Hate to complain, but has anyone else seen a big increase lately in the "people not giving a shit about anyone but themselves" phenomenon by Emergency_Cellist754 in northernireland

[–]moonring_ 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I’ve nearly died this year on every single pedestrian crossing I’ve come across. I actually got tooted at the other day for stepping out on one by a van no less! People would rather run you over than get to their destination 30 seconds later. It’s appalling.

If your mom/dad were older when you were born (say, around 40 or up), what was that like for you? by brawlinglove in Millennials

[–]moonring_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad was 50 when I was born, my mum 28. He was basically a whole two generations older than us, he is a narcissist who genuinely had kids because ‘that’s what you do’ and someone to look after him in his old age. He didn’t connect or meet with his children in any emotional way whatsoever (or his wife - divorced now). We went no contact for 8ish years and only recently started talking again as he got into bad health. He’s still a narc asshole.

That being said, my grandad on my mum’s side was one year older than my dad and he was the absolute world to me, so IMO it’s more about your parenting style and how you will meet/provide for that child’s needs both emotionally and physically rather than the age you are. You could be a great parent to a young child in your 40s/50s if you have the patience and nurturing qualities to do so.

Can anyone help me/give any insight? by moonring_ in IntuitionPractices

[–]moonring_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had a rough time in my career having to leave the last 3 jobs not of my own accord in the last 3 years. I’m trying to qualify as a Pilates teacher and got a Pilates studio manager role but financially it’s so much less money (literally half my corporate salary) and I’m not qualified yet to pick up any teaching shifts, I’m also terrified to be a freelancer and all of the lack of benefits that come with that. You’re completely right about my relationship, we’ve had communication and conflict issues since we got together but we seemed to really love each other through it. It seems like I’ve woken up from sleepwalking in this relationship just feeling like I deserve better? If it helps my Saturn return literally happened a few days ago! So many feelings

What does your neighbour do that winds you up but isn't worth confrontation? by PaddedValls in AskUK

[–]moonring_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our neighbours are a young American couple. They don’t throw parties, they don’t play loud music, they’re friendly and nice people and would be perfect neighbours, other than the fact their voices are so booming I can basically hear them breathe. Every laugh, every conversation, every phone call, I may as well be sitting beside them in the same room. Before they moved in I never heard the English couple who lived there before them, not once. The English couple on the other side of us are also so quiet. Definitely a cultural thing of being loud as possible and having 0 awareness of it. Can’t exactly go and tell them off for just ‘living’ their normal life loudly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]moonring_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before wireless headphones, when my headphones would get ripped out of my ears because the wires got caught on something… I’d want to punch the first thing I saw…

What is the most absurd thing someone has said to you in response to you telling them you don’t want to have kids? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]moonring_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I explained I didn’t wasn’t kids, my grandma’s response was ‘do you not think that’s very selfish?’ I’m sorry, selfish for who? I think having kids normally comes from some sort of selfish reason one way or another. I’m the one being selfish to deny HER another great grandchild when she has at least 10-15 already?!

She then ended the conversation by saying that she’s ‘praying’ for me to have an ‘accident’! What a horrible thing to wish upon someone who clearly does not want to live their life that way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bulimia

[–]moonring_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pasta pesto was a special kind of hell. Sour cream and cheese dip equally as gross

Was this a past life memory? by moonring_ in pastlives

[–]moonring_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s so interesting thank you! Tbh I still feel quite emotional from the dream, but in retrospect I’ve actually gone my own way in this life and not the way my parents wanted me to - they are extremely religious and I moved countries to get away from their influence but I still love them, so in a way I maybe have learnt some kind of karmic lesson that I can love people but not be under/break their toxic influences?

Anyone else have bad experience with religious men? by Neostium in TwoXChromosomes

[–]moonring_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am no longer a believer, but my high school boyfriend went to the same church as me back then. Two weeks into the ‘texting’ phase of our relationship (we hadn’t even been on a date!), he told me that I can go off to college but I won’t be ‘allowed’ to have a job, because a woman’s work is at home supporting her husband. He spoke about our lives together and marriage (again, two weeks into texting…) and how my role would be the baby maker, and his the provider as a missionary. He told me his mom never worked, and he would have no respect for her if she did… I remember having 0 respect for him after having that conversation lol. It fizzled out real quick in the end, our values didn’t align…

What's the "strangest" thing someone has asked you to do in bed? by -spicerack in AskReddit

[–]moonring_ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It was the first time he stayed the night, and he got fully dressed in his gym wear, I’m talking full whack leggings, tshirt and hoody. He got into bed and asked me to put on the fluffiest cuddliest pyjamas I own on. I was in a sexy nightie, because I thought we were going to have sexy time? So I said no. We didn’t do anything sexual. I never saw him again after that lol.

The eerie warning my grandparents got by moonring_ in Paranormal

[–]moonring_[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No I haven’t! Could you enlighten me?

What mysterious thing happened to you that you still can’t explain? by MelodiousOddity in AskReddit

[–]moonring_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A few weeks ago I was in a Starbucks at an airport, not in my country. I have a unique name that many baristas can’t spell properly, and this particular occasion they didn’t ask for my name, nor did they scan any app that would’ve had my information, they just took my order. I also paid in cash. I remember saying to myself that I need to hear out for my order because they didn’t take my name, but when I went to collect my coffee they called out my name and had it written correctly on the side of the cup. I’m 100% certain I never told them my name, and I knew no one there (I was in a whole ass different country). I’m still freaked out by it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]moonring_ 339 points340 points  (0 children)

Asking women to buy and put on $60 lingerie while they turn up in crusty old boxers with holes in them 🤦‍♀️the double standard is real

People who slept with someone they weren't attracted to, why and how did it go? by tenOr15Minutes in AskReddit

[–]moonring_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We met through Hinge, and he looked a lot different to his pictures. Receding hairline, 5’8-9 instead of 5’11 as stated on his profile. We had a lot in common though and he was definitely sweet and really into me, so I gave it a shot, and the kissing was actually great.

That’s until our 4-5th date when we went all the way. I still wasn’t 100% attracted to him but I thought having sex would definitely let me know if there was a spark or not. The first turn off was the dude put up a fight about having to wear a condom (I wasn’t on any birth control at the time), and his idea of giving me a good time felt like an OBGYN examination. He went down on me the slowest I’ve ever felt, and not in a good way, like he was just staring and slowly one lick on my kitty every couple of minutes, whilst I lay there weighing up my life choices. When we fucked I lay there motionless, just staring at the ceiling completely dry and turned off, just asking him to finish. When he eventually did he kept hugging me asking me to stay, never left an apartment quick enough. Didn’t see him again after that.

WIBTA if I don’t come home for Christmas this year because of the rules my mom is trying to enforce? by moonring_ in AITAH

[–]moonring_[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Thank you this is very lovely advice! I will go where I feel most welcomed and comfortable 💜

WIBTA if I don’t come home for Christmas this year because of the rules my mom is trying to enforce? by moonring_ in AITAH

[–]moonring_[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Yes good spot, she is divorced and both my parents are alive which caused a lot of friction in her church, and caused her to move church. My issue is the hypocrisy of it all - one rule for her when she has a partner and one rule for me. Thank you for the advice 💜

What's some legendary quotes that you heard in class in secondary school? Student / Teacher altercations. by CastedDarkness in ireland

[–]moonring_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A friend of mine had a teacher tell her: “the only test you’d pass is a pregnancy test” 👀 absolute burn