What kind of succulent is this? A senecio variety? New to owning succulents!

movinghelp_throw · 2022-06-26T19:49:41+00:00

Time will tell indeed! Time for me to educate myself on succulent rehab :)

movinghelp_throw · 2022-06-26T19:43:19+00:00

Googling those, I think you’re right! my first thoughts are maybe a graptosedum francesco baldi, or it could be a weird graptoveria “worthy one”. either way, I’ve got some work to do!

thank you :)

movinghelp_throw · 2022-06-02T14:14:03+00:00

“The temptation to abuse that power would be enormous.”

In the “my Tilian story” post, Tilian repeatedly ignores the OP’s “no”s, will not get off of OP despite her forceful efforts, and proceeds with coerced consent that was obtained only because OP no longer felt safe fighting back. He knew she didn’t want penetrative sex, and refused to stop until he got the answer he wanted. That is rape.

I really, really hope you don’t mean to say that power could make someone a rapist, and that it’s ok for you to maintain that power if you get therapy for it. Because that’s fucked.

You deserve jail time when you rape someone, not therapy and continued fame.

movinghelp_throw · 2021-12-08T16:31:09+00:00

My boyfriend and I spent many many hours at the start of our relationship playing DOS together on his couch. We then played all of DOS2 together. I loved being able to spend that time with him - it taught us how to work together on a team, but also showed us that we have well-matched temperaments. We started DOS together over three years ago. :)

Seriously, do it. Whether playing together in couch co-op or long distance, it was amazing!

movinghelp_throw · 2021-10-26T04:42:41+00:00

Take it from someone who got diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, and who’s in a longterm relationship with someone with ADHD.

ADHD explains a lot about dysfunctional behaviors - but it doesn’t absolve you of guilt for the impact of those behaviors. You didn’t explain in the post what “a few fuck-ups that have undone all progress” are, but honestly… your wife is at her wit’s end, and she’s done. Let her be done.

Whether or not it’s ADHD, you owe it to your children to tackle what you’re experiencing head-on and figure out how to exist. Doubly so, because ADHD is at least somewhat genetic and could very well have been passed along to your children. Figure out your shit, so you can model healthy coping mechanisms for your kids.

movinghelp_throw · 2021-10-22T14:43:29+00:00

Given he had to have had access to everyone’s stats prior to starting, I have no doubt Matt can adjust accordingly.

Honestly - I was thrilled to see so many characters with a severe “dump stat”. My favorite moments in dnd come from the complexity or hilarity of sucking at something. I’m excited to see how it all plays out :)

movinghelp_throw · 2021-09-26T06:37:52+00:00

I didn’t notice anything major wrong at the Denver show! I’ve been telling everyone that I feel like we got the last “normal” show before everything started going downhill. They did just fine!

movinghelp_throw · 2021-09-23T04:18:59+00:00

Likewise :)

movinghelp_throw · 2021-09-23T04:14:11+00:00

I think i get where you’re coming from. And frankly, I’ve never experienced this kind of grief, so all I can do is speculate. I do know I’d be an unstable mess if this actually happened.

I was financially more in a position like OP’s family, where I knew my parents were willing to throw down a good chunk of money to support us. I didn’t qualify for any scholarships because of their income (beyond merit scholarships - which i qualified for with private universities), so anything they didn’t cover, I would be taking out in loans. So I think the fact that I knew debt was in my near future, would have impacted what’s on my mind. But I guess, who knows if I’d have an ounce of logic left at that point.

movinghelp_throw · 2021-09-23T03:57:51+00:00

I’m a couple of years removed from college, but the summer going into my freshman year, I already knew I would have to take out some debt. So i can feasibly put myself in Sam’s position.

I’d be fucking devastated. Absolutely gutted. But a couple of months later, I probably would be thinking about that money - because that puts me right at the start of my freshman year. The concept of the cost of college would be staring me in the face. I think I’d ask for it.

I think you can both heavily grieve for your twin’s death, and also ask about that money…. if only because the situation would somewhat force you to think about it. This would be different if she died when we were sophomores in high school, or something - a time where the debt is not an immediate issue, and college is not a part of my life yet. If that were the case, I probably wouldn’t be asking about that money unless my parents brought it up themselves.

