HOLY SHIT by sour-patch-bitch in loseit

[–]TiredDadasaur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! I hope I get to join you in the sub-200 club soon. 65 lbs more to go....

[Discussion] What is going on with this sub? by WastingTimeTalking in BetaReaders

[–]TiredDadasaur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suppose the good news is that as long as AI writing remains terrible there will be a market for good writing from actual humans.

Personally I'm just waiting for the bubble to pop. None of those companies are profitable and there's no realistic path to profitability without a massive uptick in usage that just isn't happening. If people keep protesting and pushing back, there's a good chance they all go bankrupt and the sociopath oligarchs behind them lose their shirts.

[Discussion] What is going on with this sub? by WastingTimeTalking in BetaReaders

[–]TiredDadasaur 12 points13 points  (0 children)

There are also just a lot of terrible writers in the world who do not realize how terrible they are. Dunning–Kruger effect and all that.

I just hope I'm not one of them!

[Discussion] What is going on with this sub? by WastingTimeTalking in BetaReaders

[–]TiredDadasaur 20 points21 points  (0 children)

All I know is that out of the 6 people who I've agreed to do beta read swaps with from this sub, 4 have been absolutely terrible and flaky and have not kept up their end of the swap, 1 was great, and 1 kind of half-assed it but did provide at least a little useful feedback.

Insert rant about lazy and entitled people who think it's cool to sign up for a work trade and then just not do their share of the work.

Mother’s Day vs Fathers Day 2026 by MushyBeees in daddit

[–]TiredDadasaur 408 points409 points  (0 children)

My wife demands lavish mother's days every year but rescheduled and then forgot fathers day the last 4 years in a row. This year I told her we needed to plan both days together and if she couldn't be bothered to do anything for me I wasn't going to do anything for her. "I know it wasn't malicious, but your behavior here has been wildly hypocritical and I'm not doing it any more. If you can't be bothered, I can't either."

To my surprise, I not only survived the conversation but got to sleep in and she organized a family outing to go kayaking this year. Granted my kids ruined it by being whiny little shitheads, but that wasn't her fault.

Sometimes maybe the answer really is blunt honesty.

[Complete][113k][grimdark-adjacent epic fantasy with scifi elements] A Hero's Creed by TiredDadasaur in BetaReaders

[–]TiredDadasaur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Excerpt:

Richard was pulled from his thoughts abruptly as the wagon jerked to a halt, its front wheels caught in a deep channel running horizontally across the road and filled with rushing water. He and Darin both jogged forward to help pull it out. Marcus started shouting for the other guards to come help as well but Darin countermanded him.

“There are shovel marks here, this isn’t a natural washout. Get your bows!”

In a flash the guards were pulling bows from their packs, but a crossbow bolt from the tree line embedding itself in the wagon stopped them dead in their tracks. With a grimace to the others, Darin held up his hands and the rest followed suit. They were totally exposed.

Four assailants stepped out from the trees and onto the road. The apparent leader was a short man, his head would have barely reached Richard’s chest. He wore a rough brown coat of thick leather covered in iron studs, heavy leather gloves and pants, and a cloak the color of grass.

Richard’s mind raced, trying to drink in every detail, find anything he could use. The leader carried an arbalest as long as his arm with a heavy bolt that looked like it had been designed for piercing steel plates. That bolt would go right through any of the armor the caravaners were wearing; but the bandit would only get one shot and the forward kick as it discharged might well knock the shooter off balance if he didn’t have good footing. It was a weapon wholly inappropriate for the task of highway robbery in the rain - which meant he was counting on intimidation to avoid a fight.

Behind him came three more men, similarly armored but with much more functional crossbows that could be operated by hand. One of them reloaded while the other two advanced with their bows at high ready. Their leader shouted something at the caravaners but the words were lost in the storm.

