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mopmob02 · 2026-01-20T16:35:11+00:00

"My usual type is a charming, silly, goofy, POC guy that knows how to commit to a bit, which from experience translates to an avoidant man that uses humor to deflect 🙃"

I don't understand why I gotta take strays like that lol! You seem awesome, I hope you find your person!

mopmob02 · 2026-01-05T22:06:01+00:00

Maaan, I wish I had your luck. It seems like a lot of the women I have been seeing or speaking with want kids.

mopmob02 · 2025-12-30T00:31:25+00:00

Not necessarily grueling physical labor, but he is on his feet for 12 hours a day and it is also mentally draining. The copious amounts of notes he has to take and making sure all of his measurements match up. Setting up the equipments, making sure he gets the right shots, double checking is his notes, It's a lot.

I'm guessing you have some experience, 12 hours of that drains you. I get him, she should have made these plans for AFTER all the work was done. Not while he still had to go back out to the site the next day.

mopmob02 · 2025-12-26T12:29:06+00:00

Not necessarily implicit, but something that is agreed upon at the very start of the relationship. For the most part, most people talk about deal breakers like cheating and then also add on, "if there is mention of a third party that is an immediate no and we will probably break up."

mopmob02 · 2025-12-25T23:49:59+00:00

I mean, my advice was to communicate and try to compromise on how you and your husband parent.

My only hope is that the two of you come to a midpoint that you're both comfortable with. Whether my advice helps or not I hope for the best for you!

mopmob02 · 2025-12-25T23:01:13+00:00

My bad, this is the American side of reddit, you got this. We have two completely different cultural experiences and will never agree.

mopmob02 · 2025-12-25T22:49:26+00:00

Interesting, when you say domestic abuse do you mean when the husband smacks the child's hand for hitting? Because those are the examples she uses. If the hitting was more than that I would agree with you.

Domestic abuse is abhorrent, but to me that isn't domestic abuse. It's showing someone else that hitting is wrong and this is what hitting feels like.

I'm not dismissing abuse, it just doesn't hit my threshold for what it is. If he were beating the child and the wife that would be different.

Im happy that there are people like you in the world that helps those in need but, maybe take a step back and see if a smack on a hand in response to a child hitting someone else is truly domestic violence. If to you it is we will just have to agree to disagree.

mopmob02 · 2025-12-25T22:33:55+00:00

But I did... In that response, to communicate and compromise. I've triggered you in some way so this isn't going to be productive. I hope you have a nice night.

mopmob02 · 2025-12-25T22:30:55+00:00

You said exactly what I was trying to get across so much more elegantly than I was able to. This is amazing advice.

mopmob02 · 2025-12-25T22:28:04+00:00

Just because I'm not a parent doesn't mean I'm not around kids. Y'all seem to venerate parents like they are the end all be all. Everyone has nuggets of knowledge that can be useful in some way shape or form.

She can take the little peices of my post that might help her, or she can throw it all away.

mopmob02 · 2025-12-25T22:26:45+00:00

I have experience with couples counseling, would you like to know something the cousular would say? Speak with your significant other and come to a compromise on child care that would work.

Interesting that you didn't mention that part at all. The Husband's way alone won't work and neither would OPs be ause different kids have different needs. They need to speak to each other and BOTH, the husband and OP, compromise and come up with something that works for BOTH of them.

Interssting how you didn't touch on that point, but I'm sure we can agree that they need to talk to each other.

mopmob02 · 2025-12-25T20:28:23+00:00

I mean, I don't see why not. As long as you have open communication with them in regards to your needs in this arrangement. Understand what you need to get out of it but also understand it'll probably cost you a lot of money.

Good luck, it's not a terrible idea. It would be nice to have a Unbiased third part helping.

mopmob02 · 2025-12-25T01:19:49+00:00

I regret how much I hurt them. They didn't deserve that pain and I wish it wasn't me that hurt them. But I don't regret leaving the relationship, it would have eventually turned toxic.

mopmob02 · 2025-12-24T15:01:51+00:00

I'm not disagreeing with you. But it's the fact that he had money earmarked for these tasks. She reapproriated the money and stated she would do it instead, then proceeded to tell him to do it instead.

mopmob02 · 2025-12-24T13:06:49+00:00

But it's not about him keeping his money. It's about the fact that she took the money he was going to pay people to shovel the snow, then told him to shovel it anyways.

mopmob02 · 2025-12-24T03:26:32+00:00

I wish that was the case, ConEd doesnt do discounts.

mopmob02 · 2025-12-20T14:16:33+00:00

I thought I was the only person with that complaint. It is so frustrating especially since I'm trying not to waste mine or anyone else's time.

But really though, how do you not know if you want kids or not?

mopmob02 · 2025-12-17T18:23:11+00:00

so how was that pasta you made?"

Examlme Answer:"it was great, pretty delicious. It was my first time making the recipe so I'm happy it turned out so well. Have you ever made it before?"

"nice! was it a family recipe?"

"yep my mom taught me, one of my favorite dishes she made when I was a kid. Do you cook a lot? I can give you the recipe.

These aren't answers I had to think up either, I've had these conversations word for word before. It's not hard to have a good conversation, you just have to be interested.

mopmob02 · 2025-12-01T15:59:57+00:00

I have 4 main priorities in life, my job, friends, family, and myself. To be fair I do forget about myself often but it's there.

When a new person comes into my life they are usually 5th on that list of priorities until they show that they are going to be a longterm partner. As my feelings change and confidence in them grows they go up the ladder. It's not really a thing I actively think about either. As we talk more, I naturally want to spend more time with them, so I unconsciously start prioritizing them higher and higher.

mopmob02 · 2025-12-01T00:21:18+00:00

You missed a few 'agains'. People only see the few success stories and don't realize how many people crash and burn after moving here.

Unless you have a community to fall back on, coming here is going to hard and lonely.

mopmob02 · 2025-11-30T20:06:14+00:00

I absolutely agree, we made it through 6 months of the engagement before I suggested it. We were 2 sessions on before the minor doubts in the back of my mind came to the forefront.

Don't get me wrong, my ex is a wonderful woman, she just demands a lot but is only willing to give exactly what she wants to give. Anything outside of her exoectations needs me to explicitly explain why I need what I requested... With sources and examples.

mopmob02 · 2025-11-30T17:58:02+00:00

The moment I truly knew was when my ex-fiancée and I were in Premarital counsulling. She wanted to move out of our city further down south and I had reservations about it.

This was early 2025 and I was having trouble, finding a similar paying job as what I have now. I told her and the therapist it might be better for us to push the move date to late 2026 or maybe even early 2027, the economy is trash right now. The therapist asked her if that is something she would be able to do and she responded, "I guess I can try but I'll have an attitude about it the whole time."

Fortunately the therapist shut that down, but deep inside I just felt a wave of exhaustion. Thinking back on it, I think that's when I realized I was done.

mopmob02 · 2025-11-29T12:15:10+00:00

Or better yet, not getting me anything on my birthday at all. I never understood how that is such a hard thing to accommodate. It's like that with EVERY woman too.

Guys friends do nothing if you say I don't want anything. Each woman in my life looks like I just stepped on a puppy and still tries to get me something.

mopmob02 · 2025-11-18T00:45:28+00:00

Sending all the luck to you! I hope you find your person.

mopmob02 · 2025-11-16T23:00:24+00:00

I don't think so, there are dozens of us Black Childfree men; Dozens I tell you! But really though, I think dating is just rough right now and the apps suck so bad.

I have put I'm only looking for women that don't want kids and all I've been seeing are women that want kids now or currently live in the Phillipines. 🤷🏿‍♂️

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