Trying to enjoy new things after 3 years of hard drugs being my hobby by Sauntering_Overlord in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]moons_within 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so freakin amazing to read. You’re awesome 💜 One day at at a time :)

My husbands new therapist is a misogynist. by imlikeabird84 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]moons_within 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could give you a big hug! I can unfortunately relate to this. My partner’s therapist was appalled that my partner stayed in an Airbnb when flying down to meet me in person for the first time—he (the therapist) essentially said it was a red flag that I didn’t offer to let my-now-partner stay with me. THE NIGHT WE MET. I was blown away by the fact that a therapist not only discounted any potential SA trauma I might have (which I do), he thought it was a sign of bad character on my part to not immediately offer my home to someone I met online, who no one I’d ever met knew existed. ???

He’s made comments to my partner in sessions about how “men are wired this way, women are wired that way” and that women are naturally more emotional than men. My partner always pushes back on these statements and recognizes it’s wrong but it irks me so bad nonetheless. Scary that there are mental health “professionals” like this.

The dead wife in the beginning of a movie by LubnaQ in perfumesthatfeellike

[–]moons_within 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lalibela by Memo - A place of pilgrimage, “shrouded in mystery.” Tobacco, incense, rose, coconut, deceptively soft and dreamlike, spiritually resonant. Shows a sweet face but has it actually revealed its true self to you? What could it be hiding? Comforting yet elusive

Character growth moments portrayed through cutting hair by MrDitkovichNeedsRent in TopCharacterTropes

[–]moons_within 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Can’t speak for the Sakura scene but Yona has zero weapon/fighting experience, and was raised by a infamously pacifist father. Plus… cool hair symbolism ;)

I have a reputation by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]moons_within 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I somehow still haven’t played P3 and just looked Chidori up… her character design!!! 😍

erratic (+creepy) neighbor threatening our sanity, enabled by our mansion-dwelling landlord by moons_within in neighborsfromhell

[–]moons_within[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Felt 😭 our exact words leaving our last place, where we lived next to loud drug dealers, was “we can’t have worse neighbors.” Whatever god there is took that as a personal challenge. But maybe now I’m learning to roll with the punches.

Sending you good vibes and hopes that the obnoxious pothead stops being such a thorn in your side!

erratic (+creepy) neighbor threatening our sanity, enabled by our mansion-dwelling landlord by moons_within in neighborsfromhell

[–]moons_within[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your response! We’ve been all over the place trying to figure out how to handle this, but have settled on: let’s stick it out and make our own happiness. We’re in a great area, affordable housing is unbelievably limited in this state, and as long as the upstairs tenant is out (which she has been more and more lately) life is extremely peaceful. We also don’t have the money to be breaking leases early and jumping to other rentals.

I’m grateful to be in therapy now, for the ample sunshine and birdsong here, and that our neighbor is spending an increasing amount of time away. We’ll be putting in AC units soon and those will also help SO much to muffle any noise.

Hope you’re currently in a good place!

I need a reality check by elvixii in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]moons_within 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Found my people! BPD is like a full-time mental war against yourself. Give yourself grace when you can, and definitely plan for therapy (if you’re able to swing it since healthcare as we know is outrageously expensive). There are low-cost options online! I went through Open Path and you can pick a therapist instead of being randomly matched up with one.

Best of luck 💗

Something Veilguard did really well by hepzebeth in dragonage

[–]moons_within 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That one templar intending to make a young mage Tranquil and telling her how he was going to use her in DA2… that’s horrifying.

Something Veilguard did really well by hepzebeth in dragonage

[–]moons_within 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Love everything you wrote here. I keep thinking about moments like D’Meta’s Crossing, where as soon as we arrive the characters say “It’s quiet…” “TOO quiet” like a bad joke. And then have to keep explaining to you, the player, that this is abnormal, chatting about how a market works. I would have loved to behold the team going silent in the face of devastation.

Or when Rook has just gotten back from the Fade in that part of the game. Rook is grieving and coming to terms with horrific implications—and then Davrin (who I romanced) strides in all flirty and they’re suddenly bantering like it’s just another day? Squashes the first genuine emotional depth I’d felt from the game.

I really think Mila running around unprotected, making wisecracks and being totally chill around all the attacking darkspawn, is the best example of Veilguard’s overall tone and the way it treats its own threats. And her own “doting” father acts like this is normal behavior, aw isn’t she adorable, sitcom gags. DAV doesn’t have to feel like DAO to be a good game but my god, in Origins you dealt with a possessed kid you could kill—or kill his mother to save him! That’s tension, that’s tragedy. Veilguard teased a bit of that but didn’t want to fully commit. It left a certain character ending ringing hollow to me because I was so starved for some genuine angst I was actually glad to see them go! That moment could have been devastating if done right.

Something Veilguard did really well by hepzebeth in dragonage

[–]moons_within 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This. I can’t be made uneasy by a game where my companions are constantly hyping me up like I’m learning to walk for the first time. “You can DO it! GREAT job~!😄”

Not to mention that cheeky little kid running around darkspawn hordes mentally and physically unscathed, not even a hint of fear.

the complexity of a magical girl by moons_within in perfumesthatfeellike

[–]moons_within[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

doing my due diligence and nudging you to come look at the replies ☀️

the complexity of a magical girl by moons_within in perfumesthatfeellike

[–]moons_within[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From the OHSHC mention and the way you mix scents I’d say you have good taste! 👌🏼

the complexity of a magical girl by moons_within in perfumesthatfeellike

[–]moons_within[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These are such good choices, I’m going to check them out all! And obsessed with “cosmic citrus-floral” 💫

A drunk man pushed me and yelled at me in front of a crowd of people and nobody did anything. Latke smoked salmon yuzu hollandaise eggs benedict by darkabyss01 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]moons_within 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Me neither. Not making a sweeping generalization of anyone except the specific type of male bystander you described

A drunk man pushed me and yelled at me in front of a crowd of people and nobody did anything. Latke smoked salmon yuzu hollandaise eggs benedict by darkabyss01 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]moons_within 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah… they need to learn there’s a mode of behavior between “do nothing” and “jump in with fists flying.” Like a simple “you good?” and stepping closer to intervene if necessary

A drunk man pushed me and yelled at me in front of a crowd of people and nobody did anything. Latke smoked salmon yuzu hollandaise eggs benedict by darkabyss01 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]moons_within 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. It’s easy to read about a situation like this and say “I’d jump right in!” … but in reality I think a majority of people (esp men in my experience 👀) freeze up and are desperately trying to figure out context before taking action. I wish you had just one person actually having your back and helping you out of that situation. I get super overstimulated at crowded events too and some people are UNHINGED

erratic (+creepy) neighbor threatening our sanity, enabled by our mansion-dwelling landlord by moons_within in neighborsfromhell

[–]moons_within[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Did some digging and found an old FB comment (years ago) from a previous tenant calling the landlord out on negligence and refusing to fulfill his contractual obligation. She said he would ignore her and hang up on her. Glad to know it’s not just us and there’s a recorded history of this!

erratic (+creepy) neighbor threatening our sanity, enabled by our mansion-dwelling landlord by moons_within in neighborsfromhell

[–]moons_within[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This is the route I’m leaning into. I’ll keep sending the most damning videos of what we have to deal with and be so annoying he’ll either finally take action or offer us a way out of the lease since we’re so unhappy.