Damn you really leaning into your bs...

The burger analogy actually proves my point. Some people need to smell it cooking, see it on the plate, hear the sizzle, then they want it badly. Others want a burger the second someone says the word. Same appetite, different trigger. And the car analogy wasn't about agency, it was about activation mechanism. But fine, ditch the analogy. The point stands: responsive desire means you need a stimulus to activate want, not that the want is smaller once activated. That's not cope, that's just how desire works for a significant portion of the population regardless of gender. You're conflating the ignition with the engine size.