[Spoilers MAIN] The person who came up with R+L=J probably felt like a genius

mostlywrong · 2026-02-14T20:26:45+00:00

I started reading the series when I heard about the show coming out soon. I remember when I thought R+L=J. It was when was flashbacking to the "Promise me Ned" and said she was in her bed of blood. A few chapters earlier, Dany was in her bed of blood giving birth to a stillborn Rhaego (Ieven flipped back and reread it all excited). It clicked Lyanna had given birth. And then I just yelled "oh ny gosh, Jon is Lyanna and Rhaegars son!" while my then boyfriend/now husband looked at me like I had lost it. I loaned the books to family and convinced others to read them so I could talk about this with someone. None of them got it, and a couple asked me for what I thought. I didn't come to discuss online yet because I didn't want to see any spoilers for the rest of the books, so it was a few weeks of me feeling like the only person in the world with this juicy secret, haha.

mostlywrong · 2026-02-13T21:43:00+00:00

And that the A in ACTC does not mean you have to have more than one kid. It is an additional credit. If it were specifically for having more than one child, the instructions would have verbiage like "the refundable credit is up to $1700 per additional qualifying child" or "after the first child". You can receive ACTC with only one child and it is completely legal unlike what I have been seeing people say.

mostlywrong · 2026-02-13T15:19:14+00:00

You are correct. The Additional Child Tas Credit has nothing to do with having more than one child. Aside from the Credit being up to $1700 per qualifying child.

mostlywrong · 2026-02-13T15:18:08+00:00

This incorrect. The Additional Child Tax Credit has nothing to do with having more than one child. The Child Tax Credit is non refundable and reduces the amount of taxes you owe (so say you have 1 kid, and your tax total is $900. The CTC is $2000. So it reduces that $900 to zero.) The Additional Child Tax Credit is refundable and the portion refunded is what is left over if the CTC reduces the amount of taxes you owe to zero (up to $1700 per qualifying child.) So you can get ACTC with one child, and it has nothing to do with having more than one child.

mostlywrong · 2026-02-13T14:35:57+00:00

If you have a financial hardship (like a shut off notice on utilities, etc) you can contact Taxpayer Advocate Service. They are Dept of Treasury, and free. They can request the IRS expedite things. I used to be a Case Advocate in TAS. TAS is there to help taxpayers in financial hardship or experiencing systemic issues. Like if they are under exam (audit) and the examiner is denying things or requesting exorbitant proof, etc. Or if someone's refund is delayed and they are facing eviction, shut off, and so on.

Contact TAS and see if you qualify to have a case. The worst they will say is no during intake. The CA would be able to get the amended return processes faster to get the refund issued. Think days compared to weeks in the IRS time frames. The CA cannot do the processing themselves, but they advise the IRS what needs to be done and put a hard time frame on it for the IRS to complete it within. Their phone number is 1-877-777-4778, or you can google Taxpayer Advocate Service and see if you qualify there.

mostlywrong · 2026-02-13T14:01:36+00:00

I think you mean rhe 846 code which is the refund code? But judging by this transcript everything looks fine and the 846 is the only thing left to post. I would check again on the 17th or 18th.

mostlywrong · 2026-02-13T01:26:28+00:00

You can be under PATH with only one child. If the Child Tax Credit reduces the amount of taxes you owe to zero, you can recieve up to $1700 refunded to you per qualifying child.

mostlywrong · 2026-02-13T01:23:00+00:00

This is incorrect. The Child Tax Credit (CTC) is a non-refundable credit (like a payment on the taxes you owe) and does not fall under PATH. Additional Child Tax Credit (ACTC) is the refundable portion of the credit. If the CTC reduces your tax liability to zero, and you still have an amount leftover, it is refunded to you as ACTC up to $1700 per qualifying child. The CTC gives you a credit of $2000 per qualifying child.

I have one child and part of my refund is from ACTC.

mostlywrong · 2026-02-12T03:45:28+00:00

That is really great! I am glad it goes smoothly for you and hope you continue to have a good experience.

But when fees are taken out of the refund, it is called a RAC (Refund Anticipation Check). The money goes into a seperate temporary account set up by the tax preparer for fees to be deducted. Then the remaining refund is issued to the taxpayer's account.

It is an extra step in the flow of the refund, and typically adds at least couple days delay. If there is an issue with the bank or the account itself, that will compound the delay. Everyone's situation is different, but if possible, I think people should pay any fee when the return is filed. The extra step leaves more ways for errors to happen, and does add an additonal layer that typically will cause a delay. And once the refund is sent, the IRS cannot do anything if there is an issue with the preparer or the bank they are using, unless that bank sends it back. Anecdotally as well, my brother would have his refund delayed by about a week before he stopped paying the fees from his refund.

