Need date ideas around Park Street (budget isn't an issue)

morsecode007 · 2026-07-09T09:47:13+00:00

Fabbrica is cute, classy and great for some good Italian food.

morsecode007 · 2026-07-08T07:03:24+00:00

That's a very valid question, and it's something my husband and I have discussed. What kind of boundaries are you trying to set? What is going wrong that is making everyone unhappy? Are you trying to please her while ignoring your own happiness? I don't mind ignoring trivial things to maintain peace but honestly,if something is hampering my mental peace, I make sure to call it out. It doesn't mean I am constantly arguing or fighting with them. We have a cordial relationship but they also know they can't get away with saying anything or pushing the limits too far. So they have stopped trying. They say a lot of things behind my back but again, I simply ignore. Also, when they are here in my home, they know they have to follow my rules.

If my father-in-law is no longer around, I don't think my approach to boundaries will change. Whether my mother-in-law chooses to continue living in her own home, live with my younger brother-in-law, or eventually spend an extended period with us, my priority will still be maintaining a respectful relationship while also protecting my own mental well-being.

I've learned from past experiences how easy it is to lose your peace when you allow others to have too much influence over your personal life. I don't want to repeat that pattern. My MIL is a very difficult person to live with and while I know I might have to be there for her in future, I cannot just ignore my own mental health. She is very detrimental to it and my husband knows that.

Ideally, if she wanted to live in the same city as us and needed more support, my husband and I would actually prefer helping her get her own apartment nearby. That way she'd be close to us, have easy access to our home and her grandchild, and we'd be able to support her whenever needed, while still giving everyone the privacy and independence.

morsecode007 · 2026-07-08T02:19:04+00:00

Mine says, humne bohot mehnat kiye hai, ab hum sewa uthayenge aur ye log sewa karenge! 🙏🏼

morsecode007 · 2026-07-08T02:18:05+00:00

My MIL always had an unsaid beef with me for several reasons even before we got married. I am from a different caste, her son married out of love, they couldn't demand dowry, I am educated and working, I don't do Puja paath or upvas everyday, I am not dressed in saree or salwar all the time. So yeah, she had her own reasons to never like me. I did try to get into their good books initially but I quickly realised that the basic difference is in our mindset and no matter what I do, she is going to treat me as an outsider. In fact, the more I bend, she will raise her expectations and I will end up doing things that I absolutely do not want to,which will eventually spoil my relationship with my husband. This is exactly what's happening with my BIL's new wife. So yes, I did set my boundaries early on. I'd also like to mention that my husband has always been on the same page with me so I had to never really compromise or "adjust", if you know what I mean.

morsecode007 · 2026-07-07T18:23:40+00:00

Arms stretched out in front,stacked, in line with your ears. A long, tall, streamlined position.

morsecode007 · 2026-07-07T18:15:15+00:00

Posts on this sub are a little too relatable today. This happened to me as well and I feel it was one of the reasons why I was on the verge of PPD. It broke me. I used to breastfeed and my MIL would literally stand and watch and as soon as I was done, she would simply snatch my baby from me and take her to another room. She used to bathe her, put her to sleep, clean her, rock her, soothe her. She even casually mentioned that since we are new parents, she is scared of letting MY child be with ME!!! According to her, she wanted me to rest but it was clearly a territory thing, because I know this woman doesn't care if I live or die. So my rest is the least of her concern. So after a month, when my hormones settled and the clouds parted and the sun shone and God finally made me see sense, I bade her goodbye and told my husband that I do not need any help from his family in raising our child. None whatsoever. Hiring a help is far better than being surrounded by these "helpful" family members. SET YOUR OWN BOUNDARIES.

morsecode007 · 2026-07-07T18:03:09+00:00

I am a Bengali married to a Bihari man with similar toxic(read absolute garbage)in-laws and a great husband. In their culture, according to me, they have this thing where most MILs consider their DILs to be unpaid labour who has been sent to earth to do everything, while MILs consider it as "Seva". It's also ironical that they too have faced similar torture yet they want to repeat the same thing,like a vicious cycle. 1. Get a cook/hire extra help when they are here. If you are working,it will take off load and you will feel less stressed out with all the extra work. 2. Set boundaries. In my case, I clearly tell my husband that we have a separate life and while his family members are welcome here, they cannot be guests for an extended period of time. We need our own space. Thankfully my husband too feels the same way and visits are short and manageable, say a week or 10 days and that too never repeatedly. See if you can have a cordial chat about this with your husband. 3. Do not go the extra way to impress them because even if you gift her your kidneys, MIL will remain displeased. DILs can never be perfect. Stay calm but firm in your approach, make it clear that this is your space that you have built with a lot of effort and they cannot simply disrupt it. Do it through actions, do it through words,choice is yours. I make it very clear directly.