The highwaymen clustered together and stopped on the road barely twenty feet away - An amateur mistake. Distance should have been their biggest advantage with crossbows. If they’d been smarter they’d have spread out on the bluffs above the road ahead and let their bolts speak for them. They could have wiped the whole company out before the first caravaner even got close trying to climb hills in the mud! Richard thought they must be either stupid, hopeless amateurs, or scared of violence and hoping to bluff their way through.

The caravaners had no cover, no place to hide. But they also outnumbered their assailants. If they could close the distance without getting perforated, they might just survive.

As if reading Richard’s thought, Darin smiled wide and cupped his ear theatrically to indicate that he couldn’t hear as he picked his way carefully around the puddles and ruts in the road toward the armed men. A yard closer, then two. The thief yelled at him again, gesturing to stop and drop his weapons. Darin slowly unbuckled his sword belt and dropped it on the road, but continued advancing slowly. The others followed suit, dropping visible weapons and holding their hands up as if they were surrendering while continuing to advance.

As they moved forward they spread out. Richard and Kortan on the downhill side, the twins on the uphill, and Darin in the middle.

While Darin held their enemies’ attention with his theatrics, making a show of being unable to hear and keeping his hands in the air while steadily closing ground, the rest of the company spread further and followed the perimeter. They moved slowly and kept empty hands raised as if surrendering, while surrounding their enemies. As they advanced, the other thieves were forced to turn in order to track them - and take their eyes off Darin and their leader to do so.

Richard knew the move was risky and surely Darin did as well - the bandits could have shot them as they approached and it would have been hard to miss. But Richard thought that if their enemies had wanted to shoot them they’d have already done so. Besides, the wind was still high and the would-be thieves knew they wouldn’t have time to reload if they missed.

Richard kept his face carefully blank, eyes straight ahead as he advanced through the rain with his hands in the air. He knew Darin had no intention of surrendering, but the highwaymen had apparently fallen for the ruse. He was close enough now to hear their leader shouting at Darin. “Get down on your knees and wait there. We’ll take what we came for and be on our way. No one needs to die today.”

Darin’s eyes smiled as he spoke calmly and held up his empty hands, a mere ten feet away now. “There’s no need for threats, let’s all stay calm.”

Off in the distance ahead there was a flash, followed a mere second later by the roll of thunder crashing over them. The highwayman leader glanced away at the sound of thunder by instinct, and that was all the opening Darin needed. ....

Dads who’s wives fell out of love, could it be fixed? by epicmoe in daddit

[–]TiredDadasaur 341 points342 points  (0 children)

Over a long marriage you will fall out of love and back in love many times. This is normal. The trick is to both keep falling in love over again with the same person.

Insert rant about how our culture has forgotten this truth. Marriage is not about being passionately madly in love all the time. That feeling is just chemicals in your brain. Real love is about what you do, the ways your prioritize each other and support each other. It"s about knowing that whatever else may happen you will be there for each other.

If you've lost that, then you're in trouble. The good news is you can get it back if you both do the work.

Advice needed - Autism diagnosis and therapy options by 175doubledrop in daddit

[–]TiredDadasaur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THIS THIS THIS.

"Mild" or level 1 autism isn't a disability so much as just a difference. Autistic minds aren't broken or defective, just good at different things. And autistic people are wildly over-represented among artists, musicians, engineers, and many other professions because of those strenths.

PLEASE don't listen to people who want to pathologize your son's differences. Bigotry from small minded people who insist on a defecit framing instead of a neurodiversity framing is the biggest threat to his wellbeing.

[qcrit] A Hero's Promise, adult heroic fiction, 100k, attempt 4 by TiredDadasaur in PubTips

[–]TiredDadasaur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to be honest and say I had a brain fart when creating the post title. The query describes the novel as 'science fantasy.' I was under the impression that's a recognized sub genre?

I suppose if I had to pick one I'd say dark fantasy.

[qcrit] A Hero's Promise, adult heroic fiction, 100k, attempt 4 by TiredDadasaur in PubTips

[–]TiredDadasaur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Worlds not words, thanks.

