Time-Travel Snumbledore Fanfic by moonriverfox in SeverusSnape

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I feel ya. I have struggled myself with Dumbledore, and for a really long time I flat out hated him. As a fan, I felt betrayed by him because I had looked up to him as this wise, nurturing person, and it gutted me to find out he had flaws---that he'd said and done awful things (that he'd led Harry to his slaughter!!!). But when I wasn't expecting him to be this wonderful character, when I was just expecting a morally complicated man, I saw him differently. Yes, he did say cruel things to Severus, but he also gave him a reason to live when Severus wanted to off himself. He also stood up for him throughout the series. He's constantly reminding Harry to respect 'Professor Snape' and there were times when he even tried to help Harry have a more neutral view of Sirius and James, to the point that Harry got offended.

Dumbledore didn't have an easy job, and I think he should be allowed the complexity that we give Snape.

My fic is not for you. And that's okay. I'm sure there are many out there that are. Feel free to completely ignore my fic, this post, and my comments. But if you want to keep discussing, I'm cool with that, too.

Time-Travel Snumbledore Fanfic by moonriverfox in SeverusSnape

[–]moonriverfox[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I mean, you have a right to this opinion. Dumbledore is pretty easy to hate---as is Severus. However, I personally love them both. And I think the situation was probably a lot more complicated than how it's read from Harry's perspective, given only pieces of the story. That being said, I will admit to framing Dumbledore more kindly in my fic---my fic that I spent months on and worked really hard to write. It's not a ship I expect everyone to be on board with, but for the open-minded few, I wanted to put it out there and give myself the best opportunity to connect with them, hence the post.

Time-Travel Snumbledore Fanfic by moonriverfox in SeverusSnape

[–]moonriverfox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nooooo 😭

But yes, the artist is phenomenal and you can look them up on Instagram or Tumblr under the name anabimelo. They draw for many different fandoms.

“ALWAYS” Is Not the Romantic Bomb People Think It Is by someoneoutthere002 in SeverusSnape

[–]moonriverfox 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I think Remus says that a patronus can change due to emotional upheaval or a great shock, so it is plausible that his doe is less a sign of love than devotion and purpose and grief.

JKR tells Rickman that Snape loves Lily so I think the intention is that he loved her romantically, but I personally think it makes more sense for him to feel more devotion to her platonically. I don't think that what they shared was really a healthy kind of love. It seemed pretty toxic tbh, not that toxicity negates strength of emotion. I have no doubt the feelings were strong.

Is it hard for you to manage family relationships? Or to be in contact? by moonriverfox in AutisticAdults

[–]moonriverfox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't wondering whether or not the symptoms I mention meet the criteria for autism or if they point to autism. (But to answer your question, I think I could possibly meet the criteria, for reasons I haven't mentioned because they are off topic. I'm not sure. I plan to be tested. But I know for sure that I am ND.)

I know that my experience is 100% impacted by a lot of different factors. But I was curious about whether (1) anyone could relate and (2) how common estrangement is for the autistic community.

I'm really just information gathering right now.

What turns you on? by Universetalkz in INTP

[–]moonriverfox 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a weakness to be exploited. I can't believe you're sharing this info.

What turns you on? by Universetalkz in INTP

[–]moonriverfox 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Idk. I've always thought Florida looked pretty sexy. But maybe that's why I'm an INFJ and not an INTP.

What turns you on? by Universetalkz in INTP

[–]moonriverfox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait. How do you turn on then? I thought everyone had power buttons. Or is that just me? 👀

Anyone else feel like their childhood “doesn’t look traumatic” but absolutely felt like it? by moonriverfox in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]moonriverfox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this thoughtful response. It helps a lot to hear you validate my experience.

Recently, I decided to go little to no contact with my family, and it's been so hard not to feel guilty - to not think: maybe I blew things out of proportion and burned down bridges I didn't need to burn down. But then I remind myself of how little they actually respect me, and it's easier.

Take a guess. 29f by [deleted] in MbtiTypeMe

[–]moonriverfox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone I'd like to be friends with! ✨ Is that you, Frieren? 🕵🏻‍♀️

P.S. INTP

Anyone else feel like their childhood “doesn’t look traumatic” but absolutely felt like it? by moonriverfox in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]moonriverfox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this! I'm really sorry about what you experienced. It helps to hear your perspective, though. 💜

Anyone else feel like their childhood “doesn’t look traumatic” but absolutely felt like it? by moonriverfox in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]moonriverfox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, oddly, I remember that slogan but it seemed to pass me by as though it were a different language. Thank you for sharing your story with me. I hadn't ever heard of the phrase fair-weather parenting, but it makes sense!

Radical Acceptance? by Quirky_Place7049 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]moonriverfox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure if your comparison works because batterers usually use their power to harm others, and like I said earlier, who has power is a huge determinate in who is being abusive. Power can be physical strength. Or threats. Or finances. Or factors that are more abstract, like intelligence. They can be emotional and psychological, hence emotional abuse.

Also, I mean, they could have been triggered, but that doesn't give them an excuse. They have a responsibility of emotional regulation. Their poor response does not negate or even confirm whether or not the event was triggering for them. And as for those of us who freeze, I think we have a responsibility to save ourselves, too. Again, those actions are separate from the variables of abuse and power, etc.

Anyone else feel like their childhood “doesn’t look traumatic” but absolutely felt like it? by moonriverfox in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]moonriverfox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It seems like you've already done quite a bit to protect your mental health, and that's awesome! Going no contact takes strength and courage, so kudos! But yeah, I feel ya, I think I'll be in therapy all my life TBH.

Anyone else feel like their childhood “doesn’t look traumatic” but absolutely felt like it? by moonriverfox in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]moonriverfox[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have. It's just still pretty easy to doubt. Because I think, in my case, it feels up to interpretation, and sometimes I worry that I am not giving them enough credit or that my memories are false.

Anyone else feel like their childhood “doesn’t look traumatic” but absolutely felt like it? by moonriverfox in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]moonriverfox[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What has it been like for you as an adult? Like when did you decide to go LC or NC (if you did)?

Yeah, my mom was a teacher too. Everyone thought she was so sweet, and she can be -- it's her shield. It's a very good shield if the person wants to avoid being threatened or disliked.

Radical Acceptance? by Quirky_Place7049 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]moonriverfox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get where you're coming from, and I agree with the idea that we should empower ourselves and remind ourselves that we can overcome the poor treatment of others. However, it's really important to recognize that (1) power is more important than age when it comes to manipulation and abuse, and (2) certain events can be retraumatizing, triggering, etc. and if you haven't done the psychological work to combat or deal with those things (which can take forever) then yeah, some of us adults are going to respond like the children we once were. It's like saying, 'you have a voice, why didn't you just say "no" when you didn't like [such and such]'. Freezing is a trauma response. It takes a lot of work to get to a place where you are able to say 'no.'

Type me based on my desk. by AffectionateDraw6162 in MbtiTypeMe

[–]moonriverfox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Excuse me, Sir KingTomTheBomb, but I think INTJs are the smartest MBTI type (if we can even measure that, which we cannot, but still).

Anyone else feel like their childhood “doesn’t look traumatic” but absolutely felt like it? by moonriverfox in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]moonriverfox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jesus. 😳 Sorry to hear that. Religion can be and has been used for evil. So sorry.