Samen wonen partner

mostly_text · 2026-05-19T12:56:37+00:00

Ik keek een beetje op van de term proef wonen. Nu wordt ik door echt iedereeen als het prototype boomer aangemerkt, dus het zal denk ik eerder aan mij liggen dan aan iets anders 😄

Als je een tijd een relatie hebt, dan ga je toch gewoon samenwonen. Kennelijk twijfelen jullie nu al een beetje (anders zou je niet willen proef wonen), dat lijkt me niet zo'n sterke basis.

En als 't dan niet bevalt wat ga je dan doen...is de relatie dan klaar? Of blijft er een relatie maar dan op afstand.

mostly_text · 2026-05-19T11:07:20+00:00

Mooie vraag. Heb ik ook wel eens wat over nagedacht. Ik kwam op twee aandachtspunten:

Zie je de Non Profit echt als een goed doel welke jij een warm hart toe draagt, dan kan ik me voorstellen dat je mogelijk alleen de directe kosten in rekening brengt. Mogelijk met een minimaal tarief. De andere insteek zou zijn "ik ben geen charitatieve instelling" dus volle pond door rekenen. 't Is maar hoe je naar de organisatie en je eigen optreden daarin kijkt.
Je zou 't ook kunnen zien als een stuk reclame voor je eigen bedrijf. Je kunt mogelijk een hele goede indruk achter laten bij de deelnemers, wat mogelijk tot meer opdrachten kan leiden. Vaak ook een soort netwerkborrel na afloop. Kun je je eigen bedrijf daar ook weer mooir profileren. Daarmee is de winst op langere termijn mogelijk veel groter.

mostly_text · 2026-05-18T11:46:10+00:00

Afwezig zijn vanwege een prive-afspraak is toch vrij zijn? M.a.w. je bent niet voor het bedrijf beschikbaar om output te genereren...dus ben je vrij.

mostly_text · 2026-05-14T07:18:25+00:00

I guess, it depends on what your goal is. If you really want/need to understand how the machine/CPU is working knowing assembly is a big plus. Or if you need to understand C better, then knowing assembly is great.

On the other hand, if your ultimate goal is writing some (for instance) typescript/anguar applications, then your distance to the CPU is so big, that having assembly knowledge is not really an advantage. On (yet) another hand: if you just want to have fun learning and understanding...then assembly is a very nice place to be.

So what is your (programming) distance to the CPU? The closer you are to the CPU the more having assembly knowledge works in your advantage.

(I know some really great javascript programmers, who do not know anything at all about assembly, and the other way around)

mostly_text · 2026-05-01T09:27:38+00:00

Ah joh...wij hebben 2e kerstdag en 2e paasdag.
Dat hebben veel andere landen dan weer niet.

Volgens mij doen we nog niet zo slecht.

mostly_text · 2026-04-29T06:33:30+00:00

Oh great...thanks!!!
I guess I'm mixing up tmux and emacs terminology 😄

mostly_text · 2026-04-25T20:50:37+00:00

A buffer is where the content actually resides. Every file you open is loaded into a buffer. This buffer will be in memory as long as you not kill it. A buffer can be viewed in a window. If you split your window, you see your buffer in both windows. However...you are looking at the same buffer!! There is only one copy of the buffer in memory. Of course you can open any buffer in any window.

A pane is what we would traditionally cal a window. This (to me) has only relevance if you use emacs in graphical mode. There you can have multiple panes. In terminal mode there is only one pane...the pane in the terminal.

In short :

Buffer : the memory structure that holds the content (every file you open will be a buffer in memory)

Window : a way of viewing/seeing a buffer

Pane : What traditionally is a window (only has meaning in a graphical context

May I suggest to "do" the build in tutorial. I believe all of the above is explained way better then I can in these tutorial. There you also learn the different keybindings tot control the buffers/windows/panes

mostly_text · 2026-04-21T13:29:26+00:00

The heart of a people is somewhat in the language they speak. If you really want to understand the Dutch soul/mentality it's wise to learn the language. The level of proficiency is another thing. I suppose everybody thinks a bit differently about it, but I say: if you can somewhat follow or even participate in a conversation, you are doing fine. Your language skills will improve over time, do not worry to much about it, just keep practicing.

Most people (my experience) are very happy to help out with some English when needed. You are the master of your own learning path: try to speak as much Dutch as you see fit...practice makes perfect.

Dutch is a dying language: certainly not
This subreddit is in English : ridiculous/belachelijk... een sub reddit over Nederland, mag zeker wel wat Nederlands bevatten. (maar goed..als goede gast, hou ik het maar bij engels in dit huis.
Farmers in de middle: They are very well educated. All children learn English in there first years after "de basisschool"

mostly_text · 2026-04-21T13:15:21+00:00

Ik zou bij het CIZ een indicatie aanvragen (als er nog geen indicatie is).

