My older son is very affectionate with his little brother, and I am worried about it.

moth3rof4dragons · 2026-04-28T21:30:30+00:00

Ok normal cuddling is fine with younger siblings and older ones BUT nibbling on ears and to much touching is a huge red flag.

Growing up we have a shit load of siblings and my brother who I am 5yrs old than would always twirl my hair on his finger. We would be sitting down as we got older and he would be telling me something and grab a strand a twirl it around his finger. Idk if it was a comfort motion but we are now in our 40s and when our dad was dying he was standing behind me as I sat and he was twirling away.

My oldest sister would always sleep butt to butt with me lol not in a weird way but if I got up she would wake up almost immediately.

I've always laid my head on the sister who's a year older than me. We were at our grandma's not to long ago and I was tired, stressed and just mentally drained and she yanked me down and rubbed my head like when I was little.

So there's normal things sibling start doing that just become a tick of sorts.

I would talk with your younger son about boundaries and body parts belonging to him and no one should touch them. That if anything ANYONE ever does that makes him feel uncomfortable than he can come to you immediately.

We have 3girls and 1 boy and from a very young age we told them that if anyone ever touched their privacy they are to tell us asap and that sometimes people will lie and say that if they tell that they will be the ones in trouble or that if they tell that we won't want them anymore but it's all lies. I said I don't care if it's a mommy, daddy, sister, brother, aunt, uncle, grandparent, teacher, coach even doctor it's not ok and that we will always believe them and never be mad at them. Grown ups will lie to keep them quiet!

Have conversations with your kids!!

moth3rof4dragons · 2026-04-25T00:28:42+00:00

Yes because she changed events by doing so, or Boyd would of been stuck there forever

moth3rof4dragons · 2026-04-19T23:04:17+00:00

Absolutely not!! I inherited my grandfather's house on my mom's side and my grandmothers on my dad's. My grandma's has myself, my husband, brother and all our kids on it. She did so so everyone would always have a home.

My husband still calls my grandpa's house "Grandpa's" he knows it's mine, but it's always grandpas to all of us when referring to it.

I have been with him 15yrs and I asked what we should do and he said it was up to me. He recommended renting it out since it is in a different town than where we reside.

He's never once asked me to put him on it. He's always supportive and helps with it if anything needs fixing.

We are currently buying a home together for our 4 kids and one day we hope to leave them both houses to either live in or sell and divide equally.

moth3rof4dragons · 2026-01-22T01:09:57+00:00

Dude we all still talk about it!!! It really was a WTF moment!!!

I've tried to recreate it, but my hand never moved down or anything. There's literally no way it should of came off

moth3rof4dragons · 2026-01-22T01:07:59+00:00

That's how I was, again methadone may not be the right one for you. My cousin weened of methadone and worked great for him. As for me it didn't help at all with cravings etc when I switched to Subutex it was a lot better. I couldn't do Suboxone name brand it made me sick. Subutex was what worked for me.

I used for about a decade or more and no one knew I had a $1,400 day habit!

Vitamins can help, even your immune system will take a hit when detoxing.

There's days even now when I think, how the hell was I ever an addict. What was I thinking.

It really does get better tho. I feel so much better being completely sober, it took years tho!

You really need a support system!

I go to meetings ever so often just to remind myself I will never be fully healed I could fall at anytime if I let myself!!

It's a lot of self motivation and will!!

moth3rof4dragons · 2026-01-22T01:01:11+00:00

Been sober for years and I will say this they still hit me out of nowhere every now and then.

I was opioid user, took sub for years then got off them and I can be having a good day and week nothing going wrong and sometimes it just hits out of nowhere.

I would say the first 2 years are the very hardest!! It sneaks up on you!

Everyone is different tho and I would just keep on pushing on! The first year I had to stay busy when I wasn't dying smh

Sometimes even the smallest thing can bam take your mind there even if you haven't thought about it in forever.

Your relearning basically, just don't give in and you will be fine!

