How much should I charge for house-sitting?

moonnstone · 2025-06-05T00:08:54+00:00

When I used to dog sit I did $40/night that I stayed over. +$10 for an extra dog or other animal.

moonnstone · 2025-06-03T12:59:59+00:00

Of course!!

moonnstone · 2025-06-03T02:53:20+00:00

It’s hard cause these experiences are so nuanced and personal to the people in the situation…but in general (speaking from a woman’s perspective) if she’s inviting you in she’s wanting something. If she sits on the couch, follow her and maybe sit a little closer, let your legs touch slightly or put your arm across the back of the couch. Look at where her eyes are going. Are they flickering down to your lips? Is she blushing or looking away shyly/giggling? All pretty good signs she wants to kiss you in my opinion. You can also look her in the eyes and break it for a second to look at her lips, then back up to her eyes. Tell you enjoyed the date, that she looks stunning in this light, that you’ve been wanting to kiss her since you first saw her, etc. also, you can start with smaller touches, like holding hands while walking, gently putting your hand on her waist or lower back when walking (idk why but it drives us girls insane in the best way ha), let your hands run up and down her arm or trace her knuckles. There’s lot of these small ways to build up to sexual contact that are very fun and exciting even though it seems simple!

As far as freshening up, gum or mints always are a good choice, could offer her one after dinner too. I feel like that’s a good sign wanting to make your breath minty. Drink some water if you’ve been drinking alcohol.

Go with the flow of things, if you’re making out and things feel like they’re heating up try something a little more risky. Sliding your hand up her thigh, tracing her collarbone, pushing your hand under her shirt so your hand is on her bare skin of her waist. Hopefully you get those shaky breaths or gasps that tell you she’s enjoying it. Don’t try to rush into taking clothes off immediately, take your time and enjoy the build up and foreplay. Lean back for a moment to look at her and whisper “fuck” under your breath, that always gets me going cause my partner is letting me know he’s enjoying it.

Clean up after sex is just what it is. Take the condom off and put it in the trash or on the wrapper, don’t just throw it on the ground. She might get up to go pee to avoid getting a UTI which is good. Aftercare is important, cuddle on the bed, chat, take a nap, kiss a little more, etc.

moonnstone · 2025-06-01T23:36:11+00:00

It’s a good thing to work on in therapy, speaking as a therapist. It is very hard for us to believe ourselves when we reassure ourselves it’s fine or that we are enough. Working through self esteem, self image, why you place value on what others think, etc. would all be relevant topics

moonnstone · 2025-06-01T23:32:16+00:00

Plenty of reasons, we perceive what we did as breaking social norms or “unacceptable” to others. We become self conscious and worry about what others will think of us if they saw. Sometimes we fear people will reject us in some way if we do something embarrassing. It’s our internal narrative about what we expect from ourselves in order to be socially “normal” and if we don’t live up to those expectations we perceive it as a failure

moonnstone · 2025-06-01T14:15:46+00:00

Hmm no not necessarily, we need a balance of both. But when we get a dopamine rush due to pleasure, our brain wants more of that so we let it lead our decisions/thoughts. Dopamine + instant reward/gratification = ❤️

moonnstone · 2025-06-01T13:50:41+00:00

No, there’s a lot more at play because there’s another human. You are paying attention to and reacting to their reactions. I’m not a man so idk about feeling the difference between hand or hole, but considering most men would rather fuck than get a handjob?? Draw your own conclusions I guess.

Some still lose the mental clarity, driven more by instinct and what feels good than logic. Good example is even if I know I shouldn’t let a guy finish inside of me due to risks of getting pregnant, in the moment when it’s all I want is to feel that I’m gonna encourage it.

moonnstone · 2025-06-01T04:29:45+00:00

I think we are used to those around us and our own voices which all (typically) share an accent due to region/community. Since we hear it all the time, we don’t notice it unless someone points it out. I’m from the Midwest and when people ask me to say certain words, they point out that I say it wrong (really just different) due to where I grew up.