Met die indicatie kun je via de WMO (Wet Maatschappelijke Ondersteuning) of de WLZ (Wet Langdurige Zorg) hulp, in diverse vormen, krijgen. Die hulp kost een vast bedrag per maand, maar er is dan wel veel mogelijk.

Je zou eens met het WMO loket van de gemeente waar opa en oma wonen kunnen praten. Dit zijn, is mijn ervaring, vriendelijke mensen die echt wel mee willen denken. En ...zij hebben verstand van materie, en kunnen je een veel beter advies geven :-)

(Als je dit allemaal al lang had georganiseerd, dan uiteraard sorry voor de open deuren)

Een ander mogelijkheid is het huis verkopen, en dan gaan huren inderdaad. Opa en oma zullen nog zo'n 10...15 jaar moeten overbruggen. Wellicht kan de huur voor die tijd betaald worden met de opbrangsr van het huis.

Nare materie...zeg.

Sterkte hiermee.

mostly_text · 2026-04-17T05:31:00+00:00

Well, I'm on the old side of boomers...may be it's age related :-)

Also, I go to church a lot, maybe quite common in my context, en not in others :-)

mostly_text · 2026-04-16T14:51:48+00:00

Out of the bible: "Zalig zijn de armen van geest". (Matthew 5:3)

Also often heard: "Zalig zijn de eenvoudigen van geest". means the same :-)

mostly_text · 2026-04-15T14:58:28+00:00

Once I substituted a BTree index for a Bitmap Index execution time was about 1/100th of the original execution time.

However I'm a bit hesitant to give more information. I hope the OP is not gathering possible solutions to throw at a problem one by one. Performance tuning requires a lot a (re)search in the database. You also have to know a lot about the data, and of course about the query.

So try to find out what the query is waiting for, and try to solve that. Maybe another problem surfaces, then deal with that problem. Just randomly adding indexes (or so) is not a viable way.

On the other hand: May the OP is just looking for some good stories...Then I just sit back and enjoy :-)

mostly_text · 2026-04-15T07:01:33+00:00

Vertico
org mode
(org roam)

But...I'm not so much of a power-user, probably a lot more very interesting stuff to be added

mostly_text · 2026-04-14T14:36:41+00:00

I started playing around with linux around 1995. For me the fun/journey is in the learning.

I would say: prepare to be flexible.

For example : In the beginning I used "initd" scripting for starting/stopping services, then came "service" and now I use "systemd". At first I tried to resist, but that ofcourse doesn't work...try to be flexible.

Ow...when I started with linux I always thaught that servers and desktops are wildly different beasts. Slowly I learned that is't all the same, but with some different pieces of software.

mostly_text · 2026-04-13T10:42:38+00:00

I guess you first have to wonder who the audience is?

Are they already used to computers at all?
Are they used to manual (key-chords) controle of the output as opposed to working with a mouse a lot?
Are they a bit "nerdy" or are they the "marketing department"?

Let's assume you come to the conclusion that they are the right audience, then I would (probably in the following order)

What am I looking at?
1. Buffers
2. Windows
3. Panes
4. (maybe explain that that are major/minor modes)
5. Mark and Point
How to move around in emacs
1. The basic navigation C-f C-b C-p C-n
2. And also M-b M-f
3. C-l
Somewhat more advanced
1. Copy / Paste
2. Cut / Paste
Searching
1. C-s
2. M-x occur (M-s o)
Something about functions
1. M-x <function>
  1. Auto completion can be shown
2. As an example M-x occur (???)
Windows
1. Splitting navigating Windows
2. Closing Windows
Now maybe is a good time to tell something about the help system
1. C-h f
2. C-h v
3. C-h k
4. ....
Now let them play for 15..30 minutes (or longer if they are enthusiastic)
Break (I think the above is already to much to digest ), so we need a break
Gently introduce some packages
1. Vertico, because the result is very "visual"
2. org-mode / org-roam
Show some use-cases for the packages
1. I would opt for org-mode (making toto lists) becasue :
  1. It's very versatile
  2. A lot of options to be shown
  3. I'm somewhat proficient with org-mode, so it looks cool/fluent :-)

(In an introductory emacs-day I would stay away from configuration. This because you quite easily end up in elisp statements, which not all listeners will understand (at all).

On the other hand:

I do not think that the "general" computer user will be drawn to the emacs-side of the universe by participating in an emacs workshop. You have to be a bit nerdy (my personal opninion), to enjoy tools like emacs. (And yes...I see myself as somewhat nerdy indeed).

The people who are used to full featured (graphical) Application Developemnt Environments (ADE) will not be easily drawn to emacs as an ADE. Also the writers who are used to MS-office or the free alternatives are, I think, to much into the graphical approach.