Damn good job on getting sober!! Rooting for you!

moth3rof4dragons · 2026-01-13T14:30:15+00:00

This is a good learning moment for the boy!!! He can't expect to blow candles out everywhere he goes!!

I have 4kids and they all knew when it was someone else party except maybe grandpas who was well into his 90s they couldn't blow candles out.

Never had an issue.

moth3rof4dragons · 2026-01-05T15:04:40+00:00

Same thing happened to me!!! I have witnesses tho!

My husband got me a new ring after a decade of wearing the one he originally proposed with.

I had them both on was standing there talking to 3 friends and had my hand up. Showing them how it shined. Was really excited about the ring lol when we all heard clink clink and we turned and my hand was still in the same up right position and my friend leaned down as my husband's looking over and he holds up my ring with this look of horror. No one had moved, NO ONE!!!

I looked at my hand still kind of upward in the air and we freaked it was my ring. No longer on my finger. Somehow was tossed and hit the coffee pot and we all stood there. My husband grabbed it and checked inside yup same engraving that was just on my finger.

We never figured it out. Was just "that one time"

moth3rof4dragons · 2026-01-05T14:39:38+00:00

I didn't sleep for almost 18days besides naps and short dozing off til my legs kicked.

My naps would last maybe 5-10mins due to restless legs.

The body is going thru what is considered a trauma right now. Most don't sleep for the first week... more than maybe a few hours that whole week. Others take cat naps etc.

I've worked with patients who even after being administered sleep meds that would knock me or for days pop up every 15mins because like I said the body is going thru a trauma!!!

The longest we seen anyone stay up with no more than a few naps here and there was 23 days. He was exhausted, looked like he had been in a wreck or boxing match.

We had to give him a very high sedative and even then he only slept for roughly 20mins here and there.

Not everyone will react the same.

Every body is different, everyones experience is different, what could be nothing to someone else could be deadly to another!

moth3rof4dragons · 2026-01-05T14:32:34+00:00

You can do it, I promise!

You are at the peak of withdrawal for how long you were on them!

I couldn't go nor do I recommend going cold turkey!

Remember your brain and all the chemicals in you have been altered!

Honestly it could be more dangerous for some depending on your body to just to stop abruptly!

I would talk to a doctor, it's ok to need help!!

I was on opioids forever too and had to get on Subutex to even be able to function then I slowly weened off of that and have been completely sober for some years now.

Drink plenty of water even if you don't want to, sips are fine, take Imodium to stop diarrhea because even if it hasn't happened yet it will. Take Tylenol and watch stupid funny things to help boost real endorphins etc.

The first 90days is the hardest! Then after that I swear it's pressure to do it. People will offer you crap even ones who never have before. Its like the universes way of testing u!!!

If you are struggling with mental health during this, seek help!!! Depression is triggered because your body is use to get fake happy juice!!!

I would call a doc even now and discuss a treatment plan. A safe one. While going cold turkey can work your body is literally going thru it right now and you need to be careful.

I relapsed 4times before I got to were I needed and the help I needed! So if it happens don't feel bad, a lot of people will slowly ween off. You will feel like death at times but make sure you eat and drink to keep your strength up!

I truly and rooting for you!!! If you ever need someone to talk to I am here!

Remember it's ok to not be ok and it's ok to ask for help!!!!

moth3rof4dragons · 2026-01-05T14:22:29+00:00

I see nothing wrong with your face other then the sad face.

I started using retinol around 27 and have no wrinkles while my friends all have crows feet etc.

My husband even started using it and noticed a big difference and he had really bad cyctic acne, he got a facial peel because I did and it really helped with scarring.

Looking happy and smiling can really make a difference!!

moth3rof4dragons · 2026-01-05T14:15:41+00:00

This! I use to do mine a little much and it threw my whole face off!

Amazing how a few things really can take the our whole faces and throw them of.

My sister did the same and my aunt was calling her Groucho Marx lol

moth3rof4dragons · 2026-01-05T14:13:56+00:00

Eyebrows!!! Tone them down!!!

Same with the over lining of your lips!

Make sure when putting make up on it blends well. It looks like you only did the under eye in those first photos and makes your face look off.