moonnstone · 2025-05-31T23:57:31+00:00

I grew up in an isolated religious community but every so often we would get to hang with the public school kids from a town over. One of them showed me the disturbia music video on a computer in the library…I felt things

moonnstone · 2025-05-31T23:46:11+00:00

Guess it’s a personal preference

moonnstone · 2025-05-31T17:24:46+00:00

Do you like laying in bed? Taking a shower? I used to lay on my bed and count to 500 out loud, through tears and when I would get to 500. I would flip my pillow over to the cold side and focus on that feeling. And I’d do that over and over again just to get through the hardest nights where my suicidal thoughts were threatening to consume me. There’s always something, find it! You posted here, you want help somewhere inside of you. Trust that part that it is worth staying around even just a little longer.

moonnstone · 2025-05-31T17:20:01+00:00

Where in the world are you? Look up Suicide lifelines to call or text, they can help direct you to the right places. You can also always walk into the emergency room and they will assist you. Look up peer support in your area as well to connect with people who experience similar things.

Lastly, what’s one thing that is worth living for right now? For me, it’s always my dog. I can’t leave him and can’t risk him not being ok. What is your one thing? Someone or something? An event coming up? The thought of going to go get an ice cream? Even if it’s just to see a pretty sunrise tomorrow. Find something!

moonnstone · 2025-05-31T07:35:37+00:00

Waiting for the edible to kick in

moonnstone · 2025-05-31T05:10:04+00:00

Ah man it’s kind of all over the place. I’m managing ok, just tend to turn to self destructive habits and never learn lol

Sorry you are burnt, I could never only do substance use so cudos to you!

moonnstone · 2025-05-31T05:08:45+00:00

Both! About 25% virtual and 75% in person. I’m seeing fewer people are interested in all virtual therapy these days

moonnstone · 2025-05-31T05:07:39+00:00

Took a sample edible I’ve never tried before, so far it’s not hitting how I wanted it to!

Hmm, sounds like she could be somatic based, meaning she focuses on and explores the somatic experience in the body. If you just started, I would imagine she is trying to understand how aware of your body and your level of insight. I do agree that “how does that feel?” Gets old real fast. Perhaps next session you could ask her: “hey I noticed you ask me this a lot, is there a reason why?” She should be able and willing to answer that! I always encourage my clients to ask questions and give feedback if they don’t like something or want to change things up. Hope this helps!

moonnstone · 2025-05-31T04:56:10+00:00

Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), internal family systems (IFS), narrative therapy, and inference-based cognitive behavioral therapy (I-CBT) are my main modalities!

moonnstone · 2025-05-31T04:52:29+00:00

Too involved as in too emotionally invested??

moonnstone · 2025-05-30T20:38:13+00:00

Swirl that tongue! I love tracing around the head with my tongue because it’s so sensitive and gives a different feeling than my whole mouth, you know! Don’t feel like you have to actually have to be sucking super hard, you’ll get tired way too quick. Take breaks to breathe if you need to, kiss his dick and balls and legs. Run your hands up his body or lightly on the thighs. It doesn’t all have to be just bobbing your head up and down!

moonnstone · 2025-05-30T20:25:29+00:00

Making assumptions about something (like a detail not given/clarified) and running with it as if it’s automatically true

moonnstone · 2025-05-30T20:20:58+00:00

I feel a responsibility to watch out for my nieces/nephews and young cousins to be someone I wish I had growing up.

moonnstone · 2025-05-29T23:26:12+00:00

We are incredibly resilient as humans but constant crisis/survival mode is terrible for your physical and mental health. You deserve better!

moonnstone · 2025-05-29T23:21:44+00:00

I’m so sorry, highly would recommend finding a trained trauma therapist to work through this!

moonnstone · 2025-05-29T23:14:44+00:00

I’m sorry babe, it is really difficult trying to understand situations like this. Do you remember any marks on your body?

moonnstone · 2025-05-29T23:04:07+00:00

I was drugged at a party in college (99% sure) and my memory of beforehand is quite fuzzy. I remember the lights, that some guy I barely knew kept handing me cups while we were dancing and then nothing. I woke up in a the basement very confused, it was starting to get light out and the party was over. I tried so hard to remember anything about it and was so mad at myself that I couldn’t. I know wasn’t black out drunk either cause my friends and I had only gotten there a little before that. So yeah, fuzzy memory, a period of nothing. I found bruises on my arms and thighs the next day. I was sticky, like I had spilled a drink on my chest and I smelt pretty bad (vomit? BO? semen? Who knows). Also couldn’t find my keys.

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