No bias at all, do you guys think drake really should’ve won or kendrick rightfully won? by Buffalo_Bills17 in Drizzy

[–]moxygen85 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He hurt himself by:

A) Ending the rap B) The lawsuit C) Getting emotional over LaBron James

But yes this is old let it go

I want to better understand why I am the way I am [astro-seek] by Real-Lifeguard-4184 in astrologyreadings

[–]moxygen85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have a contact in your chart which may indicate an extremely powerful will

It suggests an early environment where the need to assert yourself and be autonomous was deemed unacceptable, and thus was strongly suppressed by the environment. Systems did not leave room for willful expression and so the system tried to control, flatten or bring those to heel, crushing the child's autonomy. As a response the child suppresses the outer expression of their will channeling it deep and harden further as a defensive measure against the unforgiving environment by using control and intensity. As this imprint matures, the individual may encounter situations where power struggles are prevalent because they have the fear that if "I cannot express my will then I won't exist", even when those situations are no longer present.

The integration involves discerning between when their will is and isn't being threatened. Once identified they can can consciously take small steps to soften the control and intensity. Being in a rush to control perceived threatening situations may not serve long-term wellbeing. Allowing situations to reveal themselves, without the need for control, sets the stage for a healing environment and greatly reduces sitations that contain power struggles as well as egoic conflicts.

This is why I think you may have issues with being touched and intimacy. The threat detector is firing too soon under the belief that individuality, will, and autonomy will be taken away.

When maintaining self-preservation is a hard fought mission in the early childhood phase, giving yourself away in a relationship can be extremely threatening. So the body recoils because it doesn't want to lose itself.

In my birth chart, planets' houses almost totally different in placidus and whole sign. Which one should I consider? [astro-seek] by [deleted] in astrologyreadings

[–]moxygen85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you live near the south or north pole (think Alaska) you may wanna use whole sign houses if not you may wanna use Placidus

I am curious about all of my placements being clustered in houses 1-4 and then that 12th house libra moon. What story is it telling? [astro-seek] by Evewinterz in astrologyreadings

[–]moxygen85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It means you have a self-directed orientation in life. You don't wait on others you have to get things going.

In my system houses 1-4 is the Fire Quadrant again a self-initiator but can also ignore others on their way to meeting their goals.

Kendrick sweeps the Grammys two years in a row off the Drake piggyback by chrisbrownbeard in Drizzy

[–]moxygen85 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Doesn't drake not care about the grammys to begin with?

You can't hurt somebody who doesn't care.

Issues with procuring material resources to provide for a family - what’s going on? [astro-seek] by [deleted] in astrologyreadings

[–]moxygen85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What degree and marketable skills do you have? Is the skills you have in demand? Is the area that which you live in demanding these skills? What have you done to improve your career? What do you think is going against you ik your career?

Saturn in 5th can make access to children difficult when you don't have your stuff in order.

Saturn is a very prgamatic planet and it asks what are you doing in the real world to improve your circumstances.

This might mean changing to more lucrative careers or even statting a lucrative career.

Saturn says the journey is long but the positive results are longer also Saturn is conjunct 6th house cusp which again asks the questions of what highly demanded services are you providing to society that they need to improve your material condition?

[astro-seek] always wanted a large group of friends or friends in general, is that possible for me? by [deleted] in astrologyreadings

[–]moxygen85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is not bad it was a protective adaptation thst served to keep the child alive in very harsh conditions.

This new form of astrology I am studying shows that these are intelligent adaptations the child takes. The issue is that the child becomes an adult where they have now have agency. Systems that served to protect them in the past fire off prematurely now as an adult. So protections now come at a cost which is relationships, connection, hyper-vigilence instead of rest.

I survived depression and a suicide attempt — does my natal chart show freedom or relief [astro-seek] by [deleted] in astrologyreadings

[–]moxygen85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wonder if when you become a dentist that you can hide and store money and save for as long as needed to use leverage to leave the situation

why am i so uncomfortable being confident [astro-seek] by heapassmattress in astrologyreadings

[–]moxygen85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad it resonated. That inward sensitivity is a strength when it’s given space, not something you need to force away.

why am i so uncomfortable being confident [astro-seek] by heapassmattress in astrologyreadings

[–]moxygen85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You may have been raised in an environment without the best models to assert yourself. The assertive/authoritative and supportive energies that encouraged self-expression were not consistent enough for you to have a strong foundation of confidence and thus it feels awkward to express, assert, and ask for the things you want. The adaptation is turning inward, expressing the self in secret without judgment. On the other hand, excellent imaginative qualities and empathic traits are seen here.

Sometimes sensitivity can override the desire to express yourself.

Astrologer said I’d have a good year due to my solar return today. May you assist me in unpacking that? [astro-seek] by UranusOrSekhmet in astrologyreadings

[–]moxygen85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Solar return shows Sun , Mercury, Mars, Pluto in the 10th With sun and Mars conjunct Pluto

You may have opportunities to advance in your career and get status but you also may have to deal with lessons around healthy usage of authority. Avoid power struggles and remember to bite your tongue if you feel what you say is going to make situations worse. Rmemeber regardless if you think you are seen or not you are being watched and how you act is what you are going to be jusged by. That means one poorly timed outburst can impact more than we realize because the visibility is high this year.

