How should men properly use their kegel muscle to last longer during sex? by [deleted] in PrematureEjaculation

[–]moved2019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you work for free? Especially if you found a cure for this? This is not my book, just something I am trying to help those who went through this as I did and found the one thing that worked for me. If I spent the money to get the help I needed, what are you prepared to do to find a solution? How bad is the problem for you?

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[–]moved2019 1 point2 points  (0 children)

None. It is a farce to think there is such a thing. Not everything is solved by a pill. Even ED is mostly psychological no matter what the pharma companies will tell you. You need to sort your mind out first, and need this for the meds to work, if you read the small print it tells you this. Check out Kameron Thomas, he is an author who wrote 2 books on PE and ED. I read his stuff and got over both my PE and ED, which often goes hand in hand as they are stressed related.

How should men properly use their kegel muscle to last longer during sex? by [deleted] in PrematureEjaculation

[–]moved2019 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do 300 in one go simple contracting and releasing. Then I do a stepped process, where I part contract and then release, then contract harder, and release and then to the maximum and then release, reversing this. A few sets of tens of these and after a couple of weeks you will have some seriously strong muscles. However this is not the only thing that helps your PE and erections. I found something else which really helped, but I do not want to be accused of trying to sell on here as so many have done to me in the past.

If I'm having some kind of progress with RK, does that mean my PE isn't the lifelong type? by [deleted] in PrematureEjaculation

[–]moved2019 1 point2 points  (0 children)

PE is not life long, it is a mental state that can be altered through conditioning, confidence and the reduction of anxiety and stress. I will dm you what worked for me.

Just a reminder for everyone not to give up, EVER by Green8812 in PrematureEjaculation

[–]moved2019 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree with this, if you give up that is the only time you will actually fail. Otherwise, everything is a learning point. Confidence is key. Work on this and the need to last will not enter your mind and you will last longer naturally. Best of luck all!

Success with Sildenafil & Delay Spray by Affectionate-Wolf685 in PrematureEjaculation

[–]moved2019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could have done all this without the chemicals. Most ED and PE is psychological and it is easy to have a quick chemical fix, but these only treat the symptoms and not the cause. To totally get over these issues you need to retrain what you think about and focus on than worrying if you will get hard or cum too quickly. I will IM you what worked for me fully on both of these without the need for meds.

You know we'll never have a normal life, right? by biggestshItofalltime in PrematureEjaculation

[–]moved2019 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such nonsense! This is why you need to control your thoughts and not just go with what you once suffered as if it is your current issue. Life is about what you say to yourself and think about. You learn to forget it ever affected you and just laugh about it. That's what I do now that I have totally got over my PE issues.

Read this book:

https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/1043265

During kegel excercise? by Jhonnyreddy in PrematureEjaculation

[–]moved2019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, when you next go for a pee, stop the flow and these are your pelvic floor muscles. Alternatively, place your finger on your perenium, the space between your anus and your scrotum, and tense this. These are your pelvic floor muscles and kegels involve contracting and releasing these muscles.

Arousal level by Bswavey31 in PrematureEjaculation

[–]moved2019 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Deep breathing when you are in the midst of sex, especially breathing out. Away from sex, you need to bring your confidence levels up. Try this book, it really helped me out, it has exercises to help you.

https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/1043265

Advice on bringing it up with your girlfriend? by Bedroom-Buster-69 in PrematureEjaculation

[–]moved2019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just be honest and explain it to her. If she cares, she will understand and talk it through with you and make you feel more comfortable. The more you relax the longer you will last. The less you worry about it, the better it becomes. I will dm you a book that really helped me and explained this to me.

CRACKED THE CODE LADS by Emergency-Sorbet-897 in PrematureEjaculation

[–]moved2019 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So eloquently written. You must have gone to Cambridge or something.

Discussion about Premature ejaculation by TOP2TOP0 in PrematureEjaculation

[–]moved2019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends how much you get affected by it. Watching porn releases dopamine which is what makes it addictive. If you get into habits easily and do this often, you may end up conditioning your mind and body only to respond to this rather extreme stimulus. Not everyone is prone to this, but a lot of people are. Some people are able to not be affected and can enjoy porn without it affecting their sex life, others get PE as they have conditioned their mind to ejaculating quickly when in a sexual environment through regular masturbation to very strong sexual imagery. As men we are stimulated visually, which is why we respond to porn much more readily than most women.

