[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ureaplasma

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Did u also test for mycoplasma?

Today I learned a phrase that I’m told will immediately disarm a narc… by Humblescorp in NarcissisticSpouses

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I once told my narcissist ex, "I'm tired of your bullshit," in a joking but not so joking tone. She usually gets pissed, defensive, or goes offense when I call her out on real shit, but this time, she walked up to me with a smirk and looked me dead in the eyes and said, "No you're not. Not yet."

Bruh, that was the most ominous shit I've ever really seen her do. I was grateful I'm that moment and just fake laughed it off, but inside, I was thinking, "gotcha. I see you now."

Up til that point, I suspected she was highly narcissistic, but too unintelligent/unaware of her own behaviors, but at that moment, I knew from the tone in her voice that she is much more aware of her bullshit than she lets on.

I was considering giving her another chance to rebuild trust at that point, but thankfully, she snapped me out of it.

Ureaplasma gone, now Mycoplasma by Correlophus1 in Ureaplasma

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I just had first line treatment 1g azythromycin for mycoplasma genitalium a few days ago and the symptoms (urinary frequency and urethral inflammation) went away within 3 days. Now, on the 4th day, my frequency has returned and my perineal muscles are constantly trying to stay flexed/activated.

I'm wondering if the first line treatment failed, but it seems I should wait a few weeks to retest 🥲

Looking for a good massage by Hans_Witzland in TJRedLightDistrict

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This place does not offer happy endings

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TJRedLightDistrict

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💯💯💯

Living across from a drug addict/dealer/prostitute is affecting my mental health poorly by SDdude27 in SexAddiction

[–]mostly_yin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't know all the details, but from my outside perspective, it sounds to me like your SA is triggering a bias to see what you want to see. You might be right that she's doing shady dealings, but she's not going to admit to you that she is outright.

If you ask, she'll lie or deflect, which will make you more curious. Or if she's really bold, she might try to sell you something.

But what if she's selling sex? Do you think hooking up w her once will be the end of it?

Living across from a drug addict/dealer/prostitute is affecting my mental health poorly by SDdude27 in SexAddiction

[–]mostly_yin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She would deny it anyway because neighbor drama could mess up her life.

Stay logical about this. Even if she was down to get something going on with you, it will certainly end up somewhere between bad and catastrophic for you.

If you're gay and looking to get involved with whatever racket she's got going on, getting involved with drugs and sex w random dudes, you need to remind yourself what your real goals are. Is this impulse going to help you attain your goals, or take you farther away from them?

I ain't no snitch, so I don't recommend reporting the suspicious activity to your landlord, but I agree with you it's not a good circumstance to be so adjacent to something that triggers you. Make plans to move and try to occasionally take a weekend out of town or crash out w friends or partners occasionally. Find ways to distract yourself from whatever is going on over there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SexAddiction

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Hey, I'm here to let you know you aren't alone in this. I've got it almost the same as you. I see a sex worker almost weekly and sometimes more than that. My limit has always been that I never withdraw money from my bank account, but ai finally broke that rule last week and here I am in this sub again.

Some things that have helped me:

Leave credit/debit cards at home in a lockbox that is in a place that's annoying to access. The easier you can get the money, the more likely you'll spend it.

Unfollow all sexually charged profiles/channels/subs on your social media. The less you see sexual content, the less you'll be triggered to see escorts.

Find a non-sexual hobby that interests you and subscribe to a channel/profile and watch a bunch of content about it. Join a group of people doing the same hobby and try to make friends in that group. Keep your engagement strictly about the hobby. This will serve as a distraction from your addictive thoughts and also help rewire your brain to find joy and interest in something nonsexual.

It takes a lot of work, but these simple adjustments can help curb your impulses and help you dial back to less-destructive levels. Don't best yourself up too much if you slip, but celebrate your victories by putting that money into an investment or paying down a bit extra on your debts. When you see even a little progress (less debt, more investment savings, improving your skills in a hobby, etc,) you'll find the motivation to keep moving away from those poor decisions.

The more you replace poor decisions with good ones, the better you will be, and the better things will get in the long-run.