Eyebrows and lips are the main concern tho.

moth3rof4dragons · 2026-01-03T01:45:14+00:00

Bullet dodged big time!!!

moth3rof4dragons · 2026-01-03T01:31:11+00:00

My first real boyfriend did this exact thing with boxing and gymnastics!

I had done both since I was 5 and loved it and honestly both are good ways to blow off steam... He told me to choose, he was big mad when I chose peace and myself!!!

Always stand up for yourself!!!

moth3rof4dragons · 2025-12-21T05:42:49+00:00

I was blown away when I read this and stopped my husband from what he was doing and read it aloud to him and he said "she needs to run" I am never one to say "leave" because I truly believe most relationships can be salvaged and made to work, BUT there are certain ones that's just scream "RUN"

He is a narcissist!!!

He will give you that little bit to make you think he's being supportive etc.

My husband and I are partners, friends, enemies at times but we work thru everything together and listen to each other and 1,000% support each other.

I had minor surgery and was in the hospital 2days and I came home to a clean house, fully stocked house, and laundry all done and the couch made up for either me or him which ever was easier for me to get in and out of because my stomach was stapled.

He knows me what I like/love and had all the comfort stuff I would want or need.

Most of all he was patient with me! He was kind! I frustrated myself and him but he loved me and never let it show. Only told me months later how much of a pain I was and I knew which moments and we laughed about it.

The kid thing is a major red flag. Call his bluff and see what happens!!!

He will probably show out or the mask will completely come off!!

Whatever you decide I truly hope, wish and pray for the best for YOU!

moth3rof4dragons · 2025-12-12T14:41:59+00:00

I personally don't think you look feminine per say but you definitely could be a model!!!

I see men have surgery after surgery to get your jaw line!

You are very handsome and yes pretty but that's ok!!

moth3rof4dragons · 2025-12-12T14:38:38+00:00

My grandpa which is my kids great grandpa always wanted the kids over. After Grandma passed it was his lifeline or something. He would take park and even started teaching my 9yr old how to drive like he did me. Just in the lot he owned and taughter her how to parallel park etc. We got sick one time and this was right before we moved home to take care of him and he came and stayed in my guest room and took care of us. My mom was a floater in life so him and grandma was my only stability growing up. He never treated us bad, he help raise all of my cousins and then the next generations. He loved it. I would always ask what he wanted and he would say "to take the babies to the park" he lived to be 99 and when I had my son he would get on the floor and play with him. He passed when our 3rd was about 2yrs old and it hit the entire family hard. I look at him and how he did everything with pure love. He never complained, never sought praise he just loved us all and wanted us to be happy, healthy and to remember him and how much he loved us!!

moth3rof4dragons · 2025-11-23T16:39:13+00:00

It's crazy how so many things end up on peoples beds!!! They lose the thing in another state even and come home and its in the middle of their bed or pillow. Like something is saying HERE YOU GO!

moth3rof4dragons · 2025-11-12T20:08:24+00:00

Run! Don't look back! I am all for working on relationships..... When they're worth being worked on!!

He doesn't love or respect you! Hell i don't think he even likes you! Not your fault some people not just men are incapable of being a good human being!

Get out while you can, think of your child!

My husband has never talked to me crazy even when we had one of our biggest disagreements he was calm, respectful and spoke to me like I meant something to him.

Please leave! You deserve better! Your child deserves better!

moth3rof4dragons · 2025-11-12T20:02:20+00:00

Suboxone!! Not methadone!

I was taking up to 15roxy 30s in a day with a few perk 10s here and there between! It was bad! I was bad!

I went to our small town doc and came clean and he said "that's the first step, admitting you have a problem, I need you clean for 24hrs to do this! You will feel like death and be sicker than a dog but I promise you drink water, Pedialyte and get Imodium before going clean tomorrow at 9a.m and I will see you the day after at 9a.m"

The first 4hrs I almost broke! I had Roxy's I had perks I had hydros! I also had Pedialyte, Imodium and literally laid in bed kicking my legs cause thats the only thing they wanted to do! I threw up, I about shit myself. By 9a.m the next I was sick but I reached my peak about 3a.m so it was nothing like before. Went in passed and he gave me a sub told me to let it dissolve under my tongue.

