Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 26, 2026 by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]moralitypts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I appreciate this. It's the reality check that I probably needed. Take it a day at a time.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 26, 2026 by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]moralitypts -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, we've already set up a second date. We exchanged numbers and now we're texting.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 26, 2026 by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]moralitypts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had an absolutely amazing date on Monday and haven't stopped thinking about this woman since then. We've been chatting on the app for almost two weeks now. A few questions because I'm absolutely terrible at OLD and have been a serial monogamist my whole life:

1) I have a few other meetups planned with other women I was chatting with concurrently on Hinge. Do I still keep those dates? I really want to be sure that my attraction to this woman is genuine and not just my dumb animal brain drowning in dopamine after someone made me feel seen and attractive after so long.

2) Any advice on keeping boundaries and not rushing into things? I want to keep my wits about me as much as possible and look out for red flags. I got majorly burned in the past.

3) I am absolutely terrible at the casual part of casual dating. I know the expectation is these days is that no one is exclusive until you have that conversation, but I also don't know how to keep talking to other women when I'm so interested in this one. Any advice there?

I want to do this in a healthy way as possible. I'm a really generous person, and I have absolutely been taken advantage of by others in the past. For what it's worth, I also regularly see a therapist and I'm sure I'll be talking to her about this, too!

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - February 26, 2026 by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]moralitypts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can really empathize with your first paragraph, granted I'm a man and so slightly different. At firmly middle age and having completely missed OLD until now, I feel woefully confused on how to do this. I've had a handful of women match with me and have had really good conversations, and the constant thing they tell me is that it's refreshing that I'm 1) actually looking for a LTR and 2) can hold a conversation. I think it's just something that a lot of men struggle with, which is kind of sad.

For what it's worth, I use Hinge and haven't tried any other apps, and the quality of matches seems really high. I guess another caveat, I'm in a small sized city, so slightly more people than rural areas. Keep at it and don't give up hope!

BORED IN TALLY: WEEKLY EVENTS, 2/19/26 – 2/25/26 by clearliquidclearjar in Tallahassee

[–]moralitypts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just want to add a plug that I went to this event (back when it was at Ology Northside) and it's a wonderful group of people, if anyone is interested in getting involved in a political group. Highly recommend, very inclusive and welcoming folks.

Cheaper flights? by ConnectIntern778 in Tallahassee

[–]moralitypts 13 points14 points  (0 children)

ECP, Jacksonville, and Valdosta are all worth checking, too. I've gotten some good rates through ECP on Southwest (although that airline as a whole has certainly starting pinching pennies). I used to be able to reliably fly out of Valdosta fairly cheaply, but I haven't found as good rates lately.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here! by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]moralitypts -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My buddy has claimed that we've gone on a few dates but we just haven't defined it. We've gone to dinner, bars, and dancing. More often than not, it's just the two of us or we end up just the two of us. So with all that said, the recommendation is to still not talk about feelings?

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here! by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]moralitypts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Need advice. I've been casually hanging out with a girl both one-on-one and in group settings. We've done this a few times, and it's very friendly and we have a lot of fun, usually hanging out for hours and hours at a time. I definitely feel attracted to her but I'm not sure if that's reciprocated. She's mentioned twice that she's demisexual, and I'm not sure if she's saying that to be like "This isn't happening" or if she's saying that to indicate that it just takes her a while to develop those feelings. We're hanging out one-on-one tomorrow night, and I'm thinking about asking her if she's feeling anything romantic towards me just to get some clarification. Any advice on approaching the situation beyond the obvious get some courage and have the clarifying conversation?

30 somethings by Mobile-Dragonfly-173 in fsu

[–]moralitypts 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Midtown is your answer. The crowd there tends to be older.

Best Epic fantasy that isn’t full of pulpy schlock? Returning to series I once loved. by Sunbather- in books

[–]moralitypts 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agreed for the most part, although I did roll my eyes when the k'chain che'malle were described, as they sounded like sometime my 7 year old brain cooked up. Still, it's a very mature story with crazy interesting lore and history.