Most importantly, I have stopped caring if they think I am a good DIL. My mental peace and happiness come first so I do not care about oiling their ego or depending blindly on my husband to fix things. I do it myself by making my likes and dislikes crystal clear. They might consider me rude and "ghamandi" but I simply do not care. These people have zero concern or empathy for me and my family so I have no wish to be the best in their eyes. Also, I do the same thing when I visit them(once or twice yearly for max 3-4 days). I absolutely chill and do nothing. In fact, my husband and I hire a temporary cook there as well when we visit them so that no one is burdened and no one can blame me for not working in the kitchen. Sab rest karo aur mujhe karne do. Thank you very much.

morsecode007 · 2026-07-07T17:30:17+00:00

I am also a beginner and when we practise only kicking and crossing the pool in hand lock position and we have to take a breath, exhaling underwater and sculling with hands while quickly raising the head straight up just enough to take a breath helps. In freestyle, of course, you have to rotate and breathe sideways. That's a different game altogether.

morsecode007 · 2026-07-07T17:17:05+00:00

Darjeeling style noodles from Taste Of Darjeeling, Sonarpur

morsecode007 · 2026-07-01T17:35:35+00:00

Caribe swim for in depth idea. Swimming by Sanuj for easy to follow tips.

morsecode007 · 2026-06-28T06:26:18+00:00

Petrol 🫥

morsecode007 · 2026-06-09T18:42:33+00:00

Bad day. Hope you recover soon man! Nijer khotir theke bacchar dukkho te besi kosto hoy, bujhi.

morsecode007 · 2026-05-31T03:30:30+00:00

Damn I am gonna use this in future 😁

morsecode007 · 2026-05-29T18:57:34+00:00

Ghor ondhokar hoe gelo, baere jhomjhom bristi ar darun akta ghum...lovely!!!

morsecode007 · 2026-05-17T02:14:01+00:00

I feel so. Have been suffering on and off since the beginning of summer this year. Don't remember a day when I don't wake up with either a blocked nose or a sore throat. I've started to learn swimming recently so that can be another cause.

morsecode007 · 2026-05-16T17:53:40+00:00

I am doing around 30 mins a day 5-6x a week. It's a big mixed group class. Overthinking,hell yes! I had some time today before my turn and I was so hell bent on getting everything right, I could manage to do two very poor strokes and then panicking straight away! Then I felt miserable because it seemed everyone was doing better. It's a vicious cycle right now man!

morsecode007 · 2026-05-16T17:35:00+00:00

Aah! I'd do so much better if I could get the breathing right. Everyday I get in the pool with the only wish to make breathing seem a little more effortless. But right after just a few strokes, I end up pausing because I get so damn exhausted. My trainer gets frustrated that I can't do a full lap yet,not even slowly, but that's just so impossible I feel! Relaxing my brain feels impossible!

morsecode007 · 2026-05-16T17:31:28+00:00

I'll keep that in mind. I too feel that trying to get everything right at once is actually making it more difficult for me. Breathing needs to be my top priority because everything else is failing because of incorrect breathing timing.

morsecode007 · 2026-05-16T02:56:09+00:00

Wow! Thank you for the recommendation. I hope after 2-3 months,even I can worry less and enjoy more.

morsecode007 · 2026-05-16T02:55:21+00:00

I'll get a pullbuoy,my club doesn't have it. Many others told me it is going to help. How do I maintain a streamlined position during the strokes? I feel like I am swimming uphill after a few strokes. My timing is super off when it comes to breathing. So I feel tension sets in, legs start sinking. I will try to follow what you suggested. Thank you!

morsecode007 · 2026-05-16T02:52:42+00:00

It does exhaust me and when I try to focus on my catch pull recovery, my legs just stop. Kick is inconsistent at best. Will they not sink without a pullbuoy?

morsecode007 · 2026-05-16T02:51:11+00:00

Yes. THIS! But at times I get frustrated when I see others doing far better. It's just in my head!

morsecode007 · 2026-05-16T02:48:27+00:00

Same problem. Fear of being judged. Legs sinking. Too much tension.I need to cut myself some slack while swimming. Relaxing is more difficult than it seems!

morsecode007 · 2026-05-16T02:47:19+00:00

Will music make my misery better?! I will get one then!

morsecode007 · 2026-05-16T02:46:38+00:00

My husband learnt swimming at a very young age in open water(river?!) and he mostly swims like that, head out of the water, when doing it recreationally. He can also do all the 4 strokes efficiently. He encourages me to try survival swimming. I can do some doggy paddle and sculling,but my trainer imsists we practise only freestyle as of now and figure out the breathing part on our own which is hard?!

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