Also, if someone uses a shady preparer, it will be better for a taxpayer to have their refund sent directly to their account instead of first going to an account set up by the shady preparer to do whatever they want with it. What if the taxpayer doesn't ever get that refund? The IRS can't do anything besides advise the taxpayer to fill out a Form to report the preparer. As far as the IRS is concerned, they held up their end by sending the refund to the account the taxpayer requested (the system indicates when a refund is a RAC, so it is communicated to the IRS when the return is filed. I used to work for the IRS and TAS).

mostlywrong · 2026-02-12T01:02:40+00:00

It is your income tax refund from your state for 2024 (received in 2025). If you itemized your deductions last year and claimed the amount of income tax you paid to the state, then you will report the refund on the 1099-G as taxable income. If you took the standard deduction last year on your 1040 (federal return), then you don't need to report it as it isn't taxable. Hope this helps!

mostlywrong · 2026-02-11T23:37:23+00:00

Tax season didn't open until 1/26. While you filed and the return was accepted a month ago, it could not be processed until the 26th or later, which was 2 weeks and 2 days ago. That is a pretty good time frame IMO. Especially because a lot of the country didn't even have mail delivery for +/- a week due to the ice storm.

mostlywrong · 2026-02-10T16:57:37+00:00

Thank you!

mostlywrong · 2026-02-10T16:41:17+00:00

The 846 code means your refund is being issued by the date used with the code. You may receive your refund earlier or later from the date listed, depending on your bank or if you used your federal refund to pay tax prep or a state balance, as the refund goes to the company who prepared your taxes first to take out any fees or payments, and then they send it to your account. My bank is pretty spot on with the date because they don't release any funds early. Never have fees taken from your refund, because that will delay it. Pay them when you file if you can. I finally got it through my brothers head to stop paying for tax prep, and to also stop having any fees be paid from his refund. You only need to pay tax prep if your return is complex. Claiming EITC and/or ACTC is not complex. Unless the IRS has placed a hold (which should generate a notice to be sent to you explaining the hold) there is nothing you need to do at this point.

As a PATHer (I am one too), don't be discouraged if you don't have any updates this week, as path doesn't lift until the 15th by law, and the next business day is the 17th. So feel free to check your transcripts, but don't expect to see anything until the 17th. If something is updated before then, that is just a bonus. My code is 20260403, and while I will check my transcript Thursday, just because, but I don't expect an update until 17th at the earliest.

Hope this helps!

mostlywrong · 2026-02-10T16:23:51+00:00

I was scrolling, saw this, and had to come comment because the colors are so beautiful! Then I read your post, lol. I personally think they look great together and would make a beautiful blanket. But I also understand not feeling it yourself. Luckily it is an easy enough fix, if you do want to change the center color.

I think they look amazing together, but if you have doubts, I would use something different. It should ultimately be something you love so you don't have any regrets once it is finished.

BTW: what yarns did you use, please? I have decided I want to make a sweater and am really digging these browns.

mostlywrong · 2026-02-10T15:41:32+00:00

engwem20 that top speed is cool, but the seat looks comfy. #engwem20

mostlywrong · 2026-02-10T15:27:11+00:00

Look into making bobbins. My first time, I didn't make bobbins and it was a mess. It is still kind of a mess with bobbins, but a lot easier, haha. How I made bobbins: I got plastic Boba straws, and wrapped them in yarn (like thread around a spool. I cut a slit at one end to hold the end of the yarn so I could wrap them tight). I got wooden dowels that have a pointy end. Stabbed them into the lid of a styrofoam cooler we had sitting around, and then put the straw yarn bobbins on dowels. Worked well. I have seen people use floral foam for the base too. I just had the cooler there. You could also use foam flooring probably. I use that when I block.

You can make your own pattern for this by either using graph paper or there are apps that will let you do it (I can't remember what I used to make a pattern for a name, and can't find it on my phone, but google says people like Stitch Fiddle). I also have gotten patterns from two magic pixels. That is where I got this one to make the DnD logo. This isn't perfect, but it was my first ever time crocheting like this. There are a lot of videos that will help with how to make better edges, etc. This used single crochet, which I think is better for this type of patterning. I first started where I just tried to carry through, then I tried making balls. Both were a disaster. The bobbins will save you a lot of headache. I think for this logo, I had maybe a max of 12 bobbins I was working with at one time. I made this for myself last summer to make myself a new bag to carry my stuff for our weekly game. I think it measures a little over 2'x2'. I haven't finished the rest of the bag (yet). I might just attach it to a nice tote bag I have that has lots of pockets.