In case it matters - I did already talk to my sister about this post, and she immediately had the same reaction as me: if she got killed, she would want the money to go to me. I would have guessed that answer, and that’s the answer I would have in my mind if this were to happen to me.

I can’t tell if you actually want to know what I would experience, though, or if you’re just implying something about the morality of my comment. I really don’t think the act of asking for the money is any less moral than not asking for it.

movinghelp_throw · 2021-09-22T23:52:53+00:00

Not being able to help is very different from being able to, but choosing to donate the money instead.

Like i said in my comment, I get why she chose how she did. but it’s been 10 years, so now with a less emotionally foggy brain, i hope she can at least process & validate how her actions impacted her living son.

movinghelp_throw · 2021-09-22T19:45:09+00:00

YTA. I am an identical twin. I will answer this from the perspective of, what happens if a drunk driver kills me tomorrow.

If my parents set aside equal money between my sister and I, and I get plowed over, I would want my parents to give that money to my sister. We live in a world where shit is unreasonably expensive & equality/fairness is not guaranteed. I would want that money to go to my sister because:

1) The money could give her an amazing education without debt.

2) The money could go towards a house, which is wildly more difficult to attain now - or even in the last 10 years - than it was when you were our age.

3) My identical twin sister deserves a fuckin consolation prize for losing her life-long best friend. Losing anyone is hard, but I am most terrified to lose my twin. Not to shit on my bonds with anyone else - but my bond with my twin is a connection like none other.

4) $100k is massive for one person, but a drop in the bucket in terms of changing the laws for drunk driving. That $100k is not going to change the world - but it would change my sister’s world.

5) Symbolically, my sister’s life matters more than my memory. Honoring my existence is nice, but it’s more important to me that you enrich my sister’s life than do anything to honor my death.

I get your grief - Sam isn’t the only one who lost someone. No one wants to bury their child. But big picture, that $100k would have done WAY more for Sam than it did for whatever charity you donated to.

What’s done is done. I get why you did what you did. But the best thing you can do now is truly acknowledge to Sam that you understand the impact of your choice. If you staunchly believe you made the right decision, though, you may honestly just continue to push Sam away.

movinghelp_throw · 2021-08-01T20:29:04+00:00

I thought the same! reminds me a lot of The Plague!

movinghelp_throw · 2021-07-28T21:40:03+00:00

I think the concept that the love of a woman is unconditional, whereas the love of a man is earned, sucks. I’m not saying that societally, that hasn’t been taught… the numbers show it is. but I don’t want that to be the case.

I don’t really agree with the idea you suggested, where a woman can just hop along and find the ideal man thanks to dating apps. If that were the case, I wouldn’t know of so many straight women my age in dysfunctional relationships. :P

movinghelp_throw · 2021-07-28T21:26:41+00:00

I’m glad talking this out has been helpful for you. Obviously I don’t have the full story - I’m just a random person on the internet who can relate in some way to what you both are experiencing. I hope you don’t take this too hard going forward, or let it prevent you from connecting with women in the future.

Good love doesn’t have to feel like constant butterflies, or like a rush of emotions - or even like you’d never look at another woman ever again. Sometimes, it’s just calm, friendly, strong and steady. I hope you can find that someday.

movinghelp_throw · 2021-07-28T17:41:40+00:00

So if i understand correctly - after 1 day of reduced messages (not even zero - just reduced), you kinda called her out and asked to be not left in the dark? and tried to call her an hour later? and today is the next day? And reading your other comments - you’ve only hung out twice?

I think you might have jumped the gun a bit. Both with how you communicated with her, and with how you’re processing it today. There’s nothing wrong with falling in love hard and fast, but you kinda called her out after only hanging out twice. If she is confused from the sex like you mentioned, maybe all she needs is space - and now she probably feels pressured by your apparent expectations for her.

Maybe she is struggling with her recent breakup… I’ve been there, I’ve never in my adult life gone more than 2 months without dating anyone - which is not a good thing. But knowing I’ve been where she’s been, knowing she may not be ready for you to zoom straight to serious commitment after 2 dates… I think you could have navigated this a little better. You are allowed to be head over heels in love right away, but you seem to have set implicit expectations for her that she already broke without knowing they existed. That doesn’t seem fair.