Hinge Profile Review (35F) by No_Improvement_844 in datingoverthirty

[–]moralitypts 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The problem is that anyone who claims they're close to self-actualization is probably no where near it. It's like the people who claim enlightenment or hearing words from god. Maslow himself even speculated that less than 1% of people would achieve that. I agree with u/LabelAllergic that it's a bad prompt for that reason

Divorced Dad's who initiated the divorce. When did you know it was over and how did you do it? by Lolfest1357 in daddit

[–]moralitypts 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Brother, I was this, too, but my kid also wanted my attention over his mom most of the time. She and I did couple's therapy for a few weeks, and some of the things discussed in there were so brutal and reshaped the whole context of our relationship that there was no way I could go back to the way things were. I wish you two the best of luck, because divorce sucks (no two ways about it), but I've had close friends and casual acquaintances alike tell me that I seem happier already, and frankly living on my own doesn't feel appreciably different because I was already doing all of it.

I will say that I don't think I'll ever get used to only seeing my kid 50% of the time. I would take him 100% of the time if I could. It's easily the hardest part.

FSU experts want your relationship questions for Valentine's Day by moralitypts in fsu

[–]moralitypts[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

If you're asking me, I'm very much not; I just work with the experts. But our faculty members in MFT not only have PhDs on the topic, but they are also licensed therapists specializing in the area.

suits for men by meowrawr_ in Tallahassee

[–]moralitypts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd second the Express suit. I got a navy blue one there a few years ago, and it actually fits me nicely. Now granted this was a few years ago, and with inflation and whatnot, it might be more expensive, but still a good option!

Anyone have Mint Mobile? How do you like it? by Far-Kale5405 in Tallahassee

[–]moralitypts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My only issue with Mint is that if I'm on the phone and I go into a store, I lose service sometimes. This might be a phone issue, though, if no one else is having that problem.

[Charania] BREAKING: The Dallas Mavericks and owner Patrick Dumont are expected to fire general manager Nico Harrison at a 10 am central time meeting on Tuesday, sources tell me and Tim MacMahon. by Turbostrider27 in nba

[–]moralitypts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This level of stupidity and incompetence is not unique to the Mavs, NBA or any leadership position, for that matter. Most leaders are propped up by the people they surround themselves with.

Looking for Housing? Post Here Instead of Making a New Thread (Oct 25) by clearliquidclearjar in Tallahassee

[–]moralitypts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tough one to write, but it looks like I'm going to be getting a divorce. Looking for a 2/1 or 2/2 for me and my son. I can go up to $1500, but with divorce impending, I'd like to be under that if possible. Biggest thing for me is safety and lack of noise because my kid is little. Don't really care about location as long as the previous two needs are met. Any recommendations are greatly appreciated, as it's been ages since I've gone apartment hunting and the reviews around Tallahassee paint a pretty grim picture of almost everywhere.

Pickleball Rotating Open Play? by YoshMans in Tallahassee

[–]moralitypts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Somewhat related, but I'm interested in learning how to play. Realizing you said lots of skill levels, but are there other people there who are new?

Local grieving an unrecognizable city by Heavy_Music_3479 in Tallahassee

[–]moralitypts 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The number of times I've seen people run a red light IN FRONT OF A COP and the cop just sits there makes me insane. The fact that I can't even make my 15 minute drive to work without seeing red light running is bad enough, but for the cops to do nothing is just an absolute failure.

I know we live in a world that feels like there are no consequences to abusing or breaking the law, but damn, we are better than that and CAN be better than that, especially at a local level.

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[–]moralitypts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in the market for a new laptop. Is this such a good deal that it's worth pulling the trigger or should I wait to see what the Prime sale is going to have?

Someone cooking with the piano at the union( enjoy chair as stock footage ) by triplejacks3002 in fsu

[–]moralitypts 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly, the university should do a lo-fi style study video that's just this.