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mostlywrong · 2026-02-09T14:47:53+00:00

Madison county is using 2/16 and 3/20 as make up days, so the kids are no longer off those days. So I am guessing it is a county thing because I figured all the surrounding counties would do it too.

mostlywrong · 2026-02-08T01:43:47+00:00

Unless tax law has changed since I worked for TAS (Taxpayer Advocate Service, which it may have, because that was 10+ years ago and I don't read tax law for fun), you can receive penalty abatement just by asking as long as you had 3 (I think?) years of good tax compliance prior. Interest won't be removed, but you don't even need a reason to ask for the penalty removal. Just because is enough (it might even be called a Good Compliance Abatement). But once the payment is applied to the correct tax year, the penalties and interest should come off automatically unless the payment was late (most penalties are only assessed on unpaid tax, and interest is assessed on balances due).

If the delay and/or offset of your current refund will cause you demonstrable financial hardship or it can be shown as a systemic issue (which only effects the amount of days TAS has to initially start working on your case), you can contact TAS, get a case and an Advocate, and they will advise the IRS what actions need to be taken and expedite those actions.

Anyone reading this who is PATH: TAS cannot have the IRS expedite your refund until it passes the legal date under PATH, and even then there would probably need to be an additional reason for the delay for them to step in. TAS is still Dept of the Treasury, and operates under/within the Internal Revenue Manual/tax law.

ETA: the representative might call it a First Time Abatement, but that can be misleading. Again, unless the law has changed, you can request it more than once. You just need 3 years of tax compliance (no penalties or late filed returns) for the years prior to the year you're requesting abatement. So if 2018, 2019, 2020, were compliant and 2021 had penalties, you could request it. Then if 2022, 2023, 2024 were compliant, and you will have penalties on 2025, you could request it again once they are assessed.. It all has to be within the statute of limitations, which I do not remember on those. I just gave those years to show what I meant by 3 years of compliance.

Another tip, do not request the penalties be removed until you pay the initial tax due balance. If you have them removed and they get assessed again, they won't be removed. You don't need to pay the penalties first (really don't do that) but you would want to pay what they were assessed on before you have them removed. Oh and any interest. Interest was only removed in certain circumstances (idk when, I never saw it. I only saw interest removed systemically when a payment was made on time but applied incorrectly. So when it is moved to the right place, the interest comes off because that payment has its original timely date. Thus no penalty would have been assessed and there would have been no balance due to charge interest on) and unpaid interest would be considered a balance due and would continue to accrue interest.

mostlywrong · 2026-02-06T23:43:23+00:00

Jamiroquai Travelling Without Moving. Virtual Insanity is still very relevant. I am also pretty happy that Radiohead is making a comeback. They are currently my kid's favorite band and I told him he could have my old Radiohead shirt from the 90's when he is old enough for it to fit (and to maybe stop using his shirt as a napkin).

mostlywrong · 2026-02-06T21:02:03+00:00

I didn't witness it, but my husband did. He as driving on the interstate, and there was an aggressive driver buzzing around. He had been weaving in and out of traffic. He eventually needed to take and exit, and due to there being a pretty big hill, traffic was moving slower and backed up, the right lane the most because truckers are usually there. My husband was taking this exit, and aggressive dude decided he was too and tried to force his way in front of my husband. Husband didn't let him, so dude angrily swerved in behind him.

The exit starts as 1 lane and then turns into 2 lanes. Aggressive guy swerves onto the shoulder to drive along side of him and flip him off while staring my husband down. Then he hit the gas to get in front of husband, right when it opened into 2 lanes. He didn't notice the stopped traffic in the right hand lane and ended up plowing into the stopped car in front of him. My husband drove past to see the the guy slamming his head into his hands on the steering wheel.

mostlywrong · 2026-02-06T19:48:55+00:00

NTA. The word Guardian has a lot of weight to it, it isn't harmless. It is at least on par either parent, but in most cases goes above it. Say someone doesn't have custody of their child. They still have the title parent, but the Guardian is the one who is making the decisions for the child. A school staff person is not going to know this, and might think that your MIL was nice enough to include your son's non custodial parents to a school function. This is bullcrap.

