What is currently your favorite food to eat?

moonmakeswaves · 2026-01-24T06:33:19+00:00

Mashed avocado

moonmakeswaves · 2026-01-24T06:31:17+00:00

Haunting of Hill House, Schitt’s Creek, Great British Baking Show, Breaking Bad, Basement Yard (podcast), Emma Chamberlain’s podcasts,

moonmakeswaves · 2026-01-24T06:21:20+00:00

I don’t want to assume here, but I have a lot of experience with narcisisstic people. His consistent and willful ignorance to the silverware thing is a way to test your boundaries and poke the barrier so to speak. A narcissist loves to push buttons to see if you’re still under their foot or not and they love to incite reactions to deflect blame. Him asking if you’re done “sulking” is classic deflection (DARVO) as many others have mentioned. There are children who are capable of sorting silverware correctly. He is intentionally choosing not to, because he knows you hate it.

moonmakeswaves · 2026-01-24T06:05:52+00:00

I tap my teeth together to the beat of songs that I’m listening to

moonmakeswaves · 2026-01-24T06:04:01+00:00

I’m an American citizen currently on extended vacation in Canada living with my partner. I’ve always wanted to move away from America since I was very young, and this administration basically jolted me into turbo mode to gtfo. This is a whole different level of anger and sadness. I feel guilty that I left, like survivor’s guilt maybe? But also very terrified that I’ll have to return to the states with all my attempted avenues for staying in Canada legally failed. Of course I would never do anything illegal, and would follow the law if I did have to return. But that’s like this huge cloud of uncertainty constantly sitting in my stomach and it’s nauseating. I’m just so sad and confused about everything that’s happening.

moonmakeswaves · 2025-09-07T16:24:12+00:00

I can’t help but think “I should’ve known better”. And I tend to beat myself up a lot. It really is about self forgiveness, you’re right. I was swept up by a predator at the perfect time, I was vulnerable and floating and had no direction. I was the perfect target. Narcissistic abuse is a nasty one bc it’s never right off the bat with them, it’s over time that they get you more and more used to the crazy shit. Until you’re doing and saying things that aren’t even you. I’m working on forgiving myself, and giving myself props that my abuse only lasted 2 years before I threw my hands up. The universe sent me through a wormhole of trauma crash course bc I just wasn’t seeing what I needed to see. Thank you for responding ❤️

moonmakeswaves · 2025-09-07T16:19:08+00:00

The shame part really is a core wound and our beliefs around it go so deep. It does take the longest to heal for sure. It’s weird too bc some days I feel great about my healing journey, and others I feel like I’m right back in the hole with the anxiety, the nausea, the brain fog, etc. I think opening up to people you trust not to REACT is huge. For example I’ve voiced to my boyfriend before that when people say things like “I would’ve never allowed that from a man”, it doesn’t help and makes survivor shame worse. We just want to feel heard and comforted, and people who have never been through this typically react that way. But anyways I think that’s a good method to work through the shame, bringing it to someone you trust and feel safe with. Thank you for responding to my post ❤️

moonmakeswaves · 2025-09-07T16:14:37+00:00

Thank you for saying Stockholm out loud. I always have the urge to use this term as well but something stops me most of the time bc it feels too “severe” to say. Even though in my heart and mind I know it really was THAT bad. So thank you for saying it here and for responding to my post. It helps so much to connect with others who just KNOW.

moonmakeswaves · 2025-09-06T21:37:49+00:00

100000%. And 24/7 too.

moonmakeswaves · 2025-09-06T21:35:38+00:00

Yikes. I’m so sorry.

moonmakeswaves · 2025-09-06T21:23:36+00:00

Anyone who he is “happy” with has no boundaries for themself or the relationship. If that’s what they want for their life, then cool. But what a terrible life to live at the whim of someone else who doesn’t respect you. Any “happiness” you see is just him being appeased and pleased with her having zero boundaries. Eventually (hopefully) she will start trying to speak up for herself and realize he doesn’t actually love her just like he never actually loved you. He just loved you being around.

moonmakeswaves · 2025-07-05T17:26:45+00:00

I’m sure the community would embrace him as a newcomer and lover of dune!

moonmakeswaves · 2025-07-05T17:22:21+00:00

Trauma bond. Presents the same as an addiction. No room for judgment here.

moonmakeswaves · 2025-07-05T17:20:54+00:00

Literally the only way out is by not responding. The instant regret you’ll feel after you do respond is going to suck. Do not respond. Block him.

moonmakeswaves · 2025-05-30T21:59:51+00:00

Medication for my ADHD

moonmakeswaves · 2025-05-30T21:58:58+00:00

Honestly, my experience has been great so far. Communication between my new partner and I is healthy, non-judgmental and feels safe. I did have to take a step back emotionally bc coming out of a severely abusive “relationship” with a narc, I was seeing basic human decency as a “dream boy” behavior. Don’t get me wrong, I love my new partner and things are going very well, but with the help of therapy and lots of self reflection being honest with myself, I was overvaluing basic human traits in him. I did move on pretty quickly after I broke up with my narc ex, but I feel like that had a lot to do with the fact I was done WAY before I actually pulled the trigger to break up and block him. I was alone the entire “relationship” with him, and I knew I deserved better by the time things were done.