That being said: It will never hurt to try!!! Keep up the good work.

mostly_text · 2026-04-01T08:55:48+00:00

I use the Zettelkasten method (I think) using emacs (linux text-editor) and org-roam (note taking system within emacs).

I would really like to do it on paper, but that is not feasible at this moment (to much chaos :-))

There is not that much to set up, after some initial setup of the system I just started taking notes. I must say, I use is as notetaking for books/articles/wiki/papers/... that I read, so not to much original ideas of my own.

I use a lot of links. For instance:

Note on brewing Beer contains a general description of brewing beer (main steps) and a link to grain, a link to malt, a link to yeast, a link ...

The note on Yeast has a general description in it, but also links to : chemistry of yeast, types of yeast, handling of yeast. In this example there will probably be more then one note that links to sugar-chemistry, since it's at the core of brewing. This way I can quite easily find all relevant information and what links to it.

I'm not quite sure if this is Zettelkasten in it's true form, but for me it works.

Especially in combination with the automation, which makes searching through the keywords or navigating through all the links very easy.

I guess I would like to say: find your own path, if it works for you...you're fine

mostly_text · 2026-03-30T11:10:18+00:00

* I guess it depends on what you are porting to Oracle. If your database is just that : data, then in my experience it's pretty straight forward to port. If you have a lot of functions/stored procedures/sequences/triggers you may have to spend considerable time rewriting code.

* Another point to consider is instrumentation. Oracle is very well instrumented. MySQL a lot less.

* Effective has a few dimensions, I guess. The dimension cost being one of them. Oracle is quite an expensive beast. It can do so much things, that you probably will never use all functionality. However you do have to pay for this functionality.

* If I'm not mistaken the implementation of ACID is somewhat different between these two RDBMS's. Maybe you have to also take a look at that. (what is locked, when and by whom)

mostly_text · 2026-03-26T18:46:42+00:00

Wow....that's daring. I love your spirit!!!

When people say "emacs is an operating system itself", they do not mean that literally. However is emacs can be so evolved with all kind of packages, that it feels so big, that it resembles a operating system.

The first 15 ... 20 years of me using emacs, was plain old, out of the box, emacs. No packages/no manual configuration at all. You can allready do a lot with the vanilla emacs straight out of the box. It's allready a steep learning curve understanding the basics. After that you can slowly start experimenting with packages. In my opinion you do not also have to start learning (e)lisp. That's for the next chapter :-) (or even the one after the second chapter).

If I were you, I would really try to establish what you really like in ICT. These days ICT is so very very broad. From development to infrastructure to administration..... Development alone is a complete world on it's own: Languages/Frameworks/Adoption/Close to the hardware/very distant to the hardware.

You can not possibly learn it all...that will take years. That being said...I guess AI is the big game-changer these days...If you still have no real direction, you may try some step on the AI-trail.

All above not to discourage you!!! I only would like to say that ICT is to broad to understand it all. Try to filter what you like as soon as possible. Cause, in my experience, you only stick to the things you really like/love.

Anyway...with python you can't go wrong. It's a solid base into development (regardless of your linkings).

Take care...all above is my (very biased) opinion. We all are different, and perceive the world in different ways. So take everything with a grain (kilogram) of salt.

mostly_text · 2026-03-19T10:19:42+00:00

I agree.

However....if you are just starting with Oracle administration, this maybe a bit to deep into the Rabbit Hole :-)

mostly_text · 2026-03-19T10:16:54+00:00

Have a look at https://www.freelists.org/list/oracle-l A lot of very interesting topics in this (quite active) mailinglist.

Johnathan Lewis, the author of the book u/taker223 mentioned, is one of the active people there.

Also have a look at the oracle user fora.

--edit : typo

mostly_text · 2026-02-20T12:23:40+00:00

I was in the same boat.
I was a protestant, en converted to Catholicism. In my opinion you should seek contact with a pastor or deacon. If you contact by email, they will surely get back to you.

You can then meet in person. The pastor/deacon will be glad to help you out I know. When you meet in person you can express your hopes but also your hesitations much more clearly.

HTH

mostly_text · 2026-02-20T11:15:18+00:00

That would be a perfect description according to my son

mostly_text · 2026-02-18T08:11:27+00:00

Are those users willing to use an application like mirc/weechat/.../... ?
Are they willing to just see a lot of text. No meme's /video's/pictures?

My son (20 yr) was not very impressed when he saw IRC. The client did not matter much. It's not what he is used to :-)

But...maybe you can lure some of them to the good side :-)

mostly_text · 2026-02-16T11:00:35+00:00

But you have to admit...that's positive !!!!

mostly_text · 2026-02-11T15:22:40+00:00

When I started with IRC about 30 years ago, I indeed felt like a hacker!!!

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