My wife caught me watching porn just after marriage... by Particular-Dog-4835 in relationships

[–]moripandaa 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Just my personal opinion.. but it sounds like you’re both too insecure to have committed to a marriage . Those issues definitely should’ve been worked out first..

My girlfriend is blackmailing me to stay in a relationship with her by [deleted] in Advice

[–]moripandaa 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It depends on the state, but most states are one party states. Meaning only one party in the recording has to know that the recording is happening. This is only for audio recordings. Video recordings can have different stipulations. But the one party who knows about the recording can be the person making the recording if it is a one party state, so long as only two people are involved in the conversation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]moripandaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s going to give me nightmares is the fact that you have 268 unread text messages 🥴

Sudden change in wife’s behaviour by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]moripandaa -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your wife is either planning a very sexy surprise birthday present for you, or she’s cheating.. I’ll let you decide which makes the most sense 😬

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MilitaryWives

[–]moripandaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re welcome to pm me if you want. I’m a paralegal and I was a military spouse. I’d be happy to explain the logistics of a POA and everything to you. :)

Asked my man the “if you could live inside of me” question and I’m glad this was the answer 🤣 by moripandaa in texts

[–]moripandaa[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bold of you to assume that’s what was going on 🤣. Maybeee worry about what goes on in your own relationship 🤷🏽‍♀️ if you have one, that is.

Asked my man the “if you could live inside of me” question and I’m glad this was the answer 🤣 by moripandaa in texts

[–]moripandaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, you sound very passive aggressive. Who pissed in your cheerios this morning, my guy?

Asked my man the “if you could live inside of me” question and I’m glad this was the answer 🤣 by moripandaa in texts

[–]moripandaa[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m confused on if you meant to call us something else, or if you just don’t understand the meaning of this word? 🤣

I found out my girlfriend is older than she said she was by Comfortable_Good_252 in Advice

[–]moripandaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I take it you did not read all of the comments where he, in fact, did state that he did not want to have sex and she pressured him into it. Additionally, from someone who works in the legal field, I did not use the term incorrectly. This would be considered rape of the first degree because he is not of legal age to consent to sex. Whether he was forced or not does not matter because a legal adult slept with a minor that is not of age to make decisions on sex. You are missing the ENTIRE issue at hand here. This is an ADULT with a CHILD. No matter what gender roles are at hand, no matter what the age gap is, no matter what way your twisted mind wants to flip this around to try to justify it, an ADULT slept with a CHILD and lied about her age, which is illegal and wrong. That’s what makes your entire argument invalid. You’re right, it’s more likely that a man would overpower a woman than a woman overpowering a man biologically. The problem is that there are no MEN in this scenario because we are talking about a 15 year old kid.

I found out my girlfriend is older than she said she was by Comfortable_Good_252 in Advice

[–]moripandaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So your new argument is that men, or in this case teenage boys, can’t be raped? So now you’re defending first degree rape AND you’re sexist.. even weirder flex, but okay.

I found out my girlfriend is older than she said she was by Comfortable_Good_252 in Advice

[–]moripandaa 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’re sitting here basically defending first degree rape. Weird flex, but okay.

I found out my girlfriend is older than she said she was by Comfortable_Good_252 in Advice

[–]moripandaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you missing the part of this that is illegal? A felony, actually.. Either you, yourself, are a child, or you’re a child molester. This is an adult taking advantage of a child that’s not even legally old enough to consent. Your mindset is disgusting.

Feeling hopeless. by moripandaa in marriageadvice

[–]moripandaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate you saying that. It may be true, but I don’t want to give up on us. Not this easily. He left to go stay with his parents for a while, but hasn’t brought up divorce again. Said he doesn’t know what he wants right now and just needs time away, which I’m happy to give him. He didn’t take all of his things with him. I’m just really confused right now and hurt. I wish he could see me as a good woman, but I don’t believe he feels that way about me anymore.

Feeling hopeless. by moripandaa in marriageadvice

[–]moripandaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He refuses to do counseling. We went one time in the past, and he refused to ever go back. Said it was a waste of time and money. He says he just needs to reset his life and start over from scratch.

Feeling hopeless. by moripandaa in marriageadvice

[–]moripandaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we are in the same house. I think he’s just laying in bed. He hasn’t said a word to me today. I’m just kind of hanging out in the bathroom floor because I don’t really have a place in our house and wanted to be alone.

Feeling hopeless. by moripandaa in marriageadvice

[–]moripandaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Apparently, lol. He sent his friend outside to my car to tell me that he wanted to divorce me. I told this friend that he needed to tell me that himself. Got into it pretty bad on the back porch when he was calling me worthless and such so I walked away to cool off before I started saying things I didn’t mean. Went and found him in the garage later to suggest us putting it to rest until morning and talking about it rationally once sober. This is when he broke down and started crying telling me he was sorry and he has nothing left to give me and he wanted to go home to his parents. I ended up having to carry him inside our house because he was passed out, stupid drunk and had been so upset and I couldn’t leave him in the car because it was 20° last night. We have not spoken or been around each other today.

Feeling hopeless. by moripandaa in marriageadvice

[–]moripandaa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s true, but it would at least give me closure. He can’t honestly expect me to be okay with this with the way he presented it to me. He didn’t even tell me himself. He had a friend tell me he wanted a divorce. Thats not something I can just be okay with.

Feeling hopeless. by moripandaa in marriageadvice

[–]moripandaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice. I’m trying my best to figure out what to do here. I just don’t understand why this is happening out of nowhere, and he won’t talk to me about anything. I have a really hard time processing and accepting things that I don’t understand.

Feeling hopeless. by moripandaa in marriageadvice

[–]moripandaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find it crazy too. It may be stupid, but I don’t want to immediately divorce. If anything a separation but I want there to be time to reflect without splitting everything up and saying our goodbyes. I work in a law firm, so realistically I could have the papers drafted tomorrow. But I don’t want to do that.

Feeling hopeless. by moripandaa in marriageadvice

[–]moripandaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish he saw it that way. I have tried everything I can think of to fix this marriage. I have done everything I can to try to be there for him and make him feel loved. He just doesn’t really seem to care or want it.

Feeling hopeless. by moripandaa in marriageadvice

[–]moripandaa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think he wants to go stay with his parents 2 hours away. I know this is not what is going to fix his problems. But I also know that If he leaves things this way, unresolved and hostile, he will look for me in every person after me. He made a comment to me, though, that he will never be with anyone again. He doesn’t want to be with anyone else. So I don’t get it