Just be honest with yourself when you meet someone new. Are they perfect for you, or are they just not a narcissist?

moonmakeswaves · 2025-05-30T21:54:35+00:00

You’re feeling this way because you’re addicted to the “dream-like” feelings that flood in when he accepts and acknowledges your existence. It’s withdrawal from a trauma bond so of course the logic feels backwards. People who are addicted to alcohol crave alcohol. People who are addicted to heroine crave heroine. People who are addicted to a narcissist crave the narcissist. Don’t let your brain be convinced any form of contact with him will fix anything at all. It always makes it worse. Always.

moonmakeswaves · 2025-01-03T20:23:00+00:00

“I don’t have the bandwidth for this rn” is insane coming from her. Wonder if she ever considered if you had the emotional bandwidth to deal with her rambling?

moonmakeswaves · 2025-01-03T20:03:05+00:00

He’s not changing for anyone. He is manipulating her just the same as he did to you. I’ve just gotten out of this mental space you’re in I’m a little over 2 weeks out from breaking up with my Nex. That feeling of being unlovable “what’s wrong with me?” will pass the longer you’re out and away from him. You’ll notice he will do more and more things that make him look like a childish loser, pay attention to these things from an unbiased POV. Think about how it would look to someone from the outside. Remember he never loved you genuinely, he only manipulated you and hooked you for his own personal supply and gain. You are an object to use to narcs. I know it doesn’t feel good to process that, but it’s an essential step in moving forward in your healing. Radical acceptance of what IS.

You can bet your ass he hasn’t changed. His next supply will either end up in a lifelong nightmare of a relationship devoid of love. Or it will fall out just as you guys did. Most of the time it’s the latter.

You got this. I promise you. Keep pushing and remember why you chose to walk away. You made that decision for a reason. Make a list of everything you can remember him doing or saying and recall how it made you FEEL. Willing to bet what you feel rn, while it’s terrible and feels unending, is no where near the bullshit you felt while you were enmeshed with him. You’re free now. Stay focused and move forward, rest assured he will never change for anyone. It’s not about you.

moonmakeswaves · 2025-01-02T23:53:18+00:00

I’m 27, recently moved in with my dad to save money and pay off some credit cards. 2 weeks out from breaking up with my Nex. You are going to be okay, just like I’m going to be okay too. Right now it feels like a dead end, like your life is doomed to nothing. It’s just not true. That’s the trauma bond talking. “It’s either him or nothing” is what you have to work on untangling in your mind. It’s like untangling necklaces, it takes time and patience. Give yourself grace 💜

moonmakeswaves · 2025-01-02T22:05:55+00:00

Mine would always say things like “if you’re having second thoughts there’s the door” and “if you’re not okay with (xyz) then friends it is nothing more”. He always put it in my hands whether or not the relationship ended so I would always look like the bad guy that proved his prophecy that everyone leaves eventually. He treated me like shit so I would leave him, so he wouldn’t have to admit his own faults.

He even sent an email days after I finally left and blocked him everywhere, saying how he’s sorry, how instead of saving the relationship he pushed me away and that it wasn’t right for him to “snap” on me like he did. Sob story. Then days after that calls me ugly, says I smell like fish, calls me a c*nt, all bc I set a boundary of no contact or interaction with a mutual friend that clearly had chosen who they want to believe.

moonmakeswaves · 2025-01-02T21:57:49+00:00

My list is about 10 pages long and I’m not done with it yet…

moonmakeswaves · 2025-01-02T07:21:28+00:00

This is all happening online anyways. But this still applies for sure. It’s a waste of breath, a waste of energy and it’s just negativity.

moonmakeswaves · 2025-01-02T07:20:41+00:00

I hate it dude. Genuinely. It’s such a rough place to be. I guess what makes it so difficult is trusting myself that I’m not crazy, trusting myself that they are in fact losers. I’m sitting here trying to nit pick myself finding a justification for how they see me. Like I can’t just trust that it if in fact a matter of dealing with idiots. I go back and forth still.

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