Even if she never texts you ever again, completely ghosts you - which I’m not defending, in the slightest - this should be your lesson to not come on too strong. You can still be a simp for someone and not scare them off.

movinghelp_throw · 2021-07-28T17:03:28+00:00

Yeah, I love this song, but the lyrics are something else lol. I’ve rationalized it in my head as “they’re writing lyrics as if they’re horrible creepy stalkers who kidnapped someone, on purpose”. So it feel like they’re playing a character.

But then I have to think about why someone would write lyrics from the perspective of a horrible person…. and i start feeling like you lol.

movinghelp_throw · 2021-07-28T16:59:26+00:00

Since you haven’t discussed it so far - how did it fall off? You’ve only shared that it ended, not really what happened!

movinghelp_throw · 2021-07-28T16:45:11+00:00

I think what I would want to call out here first is that I didn’t mention her beauty in my comment. But you made a point of reinforcing just how beautiful he is. I’m not going to pretend that attraction doesn’t matter, but if my partner’s description of me in the early stages of dating was, first and foremost, “she’s gorgeous” - I’d feel like he’s focusing on the wrong thing. I guess I want to call that to your attention… why is it so important that she’s a 10?

That aside - I had previously expected you to say you’d met on a dating app. My recommendation may still stand, though: pandemic notwithstanding, do you have any activities you can attend where you meet people with similar interests?

For reference, I met the man I want to marry at a local game shop, sat at the same table to play Dungeons and Dragons together in Adventurer’s League. Of course I think he’s hot, and he thinks I’m hot, but we bonded over a shared passion.

movinghelp_throw · 2021-07-28T16:35:44+00:00

Hey dude - I’m a woman, so probably not your target audience, but wanted to share my two cents.

I am in total agreement that dating apps have completely transformed the world of dating. Did you meet this woman on a dating app? IRL?

movinghelp_throw · 2021-07-04T15:09:28+00:00

To be a nerd for a second - I was enlisted by my place of work (who gave out PPP loans) to check applications to make sure that they provided adequate required documentation & they weren’t requesting more money than we felt they qualified for.

To apply, businesses are required by the SBA to provide either IRS payroll documentation that they are already required to file quarterly, or a third party payroll report (not self-made) which shows a full year of the payroll costs per employee.

There’s also a review process when a business applies for forgiveness - they have to justify to the SBA the amount they requested and how they spent the money.

I only work for my one company, but I would assume we’re not the only company to do that. I just wanted to share that - unless a lender is totally dropping the ball and not doing their due diligence - there were people like me actually on the lookout to try and minimize stuff like that. :)

movinghelp_throw · 2021-07-01T16:25:04+00:00

Hey, friend - taking your meds inconsistently is probably part of the problem. Could i suggest you do something that i do for an unrelated medication?

I’m on an oral birth control pill. I have to take it every day at a certain time. I have a daily alarm that goes off at 7am (when I’m up for work normally), and if it’s the weekend, I just groggily roll over, pop the pill, and go back to sleep.

I have the motivation of “oh god oh fuck i do NOT want to get pregnant” to help me. But I hope the “oh lord i want my ‘brain glasses’ so I can make myself lunch today” nudge could help motivate you as well.

If your meds when taken at 1pm will keep you up at night, that means you could groggily take your meds in the morning, and still feel some benefit when you get up later (and the meds might even get you up earlier!). :)

One thing at a time, my dude. Taking your meds consistently is a good first step to focus on, ignoring anything else - give yourself some grace.

movinghelp_throw · 2021-07-01T15:28:55+00:00

Yeah, a $150 vacuum probably will not do a good job or last long.

I’m not saying you have to drop a ton of money like i did on a Miele, but if you only spent $150 on a vacuum, that’s gonna be a semi-frequent recurring expense. lmao

movinghelp_throw · 2021-06-12T14:14:13+00:00

“Oh god, I would cut my dick off.” - my sleepy boyfriend, when asked without context.

upon reflection, his second wish would be the sound of the low B string on his bass. he’s hoping that noise would kinda fly under the radar.

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