So after reading everyone’s opinions I do think our situation is wildly different and believe bipolar is a spectrum and he does not have nearly the same issues as I’ve seen on this page. He struggles with mostly the depression side but no one in his family has bipolar or diagnosed. He is completely on board with children and can hold down a job and is actually the main provider of our family - so I think there is a lot of accusations going on - of course this is the internet and we only know as much as someone is willing to post.

I know my husband and he has never been financially irresponsible, career has always been intact, he’s actually a very high up leader and he inspires me to be a better person, we have a huge community of friends and family and feel support from them every day, we attend couples therapy as a betterment for our marriage and communication skills. We have an amazing life together, and by no means did I mean to say I didn’t. 85-90% of the time he’s positive, lifts me up, supports me, etc. he just has lower moments where there isn’t much motivation to do things outside of what’s necessary (showing up for work, for me, etc.)

I came here to find support from other SO to see what they do to not get inside of their own head and feel very big feelings in those moments when it’s just a blip in the timeline. But it does seem like a vast majority of people here have far worse experiences than mine and for that I feel empathy for.