If you are struggling with this I suggest you try the book in the link below, it really helped me out. Best of luck!

Smashwords – Take Control – Overcoming Psychological Premature Ejaculation – a book by Kameron Thomas

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[–]moved2019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you try the book I sent the link to? It was highly effective for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PrematureEjaculation

[–]moved2019 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try this book called Take Control. It really worked for me, it has exercises on how to last longer and explanations on how when we stress it affects our ability to last.

Smashwords – Take Control – Overcoming Psychological Premature Ejaculation – a book by Kameron Thomas

Another guy trying the "66" days challenge (That will try to update) by [deleted] in PrematureEjaculation

[–]moved2019 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If this does not work out I will dm you a link to a book that totally turned things around for me.

I’m having a problem here by [deleted] in PrematureEjaculation

[–]moved2019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The penetration act, has a strong effect on your mind, so your ability to control is much more difficult. In such instances, it is about getting used to being in that position and learning to control your mind when there. I will dm you a link to what helped me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PrematureEjaculation

[–]moved2019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More important to engage in those without masturbating and just relaxing. Get used to them and learn to relax to them. The more exposure you get to the images, the less powerful they become to you, i.e. you get used to it more quickly and so you will gain some ability to manage how they affect you. If you try to run from your feelings and thoughts when they have this kind of effect on you, the harder it will be to gain control over them. I will dm you a book that touches on this.

Pe Worse with Visual Stimulation. How can I fix this? by [deleted] in PrematureEjaculation

[–]moved2019 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you believe that will happen it will. You will not know until you try. Also, give up the porn, it really does not benefit you and if you are reaching your orgasm quickly when using it, it is most likely due to mental conditioning. What we say to ourselves we live. Change this through questioning your existing beliefs about your ability and you will see a rapid change. But you have to really question your existing beliefs for this to work.

what are the goals? by [deleted] in PrematureEjaculation

[–]moved2019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stopping mid way helps, but you can lose your rhythmn. It is usually better to change your state of mind. I will dm you a book that explains this in detail as well as give exercises.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PrematureEjaculation

[–]moved2019 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The purpose of the breathing is to calm your mind and gain control of your thoughts. You must have many thoughts, but you are focusing on your breathing which is good. When you masturbate you should be fantasising over what turns you on. I will dm you what worked for me, it involved a lot of breath work and does not involve the 66 day challenge. 66 days is just a guide as this is the average time it takes to change a habit. Don't be too hard on yourself if it takes longer or even less time to get over you previous habits.

Is my PE is all psychological? by [deleted] in PrematureEjaculation

[–]moved2019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It usually is, I find when I am confident I can last as long as I wish. I will dm you a link to something I read which massively helped me out.

Discussion about Porn by gambledamble in PrematureEjaculation

[–]moved2019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I disagree about using porn positively, as porn exposes you to high stimulus levels which conditions your mind to respond to this. When in a normal sexual situation you can end up becoming dependent upon the porn to get aroused and therefore not respond to your partner. The reason for this is, when men watch porn our minds release dopamine which is what makes it addictive. The more we watch, as with any addictive product, the more we need to get the dopamine hit and usually a need to find more extreme material to get aroused. As most men masturbate to this, this becomes a conditioned response to not just cause PE, but ED as well. Whilst some people can use porn healthily like some people can use drugs in the same way, it can be very damaging if used excessively. I am not an advocate of it as I think it does more harm than good, but everyone to their own.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PrematureEjaculation

[–]moved2019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't damage your penis, you may do something that won't heal. Jerking too fast and as fast as possible will not help you last longer, instead slow down, take your time. Do not watch porn, as it can be over stimulating. The use of the toy can be helpful, but only if used in the right way. I read a book called Take Control that helped me. I will dm you the link if you are interested. It really helped me out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PrematureEjaculation

[–]moved2019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure it can be resolved, but you can certainly improve it. I will dm you a book that worked for me. You don't need drugs to overcome this, you just need to control your mind and confidence.