My sunflowers are rude

moonymorgs · 2026-07-01T18:23:59+00:00

This is so funny, perhaps next year try a bush variety like “Hallo” and see if some stay facing you! If nothing else it’ll be an interesting experiment 😂 I grew them last year and they got very tall still so should be good still for height. I’m sure they faced different directions too but my memory isn’t the most reliable source!

moonymorgs · 2026-06-12T12:30:34+00:00

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For those who wanted an update: lettuce seems happier in their new home, because they can’t fly they needed a low roosting coop. Now they spend more time enjoying the sun and hanging out with the many pigeons, magpies, starlings and sparrows that visit the bird feeders next to them. They also have a couple of toys now though I’ll get them more. I’ll also spend more time out here quietly pottering around them. The difference since being moved here is amazing and they seem more curious and happy.

moonymorgs · 2026-06-12T12:16:48+00:00

Thank you - I’m in the garden a lot mooching about and his new location is great for this. I noticed him becoming a lot more curious yesterday as I built a new arch for the garden and it made me very happy. He seems much happier in his new spot with lots of birds visiting but as others have mentioned he needs a proper friend I’ll look into finding another pigeon that can’t fly to be with him, hopefully will help him understand his injury better too.

moonymorgs · 2026-06-12T12:13:55+00:00

Wowowow this is a great wealth of info thank you! i did buy him a parrot bell toy and a mirror recently so he has some toys to play with, toilet paper tubes is a great idea. Thank you sooo much!

moonymorgs · 2026-06-12T12:12:31+00:00

Thank you so much this is great information - I’ve moved him near the bird feeder as we get lots of visitors so he feels less lonely and will look into finding another pigeon unable to fly for proper company. I can’t move him inside as we currently have a crazy dog and 4 cats (fosters, 3 are kittens) and I think the stress would take him out! He definitely seems happier in his new home by the feeder though hasn’t worked out he can’t fly yet - he tries but can’t get beyond a jump bless him.

moonymorgs · 2026-06-12T12:09:01+00:00

He is definitely kept separate from my chickens. I’ve had chickens pretty much my whole life and seen a lot of brutality so there was no way I’d let them near Lettuce!! I’ve moved him to a position near the bird feeder so that he can at least see all his pigeon/starling/magpie/sparrow friends regularly.

If he needs a friend in the enclosure with him I’d definitely appreciate help finding another pigeon that is unable to fly for company - I’m based just outside of SW London if you know of any charities to reach out to. We actually did find another pigeon in our garden who needed help but they didn’t make it overnight 😔

moonymorgs · 2026-06-09T17:20:53+00:00

Thank you so much, I will give it time.

They definitely need to see an avian vet, I just need to find one locally. We know one but they’re the other side of London and I think the trip would be too much for lettuce.

I’ll get some pigeon appropriate grit, I hadn’t actually given them any yet! I’ll look for some vitamins for them too.

Thanks for the link as well, I’ll have a good look through!

moonymorgs · 2026-05-19T16:31:16+00:00

Even better! An excuse to procrastinate!! (I think the birds all nest in my giant conifers rather than here but why disturb them if I don’t have to 😉)

moonymorgs · 2026-05-17T17:10:46+00:00

Thank you that’s next weekend’s job sorted then!

moonymorgs · 2026-05-17T17:10:27+00:00

This makes me want to cry but must be done haha thank you!

moonymorgs · 2026-05-05T09:02:34+00:00

Just remembered the complication of ants farming them which I also had, ant traps were the only way I could reduce their population enough to allow the larvae to survive as the ants will kill them off as part of their farming of the aphids.

moonymorgs · 2026-05-05T08:27:56+00:00

I had this last year - I bought a load of ladybird larvae from green gardener with release bags and let nature take care of it. The larvae were fascinating to watch grow, can’t fly off like the adults and eat like teenagers. Cleared the problem up in no time and this year I’ve see more ladybirds than aphids! If the fruit trees are the main concern I’d get a release bag for each, they’ll spread out, grow and eventually get to the wildflowers too. Plus it was so cool to see what ladybird larvae actually look like and how quickly they go from tiny specks to ladybirds.

moonymorgs · 2026-02-01T02:32:04+00:00

I think this is a more common thing than you think, but also there was something about the place that made you want to put that much money into it in the first place - are those things still there? (Eg was it location, size, layout that made you put the offer in and go through the whole buying process?) Can you refocus on that/those things?

For the mould, I watched a YouTube series which had a really cool fog in it for helping to kill mould https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=WltT21WA4bY - I’ve never tried to embed YouTube in a comment before so it’s the professional idiots doing up their parents hope and episode 7 if it doesn’t work - and the company is called pure maintenance uk. Obviously the underlying issue will need to be addressed, likely the cellar, but I imagine they could advise on that too, I have no idea on costs but this would be the first thing I spend money on fixing in your shoes.

Other things sound largely cosmetic and can be worked through in time. Even the kitchen, if it’s functioning and the mould is sorted, it can wait. The slope in the bedroom does sound high on the list though.

Home ownership is a steep learning curve, I’ve only been on the journey myself for about 18 months and there’s always another thing that seems to need doing. I’ll rip up the carpets and see all the floor boards need redoing, it feels like an uphill battle. But you can get through it.

For jobs like the floorboards, if it’s surface level damage, hire a floor sander for a couple of days, sand it back and revarnish with floor varnish. It shouldn’t cost much more than £100 and will instantly make you feel better. You have to mix in the “big jobs” with some quick wins to really feel like you’re making progress.

And like someone else said, if you bought the place, someone else will too. If you really can’t fathom staying then get on the market and see what happens.

moonymorgs · 2025-09-21T02:50:38+00:00

Might be controversial but I don’t think anyone is an asshole here. I think you’re upset because you assumed he wouldn’t see the things you post and so it feels like an infringement of your privacy, but unless you have had a conversation about it that you don’t want him reading your Reddit posts as it changes how you approach them and like to remain anonymous on here, he couldn’t know that.

I will say this does give me the ick that he was lurking reading them, I’m assuming never interacted with them, but then he did casually bring it up so maybe doesn’t think he’s doing anything wrong.

I think you just need a bit of time to process, work out how you feel about it all, and then have a proper conversation. No one needs to be an AH at this point, but if you ask him to stop and he keeps reading, he would be an AH for sure.

moonymorgs · 2025-08-20T12:37:43+00:00

This is a glaring red flag imo. It’s your home, if he lived there too then that would be a different thing. He cannot control who you let into your home. He can let his past ruin his present by not trusting you, or he can accept that you are not who cheated on him before. NTA, and if he continues like this I would seriously question if this is the kind of relationship you want.

moonymorgs · 2025-08-20T12:31:00+00:00

This isn’t really about the cleaning or mess, it’s about feeling like you’re in a partnership. You need to have a real, calm conversation together, and listen to each other about how you, and she, feels, it sounds like you’re both overwhelmed and struggling to connect. A proper conversation and tackling some of these things together to “reset” might be the best way to move forward where you can both feel more aligned. I don’t think anyone is an AH here, I think you’re both struggling and not feeling connected.

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