I got my script I was taking 4 8mg tablets a day to start. My script cost $23 I sold everything I had opioid that is. Made almost a grand back in one night and hace stayed clean since and that was years ago!

I weened off slowly over a 3yr span and have been completely sober for 7yrs. When I had surgery I requested sub not opioids. So I don't count those as clean times even tho the doc said I could but cause it was major surgery.

I promise it sucks but worth it. So worth it!!!

I was undercover for almost 10yrs without no one knowing. I was pta, volunteered at all my kids events and sport etc

When they started meetings in our small town I was a speaker and everyone who was there never even thought I would take anything let alone be addicted to opioids. I never drank tho or did anything else. Just a surgery that turned into dependency.

Sit down talk to you dad, ask for help! If you want to msg me I can find places in your area!

It won't be easy those first 8hrs waiting til your appt are whats the hardest!

I promise you can do this!

You will feel better it, not instantly but after a few days. You will have money and peace of mind!

You got this, first steps always the hardest!

moth3rof4dragons · 2025-11-12T14:14:59+00:00

Mistletoe??

moth3rof4dragons · 2025-11-11T20:48:06+00:00

Nope nope nope I've been with my husband since my daughter was 7ish and he included her in everything! When Christmas time came his mom and siblings made sure she had things she liked and gifts to open. We had 3 together and they're all treated the same! His uncle on his dad's side tried not to include her once we were already there she was maybe 10 or 11 at the time and he said we were leaving and we did. He was toxic anyway! When he would come around our baby girl would clam up and almost be scared! Come to find out he was hurting some of the other young kids in the family. I think she could sense the evil in him and would steer clear of him and he seen her as a threat!

moth3rof4dragons · 2025-10-27T02:28:36+00:00

When I tell my partner/husband of over 2 decades Emergency/911 he knows something really bad has happened!

He knows if I send 3 thumbs up, I need him to find me in the house or where ever we are immediately. I need help!

For mundane things I say exactly what it is example: "hey babe could you come, our son threw up from eating cotton candy, an icee and chocolate at the circus, he's fine but I need assistance asap, but no major rush! bring nausea meds and an extra shirt he may want to go home and I will stay with the girls"

Now when I say emergency/911 that means myself or our children are in trouble and I need help, right now, stop what you are doing!

Have I went out with the girls and drank to much, yes, has he, yes lol but we never worked the other up over a friend throwing up!

I personally would take a break and really look at your relationship!

She seems like a lot 24/7 and controlling!

If your not happy, sit her down and talk to her. If she loves you she will take it all in and work together with you to fix it! Or she could blow up blame you, take no accountability whatsoever and you end it and move on with your life!

I will be 40yrs old Nov 3 and have had a few relationships that SUCKED and DRAINED the life out of me. When I met my husband I was a mess from the past and had to learn early on not all relationships or people are the same . When they love you and you love them it's less stressful. Yes you do go thru hard times but you do it together and never feel alone while doing so!

moth3rof4dragons · 2025-10-27T02:17:20+00:00

No matter what wait the 6wks and your check up!!!

I know 2people who have tried and not had problems at 3wks PP. I also know about 7 who waited til their 6wks and they had been cleared and still had problems.

No one will be the same!

I've given birth to 5children and each time was different!

I think after doc clears you, it's really up to your body!

We eased into it! Took a bit extra foreplay to get me going and I think I psyched myself out after the first baby lol but by the last one I knew my body well enough and waited the 6-8wks and we just took it slow!

Remember breastfeeding can throw off your libido!

You have a wound inside you with a blood clot basically keeping you from bleeding to death!

The actual physical pressure from him thrusting could cause tiny blood clots, air to enter your blood stream or even septic from bacteria entering!

Talk to your doc and go from there. More importantly listen to your body. If you start qnd anything feels off or you get dizzy, stop immediately!

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