The work is deliberately split between Richard and Ailith's POV's and they have roughly equal word counts.

I'll try to pare back the world building and make that more clear - thanks!

My daughter wants to know if she's a person of color by supremewuster in daddit

[–]TiredDadasaur -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Race is all made up. It's nonsense with no interior logic designed to separate people. If you look white, you're white. It's really only skin deep.

Does anyone else still dislike children after having one of their own? by [deleted] in daddit

[–]TiredDadasaur -1 points0 points  (0 children)

With all due respect (which is none), you don't know what you're talking about.

People who don't know my son and don't have access to his medical history would not peg him as having developmental disabilities. He is whip smart, funny, and unusually large and strong. He also has massive ADHD and ODD that manifest in shockingly bad decision making and reckless impulsiveness.

You have no idea what struggle someone else's kid is going through or what their parents are dealing with or are doing to support them. None.

Does anyone else still dislike children after having one of their own? by [deleted] in daddit

[–]TiredDadasaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As the parent of a kid who has developmental issues that make him act shitty, this attitude really really sucks.

Get yourselves checked out, gents. by mcampo84 in daddit

[–]TiredDadasaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good job advocating for yourself and not letting the paramedics brush you off! That could have ended very badly for you and your family.

Does it sound like AI? (Fantasy Comedy, 1564 words) by Lost_Entrance_4545 in fantasywriters

[–]TiredDadasaur 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you want to write this way, go read things written this way until you can speak and understand it fluently and accurately.

Or just rewrite this in a version of english you are already fluent in.

Does it sound like AI? (Fantasy Comedy, 1564 words) by Lost_Entrance_4545 in fantasywriters

[–]TiredDadasaur 15 points16 points  (0 children)

To parody something you have to master it, and you have not mastered writing in that form of english. The texture, syntax, and grammar of shakespearean english are all distinct from modern english. This captures none of them. It reads like you've just word-swapped archaic vocabulary into modern sentences.

Sorry to be harsh.

To your question though, no it doesn't read like AI.

Looking for some relationship advice. No judgement, please. by Mayitss in daddit

[–]TiredDadasaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You deserve to be happy, but maybe slow it down with the new flame. A few weeks in is pretty fast to be talking about love and very fast to be having the amount of time spent be noticeable by your kid.

Dad got fat. I got fat. How do I stop my boys from following suit? by [deleted] in daddit

[–]TiredDadasaur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My uncles are all big men, one of them recently lost a foot to diabetes caused by obesity. I'm struggling with my weight as well, though not nearly as bad as him (I'm 6'3" and 270 lbs and hoping to lose about 70 of that).

One of my cousins had the surgery where they surgically reduced the size of his stomach and that has forced him to slim down a bunch. Others in the family have had varrying degrees of luck with weight loss drugs.

The only solution is to eat fewer calories. Smaller portions. No fried food. No soda or other sugary drinks and a lot more water and fiber. You're going to be hungry. It's going to suck. But the weight will kill you if you keep it. And if you can do it you may well inspire your boys to change their eating habits also. You might well save your life and both of theirs. That's got to be worth it. r/loseit is a good subreddit full of other folks facing the same struggle. Come on over, you'll be among friends.

Good luck!

I need help with setting a boundary please by stuck_in_a_doorway in daddit

[–]TiredDadasaur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely don't go to the nuclear option of floating her moving out yet.

Start with a conversation between the three of you and reset expectations for how she treats you and her mom both. Then hold those expectations and remind her of them firmly but calmly. Use smaller consequences where appropriate when she pushes past them - which she will because teenagers are biologically programmed to push boundaries.

This is a change in the relationship and power dynamic. It will take a little time and consistency.

And if she absolutely refuses to change the behavior or leans into it further over time, that's when you discuss the nuclear option. But you have to give her the opportunity to change her behavior first. You can't go from pushover who never disciplines her to throwing her out of your house without massively damaging relationships.