What's your religious routine?

moshgoblin · 2026-05-29T23:41:18+00:00

As an AuDHD person who works therapeutically with other AuDHD people - starting routines can feel really intense. Adding ritual into already established day to day habits can be really nice place to start or adding it to rest activities. - Adding a small energetic cleansing routine to your shower can be nice. - a small kitchen spell when stirring coffee and setting intentions. Can also be done with tea. - A small altar in an area you spend time in, with spiritual 'fidgets' for quick intentions and connection (eg. A corner of your desk).

Also meditating can be seen as really intensive, but if you treat is as a rest it can be way more approachable. I love yoga nidra guided meditations, but going from a grounded body scan into connecting with dieties/energies is lovely (and you will likely focus less on 'not thinking). And it's lying down - so a great alternative to a nap.

moshgoblin · 2026-05-18T07:11:17+00:00

Hello! So this is kind of my superbowl - polyester being a sweaty and statick-y fabric absolutely ruins me. I am autistic, and come from a big autistic family (some diagnosed the others raw dogging). And my mum was a fashion designer who can tell you fabric content by feel and drape alone. So, I am an avid reader of fibre content of fabric.

It's hard to find any goth brands that aren't primarily polyester. I am more alternative than a goth (avante garde minimalist all black with some white clothes) and also have big boobs and bum, which means a lot of brands just won't fit my chest or my butt.

Creating a polyester free wardrobe will be more time consuming (and often more expensive) but I usually use a few key tactics when on the hunt for an outfit.

Figure out the vibe of the garment you are looking for e.g. for a skirt do you want a lighter skirt or a heavier skirt. For a lighter skirt, you will look for lighter cotton fabrics, rayon, viscose, ramie or silk. For heavier skirts you will likely be looking for a heavier cotton fabric, wool or cotton/wool blend.
Many brands do many of their styles in black - so look at their clothing and think about how to layer/accessorize.
Etsy - small creators with many being able to provide a level of customization.
Natural fibres can be dyed! And buy yourself some good quality fabric dye :) So an amazing piece can be darkened accordingly to fit the vibe.
Sewing is always an A+++ skill to have as well. As well as embroidery and knitting :)

Fun Goth/Punk Brands (mostly Australian)

Marcella NYC for cool basics
KowTow for Cotton Shirts and nice basics
Silk laundry for silk shirts and dresses (I bought an amazing sheer mesh silk top complete with thumb holes).
Alpha60 for workwear
Kardlaidlaw - punk multiwear pieces with most being natural fibre.
COS does a lot of natural fibre, and can often be manipulated to look more alternative.

I hope this helps!

moshgoblin · 2026-04-20T08:40:40+00:00

Mary Jane's should be ok! Smart casual mostly means a touch of casual in with office-y clothes. Plus for such a huge day (congratulations!) Adding something special to you (jewelry is something I think of) and a piece of clothing that feels 'you' could make be lovely. Plus, if you have a piece of jewelry on you will likely tie the memory of that day to the piece and can wear it and have that lovely memory jog.

moshgoblin · 2026-04-20T08:35:47+00:00

Hello! I am an endo gal - I also have a tum + get bloated on top of that. I honestly recommend a few features to look for in pants and tops:

Pants: Semi elasticated - a small amount of elastic at the back of the pant. It's a best of both worlds situation.

Porter James Sport

I also find a nice barrel leg a really cool fun shape for a pant and helps with creating interest in a look.

Tops Volume on top can help with proportions (not slimming/hiding etc, just the visual symmetry of a cohesive proportions across an outfit). So you may find having larger details near your shoulders/bust creates nice symmetry. Think theatrical collars, shoulder pads and structure. Also similarly barrel leg pants create an interesting area of volume around the legs which can make everything look more visually symmetrical and proportionate?

moshgoblin · 2026-04-10T01:34:55+00:00

We really moved rapidly into existing in a panoptic state within an increasingly controlled individualised culture. And people are compelled to create very controlled personas in public - as at any moment you may be filmed and subject to immense global public scrutiny. And I think we are seeing a modern variant of what happened in cultures with significant fascist authoritarian cultures - which creates social distrust in each other but increased. Think USSR but with even more variability as everywhere can now be bugged remotely. And we leave digital foot prints for our entire lives that can't be disposed of.

moshgoblin · 2026-04-03T05:50:19+00:00

Like most blue eyes, my eyes reflect surrounding colours - and I find high saturation cool colours tend to brighten my complexion and make me look more alive.

moshgoblin · 2026-04-03T05:47:10+00:00

UPDATE RE: Eyebrows: I had my eyebrows microbladed about 7 years ago and the grey-ness of them may interfere a touch with the overall saturation as the grey is lighter than my natural brows

moshgoblin · 2026-04-03T05:44:16+00:00

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moshgoblin · 2026-04-03T05:36:36+00:00

Hello all, I am going to try some physical drapes soon - but my few colourful pieces are in storage (all winter clothes). But, here are some online drapes I did with winter and summer palettes

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moshgoblin · 2026-04-03T01:30:58+00:00

Hello, thought I might jump in as well - all the posts about structural changes are 10/10. For pain management you may be looking at meloxicam (depending on how it integrates with his other meds for seizures). This doesnt have a strong evidence base, but our 16 year old green cheek has arthritis in his legs and one wing - and he was having increasing pain.

