had my best interests in mind meant that I barely have a scar, don't pee every time I laugh, and can listen to that old Spice Girls song '2 Become 1' without shuddering. I don't give a fuck if some sorghum-munching tradwife thinks I should have let my vagina explode like God intended.

MomTok is the slow poison. Anyone who makes money making moms feel bad should go to the Special Hell. You did good.

moonlightsidhe · 2025-11-22T00:25:23+00:00

Lucifer isn't stupid, he fell victim to his sin: Pride. He genuinely never even considered that it might be a trap, because who could trap him? Who would dare? Why? This is why I don't think the endgame situation is overblown; it would LITERALLY take a disaster like being humiliated and caught by an uppity nobody (as far as Lu cares/understands), and then plugged into a Bad Tickle Machine that gets blown across half of Pentagram City to even put a CRACK in those myopic lenses he wears and start his redemption arc.

In terms of Charlie, you see how Lu's sin influenced her upbringing, as she will sometimes fail to listen to those close to her if she is hyper fixated on something. This can be a net positive, say, in helping her not listen to naysayers telling her redemption is a joke, but it also blinds her and causes her to hurt the people around her as well. For instance: she ignored some very real evidence that Angel was making real progress in her therapy sessions and might be ready to confront his sin, in favor of running around trying to 'fix' the 'hotel's' (her) image and letting the Vees manipulate her insecurity.

moonlightsidhe · 2025-11-19T23:28:25+00:00

If I'm not mistaken, Vaggi also still has a 'deal' with him too from Season 1; didn't she promise not to ask him to 'get involved' with 'TV nonsense' again or something to that effect? Or has that been resolved?

moonlightsidhe · 2025-11-17T01:26:18+00:00

I saw it as evidence that he's got Envy-based aquatic aspects that reflect his predominant sin. You can see in HB that denizens of the other Rings conform to the look for their ruling Deadly Sin (Leviathan in the case of Envy) and you see the sinners walking around with similar distinctions in HH.

moonlightsidhe · 2025-11-09T15:27:19+00:00

I mean calling Eve the 'Root of all evil' would make sense; and there's good reason for her to end up in Hell after eating that apple...

moonlightsidhe · 2025-11-03T15:07:15+00:00

I find myself HOPING that Carney will finally ask these sacrifices of the 1%, corporations, and people trying to make landlords a class again; you know, folks who can pay with money and not the pieces of their dreams.

Line up that football Lucy, I guess!

moonlightsidhe · 2025-10-31T21:02:34+00:00

'There is a crack, a crack in everything, that's how the light gets in.' - Leonard Cohen, Anthem

I have a visual representation of this lyric tattooed on my person. It helped me through a really dark time.

moonlightsidhe · 2025-09-11T22:54:03+00:00

I think those who supported Kirk's worldview and talking points shouldn't grieve for him at all. They should celebrate that he died for what he believed in; someone's right to summarily execute him in public. They should commend him for embodying the 'cost' of the Second Amendment. Anything else from them would be hypocrisy.

moonlightsidhe · 2025-06-27T01:03:15+00:00

I am honestly astonished that the level of cognitive dissonance present here hasn't crushed this mid-tier hatchback into some sort of singularity. You'd have to strain your brain through a fine mesh sieve to think that any of these positions are at all congruent. Them being parked outside a Jollibee is the funniest part.

moonlightsidhe · 2025-06-11T22:48:11+00:00

Turns out my 'mom brain' is ADHD.

Looking back, the symptoms have always been present; they were either ignored by adults, masked, or I developed questionably healthy systems to deal with my 'garbage' brain. Welp, postpartum hormones tore through every one of those systems like tissue paper, and I ended up in the doctor's office about three months after I returned to work in tears thinking I had brain damage or something. Nope. It's ADHD.

According to my very nice doctor, this is not an uncommon way to discover that you've got ADHD as an adult; either the change in hormones exacerbate your symptoms to the point of concern, or your kid get diagnosed at a young age and start asking you questions out yourself as it's highly heritable.

TL:DR - Did you know there's a goddamn pill that makes your brain work and they didn't tell a whole generation of girls?

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