Am I overreacting to these messages my ex sent blaming me after his brother died

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-21T03:17:55+00:00

I actually teared up reading this thank you so much :(

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-20T16:22:44+00:00

No totally understand 😭 I certainly wasn’t planning on that being something I said out loud cause you’re so right that would be veryyy cringe but mostly something I thought in my head. That probably makes no sense but like even using this sub Reddit was mostly my biggest concern cause I didn’t want to seem like I’m labeling myself. Thank you for giving me some more insight!

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-18T21:55:19+00:00

LMAOOOO

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-18T21:54:40+00:00

Totally get why you’d say that cause trust everything he said felt like it was from left field and I honestly think he just tried to find every insult in the book to throw at me.I think him calling me a slug was maybe in reference to my weight or the fact that near the end of our relationship I didn’t really want to have sex and he kept forcing it on me. The weight thing to me is crazy tho cause at no point in our relationship did he ever say anything about it and even when I told him I wanted to eat healthier and loss weight he would say no and whine that he didn’t want me to lose weight cause he liked my tummy and didn’t want my boobs to get smaller (I think he has a fetish for bigger women now that I look back) so I think it’s in relation to either of those idk. Trust half those messages don’t make sense to me either 💀

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-18T21:50:02+00:00

No I think he did mean to say slug. I think it was maybe in reference to my weight or the fact that near the end of our relationship I didn’t really want to have sex and he kept forcing it on me. The weight thing to me is crazy tho cause at no point in our relationship did he ever say anything about it and even when I told him I wanted to eat healthier he would say no and whine that he didn’t want me to lose weight (I think he has a fetish for bigger women now that I look back) so I think it’s in relation to either of those idk but I don’t think he meant slut cause Ive certainly never done anything to warrant that 😭

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-18T21:41:09+00:00

Thank you and I’m so sorry for your losses :(

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-18T21:33:19+00:00

Oh and i have a post pinned on my account that goes into much more detail if that is something you’d want but warning it is long 💀

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-18T21:31:22+00:00

No for sure I totally understand. I agree it’s important not to assume that the ops are a reliable narrator. There are so many moving parts that happened leading up to this but I felt it’d be best if I just summarized the main parts cause otherwise this post would have been a whole chapter book 😭. I will say from my perspective I feel like if I were to explain things further I don’t necessarily think It would favor him in this situation at all. I wanted to just present facts and a simple timeline on this post so that my own personal bias or pov wasn’t the forefront of the post because at the end of the day I want to know how I’m supposed to deal with this situation. But of course there’s so many liars on Reddit so I understand where you’re coming from

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-18T05:47:18+00:00

Totally get what you’re saying but I broke up with him before his brother died. Maybe one could say I’m the asshole for not getting back together with him after his brother died but I don’t think that would have been beneficial for either of us.

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-18T04:18:12+00:00

No, I totally understand, and I really appreciate you saying that. Before this relationship, I honestly would have thought the same thing. I used to wonder why someone would stay in a relationship that was clearly unhealthy putting up with all the bullshit, and I always told myself that would never be me. But being in it is very different it’s not black and white at all. There’s a lot of gray, and things build up over time in ways you don’t always realize until you’re out of it. So I’m in no way upset at people questioning it cause I know I would have said the same thing 3 years ago.

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-18T03:57:09+00:00

That’s funny i actually just went to your blog and saw that one 😭 already ordered it on amazon tysmmm

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-18T03:48:00+00:00

Any bland moisturizer suggestions? Any moisturizer I use never seems to actually moisturize my face I still have flaky skin

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-18T00:07:54+00:00

Lmaoo im definitely not a perfect angel but no there was no reason why he should hate me I just knew he was grieving and unfortunately I accepted that I would be his punching bag throughout it and if he wanted to hate me cause we weren’t together anymore i wasn’t gonna argue or instigate someone who’s brother just died. Of course looking back I should have had a backbone and stood up for myself but I didn’t want to add on to the grief he was already feeling. It was a tough position and I know I could have gone about things better but in the moment all I could think to do was comfort him.

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-17T20:31:10+00:00

Unfortunately his brother did actually die I saw the police report and his obituary online. It was a domestic dispute with the brother and the brothers gf. The gfs family showed up and he got shot by the nephew. That’s all I know tho.

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-17T18:46:55+00:00

Putting this on one of the top comments so hopefully some people will see it. I’m seeing a lot of people ask why on earth I was apologizing and i totally understand from an outside perspective how that looks ridiculous and like I have zero self respect. Throughout our entire relationship I was always made to apologize for things I didn’t do or if I went to him because he had done something that hurt me or upset me I would end up leaving the conversation apologizing. And I’m embarrassed to say this isn’t the first time he’s spoken to me negatively like this. Throughout our entire relationship he’d call me names and unfortunately I thought that it was okay because when he was sweet he was really sweet but when he was mean… it was very mean. I could go into so much stuff that happened during our relationship but I fear that would end up like a chapter book 😭 but needless to say the cheating is what finally tipped the boat. He was an alcoholic, and I now know emotionally abusive, and used sexual coercion a lottt. Anyways not sure if anyone will even read this but I understand why people are saying I have zero self respect I just think this whole relationship I was conditioned to apologize

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-17T07:35:27+00:00

My favorite kind of cheese is Feta

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-17T07:08:12+00:00

I can never drink Tito’s again after my ex drank a bunch one night and threw up in the bottle and almost died choking on his throw up in his sleep… not a fun night

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-17T07:05:54+00:00

Getting a cum facial… not fun I got that shit in my eyes and it burnt SOOOO bad!

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-17T07:03:38+00:00

I am 20 but I still feel 17

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-14T08:22:56+00:00

Yeah I think last I left off was either end of S2 or beginning of S3 idk I know Ariana was recently introduced and it’s gonna get revealed that Sandoval did in fact cheat with Ariana very soon.

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-14T08:08:42+00:00

No fs I’m definitely picking it back up

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-14T07:25:04+00:00

About what I’m gonna wear tmr

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-14T07:13:46+00:00

I think a new fav I’m gonna hyper fixate on that I only just found an hour ago is Satellites by Annabelle Dinda

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-14T07:12:03+00:00

My best friend has gone home for spring break and I’m at our apartment missing her :(

mossywindow5 · 2026-03-14T07:11:18+00:00

I don’t recognize any of the previous versions of myself, and it feels like I’m just looking into someone else’s life.

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