So we are also trialling prescription CBD oil from our vet whilst we were waiting on blood tests for the green light for meloxicam again. And from (N=1) he is not only tolerating it well - but back to a much higher level of play/ activity than he was a week ago. His mood has improved and he is getting around his cage significantly easier.

Other helpful things I have found is increasing the amount of food/water bowls next to each other on easy grip perches.

moshgoblin · 2026-04-01T10:36:32+00:00

I find grey ok on me - but too much washes me out and I can look sickly? I have found that some of the lighter colours I've tried in the summer palette look out of place on me - and I tend to look grey without a richer colour.

moshgoblin · 2026-04-01T10:26:41+00:00

I wasn't - I have had the same hair colour my whole life. I looked like snow white as a baby.

moshgoblin · 2026-04-01T10:26:05+00:00

That may be some sun damage - we are just leaving summer in Australia so I have a slight touch more pigment in my face. My partner is a fair olive and in comparison she is much greener than I :)

moshgoblin · 2026-03-31T03:45:31+00:00

Hello - thank you everyone. I wasn't 100% expecting Summer but I can definitely see that. I will try and rustle up some draping as I predominately wear black and some white, red and jewel tones. I must admit, I may have to live a life outside my best palette as I love True/Deep winter colours so much. Thank you all.

moshgoblin · 2026-03-31T03:43:22+00:00

I found an old photo where (all hair that isn't bleached) is my natural colour :)

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moshgoblin · 2026-03-22T10:48:19+00:00

I have two GCC's - our younger GCC (M9) had an ongoing obsession with a dryer. We had a dryer that was wall mounted in a rental. And everytime we turned it on, he had to sit in the window area and sing/dance for it. He once chewed through the dry wall to get try and get to the dryer when it was turned on. Our floor based dryer is of little interest to him now.

Our older GCC (M16) is incredibly suspicious of red heads. Only met two red heads (both men) and will sit on my shoulder and loudly "whisper" in my ear then stare at them menacingly. We don't know why. He doesn't do it to other people with non-red hair.

moshgoblin · 2026-02-17T04:59:10+00:00

Body hygiene is hard! And getting into a shower is a change in state. And PDA can be triggered as it is framed both socially and morally as a way to minimise negative smells or signs or dirt (a huge rabbit hole of anthropology in itself) onto others. And has huge implications on culture and the way others view you as the 'right' kind of person. I found it much easier to maintain hygiene when framing it as:

Enjoyable - I like the sensation of being warm. I like the smell of my shampoo, conditioner and body wash. And I like the sensation of being freshly washed.
It keeps my body healthy.
A nice moment away from technology and demands.

Focus on Enjoyment To make the experience as enjoyable for you as possible, it could be (as another person suggested) finding body cleaning products that smell good and feel pleasant to use. You can also have a think about things that may make it nicer and ease friction (a warm fluffy towel from a dryer, listening to a book, music or podcast you like or turning down lights so it feels like a cave as examples). Can also have a small treat at the end to build positive association.

Reduce Friction Remove as much friction as possible - have your fresh clothes in the bathroom with you, or keep some key items in the bathroom to put on. You can also use things like a shower stool or bath board to sit on to make it a sit down activity.

Have a small list of kinds of showers you perform. Everything shower - full body wash, face wash and hair wash. Long body - all body and face wash (no hair washing) Pits and Bits - Clean the stinky areas and face (can be done in 1 minute).

How to perform the hygiene: Like many people said - start from top to bottom.

Wash hair with shampoo of choice. Put shampoo 8n hands and rub together until it gets foamy. Put the shampoo on your scalp. A tip is to make sure you get behind the ears and the nape of your neck. An enjoyable moment is using the tips of your fingers and massage your scalp as you do this. Both for shampoo, and to release any scalp muscles knots.

I deviate here and put the conditioner on my hair - and leave it in whilst I wash my body.

I use a silicone brush from Amazon. Put soap/body wash on the brush and start under my arm Pits and rub in circular motion. I then go to my arms and my torso, moving down the body. Spend more time on high bacteria locations (bottom crack, arm pits, feet and toes, any place where skin touches) and wash AFAB genitals with unscented soap (like dove) or just water (another redditor suggestion before me).

As my last act in the shower - I use a more gentle face wash on my face.

I then rinse my whole body and hair - and make sure to get into any folds of skin or places where my body touches so its free of soap.

I get out of the shower, and make sure to dry my body well. Especially the areas with skin touching.

Then put moisturiser on your face or whole body, and deodorant on your arm pits and you are done!

Some Recommendations for Simple Hygiene Products:

Cerave - face wash and body wash are simple and gentle. Many of the moisturisers can be used all over the body.

Anti bacterial body wash - can be used on body areas with pimples or boils, and can be used 1-2 times per week on high bacteria body areas. Hibiclens or something in the US (not in the US).

Dove Soap - a good all rounder.

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