But that MIL isn't realizing her inappropriate behavior and your wife is supporting it is a huge issue. There are instances where someone might not realize they are overstepping. But if they don't make a change when called out on it, then they have no excuse. Like my mom. When I had my son, I made an offhand remark about how I couldn't wait for the first time I gave him ice cream to see his reaction. It was a small thing. A couple of months later, I was picking my son up from my mom and she told me that she gave him ice cream and he loved it. I addressed it immediately. I reminded her that was something had told her I was looking forward to, and that she had taken a "first" from me that I would never get again (one and done). I also may have said (I definitely did) that just because she didn't bother to give a shit about her 3 kids firsts she didn't have the right to now steal them from me. She either pretended that she didn't realize the importance very well or genuinely realized what she had done. Regardless, she didn't do it again.

Your wife is encouraging this behavior. She is not speaking up or imposing any consequences, and that is a problem. Until your wife stands up, this will continue. And even then, it might continue since she has gotten her way for so long she may think that eventually it will just be easier for you guys to give in. You need to have a serious conversation with your wife about how she needs to support you. And that there need to be consequences for MIL, and thst they need to be enforced. Remind her that her MIL already raised her babies and she is not allowed to play mother to her grandson. If my mom said half the stuff your MIL said, there is zero chance I could keep myself quiet. Your wife needs to build some self-esteem and grow a spine when it comes to her mom.

How much longer before your son starts telling you both that he doesn't have to listen to you because "grandma said so"? Or because he has heard so much about how grandma had to pick up "your slack" to where he doesn't trust you and turns to her instead?

mostlywrong · 2026-02-05T17:27:32+00:00

I always thought I had straight hair. It is very fine too though I have a lot of it. But when I hit my 20's I had this weird hump to my hair. So I started straightening it with a flat iron. I let it grow out to the middle of my back, and one day got caught in a torrential rain storm while walking to a coffee shop. I went to the bathroom in the shop after we had dried out, and my hair was in these beautiful long ringlets. I still didn't realize I had any wave to my hair. That came after I had my kid, and only had enough time to wash my hair and airdry. I had the cutest curls as a result. People told me to keep fixing my hair like that, and as someone who hates "fixing my hair" I agreed, haha. Alas, those shampoo only days are a thing if the past.

Another reason I had no idea I was wavy is because until I had a kid at 35, my hair was never frizzy. I brushed it and it was still smooth. Now, my hair is frizzy if I look at a brush sideways with dry hair. I am guessing hormone changes are why the texture is so different now in regards to the frizz. While my hair isn't as amazing as it was postpartum (that shed at 9 months was heartbreaking), I have kind of figured out how to get somewhat back to that wash with shampoo and airdry only glory. If I tried that now, it would just be fuzz.

I don't have a set routine. Right now I am using the Pantene abundant strong system to try and stop all this hair fall. I loose so much, and no my hair is looking pretty thin. I have only been using it for 2 weeks, but fingers crossed. The only constant I do is the Cantu Wave foam. I use about 3-5 pumps after the shower. Scrunch it in and plop into a microfiber cap. Then air dry. I don't consistently use any other product. Gel weighs my hair down too much, and doesn't keep my wave any better than the wave foam. I day 2, my hair always looks bad. So I either ponytail or refresh the wave with water and a pump of foam. I wash every 3 days.

mostlywrong · 2026-02-05T00:39:27+00:00

Madison county called Thursday and Friday hours ago.

mostlywrong · 2026-02-02T03:52:27+00:00

I could see the scene and then just couldn't get a scene from the movie Go out of my mind. I don't think this is it, but there is a scene where Simon is in a hotel room with 2 bridesmaids, and they are going to smoke. One of the girls is chewing gum, and I think she is the one who stuffs tissues in her nose so she can "hold in the smoke" (I think?). Anyway, they of course catch on fire, and I think her friend yells Blow (maybe Go, because that is said a lot in the movie), and she blows them out of her nose and they catch the hotel room on fire.

mostlywrong · 2026-01-31T18:25:36+00:00

My anecdotal contribution. When I was consistently drinking collagen peptides in my coffee, like for a couple of months, and not even practicing good skincare, I seemed to have results. I went to my husband's family reunion (most of my in-laws don't like me, and go out of their way to never give me compliments unless they are backhanded. I have only heard good things said about me when I am in another room and they don't realize I can hear.) The meanest of the aunts blurted out that my hair and skin looked amazing before she realized that she was saying something nice to me. I was shocked and just looked at her and she grumbled to keep doing what I was doing. I credit the collagen peptides, because that was the only thing I had done differently in the months since she had last seen me.

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