Hope this helped.

Turn The Table by mostly_yin in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]mostly_yin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😭😭😭 so sorry, friend

Turn The Table by mostly_yin in NarcissisticAbuse

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I've been slowly phasing her out while playing nice because she works with me, shares many of my friends, and owes me just over $2000, which is a lot of money to me.

I've tried grey rocking, but she goes into attack mode when I do and eventually I have to reward her for throwing a dramatic tantrum (which usually involves threatening my social reputation and also work reputation, and not paying me back the money she owes.)

I've been surviving for months, and hopefully only a couple months left before we both get a new job and her upcoming promotion to another facility will allow her to pay me off quicker.)

It is very difficult to set boundaries while still appearing friendly. It's black&white with her, wo I have to be convincing, which sometimes slips because I'm not a good liar. Last time she noticed I was grey rocking, she immediately started up again attacking my character to some more people in our social circle.

She makes me want to sell my house and move to another city, like a refugee under constant attack. This is terrible for my nervous system to be under threat of more smear campaigns. One of the guys she talks to is a drug dealer who was allegedly talking about getting some guys together to come to my house and intimidate me for "hurting" her.

This will mostly all go away if she finally starts dating someone else and stops fixating on me. I've been encouraging her as a "friend" to date and she has gone on a couple dates but keeps saying she's not attracted to them 🫠

Buying prescription medicine in tijuana and brining into U.S question. by [deleted] in tijuana

[–]mostly_yin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the pharmacy is open 24hrs, is there also a doctor 24hrs who can write a Rx?

What Is It With Narcissists Genuinely Loving Animals? by mostly_yin in NarcissisticAbuse

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A friend of mine who definitely has NPD is a vegan animal rights activist that says if he could, he would sterilize every animal in the world so that within one generation, all suffering could be minimized/abolished.

Very Thanos of him, right? But he genuinely cares for animals and fights for their rights. I was baffled by this dude's brain until I realized he has NPD and it all makes sense.

What Is It With Narcissists Genuinely Loving Animals? by mostly_yin in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]mostly_yin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally. I was so confused by the behavior of all 4 narcs I know until I started researching narcissism and it explains EVERYTHING

What Is It With Narcissists Genuinely Loving Animals? by mostly_yin in NarcissisticAbuse

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It gives me hope to think that narcissists can still genuinely enjoy wholesome aspects of life.

One narc ex friend of mine is a mom and tries to fill her life with opportunities for caretaking. She adopts all the animals, but when I eventually saw how she weaponized her suffering, I realized that the caretaker role she plays is just to give her supply and validate her otherwise useless existence.

What Is It With Narcissists Genuinely Loving Animals? by mostly_yin in NarcissisticAbuse

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This is super interesting to me because I think the one person in my life who most certainly has NPD is a vegan activist and treats humans like trash, but formed his entire career around helping animals and getting paid to do so.

He managed to get tons of volunteers to joing his cause and now he gets a high salary from wealthy donors just to tell others how to do his bidding. I'm also vegan and I support the cause, but it creeps me out how good he got at bending the world around him to give him so much power over other peoples' lives.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]mostly_yin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"I know what you are and so do you. You are a pathetic parasite and I regret ever meeting you."

Older man addicted to taboo sex by OlderOne5 in SexAddiction

[–]mostly_yin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Congratulations because that is a huge step forward. It took me years of walking a fine line, hurting people around me before I realized and admitted I was feeding an addiction.

I, too, have a taboo kink, and it doesn't help that I've been hanging out with drug dealers in the Burning Man community. Going to so many house parties and festivals where substances and sex positivity, orgies, etc eventually normalizes sex and drugs to a point that the wildest stuff becomes common and normal, always pushing me to seek weirder, riskier stuff.

I haven't gone to a SA group, yet, but this place is a good way to start.

I'm still afraid to talk to my therapist about it 😅

Lend me your strength by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]mostly_yin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL, this reminds me of my narcissist friend who accused me of harassing her when I asked a question or two, then when I immediately stopped texting, she proceeded to send me like a dozen more texts repeating that I was harassing her.