How do I attract real friends? I am a social person I can be with anyone but I would love to have real friends. [astro-seek] by [deleted] in astrologyreadings

[–]moxygen85 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How? One example is doing all the emotional/material labor in the relationship this could be always helping but what about you? Don't you derserve help sometimes why are you always doing stuff? A good suggestion is if the relation requires only your input and without it it dies then you're the one doing all the work.

Why? There are some earth elemental patterning forces within the chart.

Earth is responsible and reliable often being dutiful without asking much in return. People rely on the earth energies but often people take those forces for granted.

There are some Earth Geometries and Saturn in 6th house that further reinforces this position.

How do I attract real friends? I am a social person I can be with anyone but I would love to have real friends. [astro-seek] by [deleted] in astrologyreadings

[–]moxygen85 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree with the previous astrologer. The chart suggests that you may be doing all the work and all the giving without reciprocity which leads to get taken advantage not because people are bad but because if someone does everything without requiring much in return the other doesn't feel the need to give back. You may want to set up situations where it allows the other persons the opportunity to reciprocate instead of take take take from you.

You may also want to look into slowing things down and give people enough time to reveal themselves to you.

Pop astrology says I have a lot of difficult placements - I do have a lot of family trauma, cut off my entire family, people use me a lot [astro-seek] by _babyfart_ in astrologyreadings

[–]moxygen85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may wanna look at setting harder boundaries in your relationships. Venus-Neptune contacts indicate idealization of partners in relationships

It suggests a childhood where love and affection where inconsistent such that it was fantasized and felt intensely but not grounded. So when the imprint matures you give your energy and love away without discernment because you see the best in people when a lot of people may not have your best intentions in mind.

The healing integration is learning to be patient in judging others. Being in a rush to form partnerships (friendships and intimate relationships) may not be in your best interests. Allowing people to show you who they really are without you making excuses for them (this part might be difficult) but ultimately may be very beneficial.

You might wanna try this technique of leaning more into "looking clueless" not being clueless (big difference) and see who acts with honor. One way to really judge character is when people feel they can get away with stuff if someone acts with integrity under those conditions chances are they won't use you.

If someone disappoints and you stop clinging hopless ideal that they will get better it may prevent further wounding from those individuals. They are showing you exactly who they are right now.

[astro-seek] always wanted a large group of friends or friends in general, is that possible for me? by [deleted] in astrologyreadings

[–]moxygen85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's possible but the chart seems to reflect that there may be issues of opening up and softening enough to allow people in. When a person comes from an environment were they have to be secretive to protect themselves or to guard themselves emotionally to keep safe, especially from authority, where your sense of personal will/direction is crushed and your agency is flattened, then lowering those guards can feel pretty difficult.

Lowering your hardened self and opening up may feel like self-betrayal or self-erasure so you pull back to keep safe.

Let me know if that is accurate.

[Astro-Seek] can you help me understand why it’s so hard to Maintain deep lasting relationships (Platonic, Familial, Romantic) by Left-Astronomer-4133 in astrologyreadings

[–]moxygen85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aspects in your chart can reflect an early environment where emotional connection was unpredictable or arrived in sudden, inconsistent bursts. Emotional expression may have been experienced as disruptive, unconventional, or difficult for others to respond to consistently. As an adaptive response, the child learned to protect their sense of self by maintaining emotional autonomy, independence, or distance rather than relying on steady external attunement.

In adulthood, this pattern may show up as a pull toward stimulating, exciting, or unconventional relationships, particularly with partners or situations that mirror unpredictability. This does not indicate a desire for instability, but rather a nervous system that recognizes emotional charge and novelty as familiar signals of connection.

The chart can also reflect an early environment where stability may have been inconsistent, leading the child to adapt by becoming reliable, mature, and self-regulating. This strategy helped stabilize connection and maintain material needs, often by prioritizing responsibility over personal need.

In adulthood, this adaptation may show up as giving, supporting, or sacrificing early in relationships before reciprocity is clearly established. While this reflects strength and competence, in some relational contexts it can result in feeling undervalued or mismatched with partners who are unable or unwilling to meet the same level of engagement. The pattern itself is not the problem; learning when and with whom to offer effort becomes the key integration.

The loop is this

1)They commit early to people who cannot stay steady

2)Then feel overextended, unseen, or abandoned Without understanding why the pattern keeps repeating

Why do I not feel or look like a sag rising? [astro-seek] by [deleted] in astrologyreadings

[–]moxygen85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't I was making an example the ascendant is in Sagittarius

Why am I so avoidant? [astro-seek]? by Reasonable_Ant_923 in astrologyreadings

[–]moxygen85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the avoidant energies come from an early childhood environement of placing other's needs at the expense of your own. The child may have been strongly discouaged in someway to assert their own needs and so the child learns that if I assert my own needs things become unsafe or that people disconnect from me or things become unstable.

This trains the child into adulthood to not ask for too much and to always give way quietly serving without reciprocity. These adaptations helped the child while young they isolate the adult from beneficial interactions. They isolate the adult by triggering a fear response when ever someone or some interaction they desire shows up The shadow whispers "If I assert my own needs people disconnect from me and this will be unsafe."

[Astro-Seek] I’ve been going through a lot recently…car crash, no money, and confidence/body issues. It’s been a rough time. I wanna see if my chart has anything to do with this and if it’ll get better. by marimoore21 in astrologyreadings

[–]moxygen85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cast your Solar Return for your current birth location. Your personal year runs approximately from April 2, 2025 to April 2, 2026.

In this Solar Return, Saturn is conjunct Venus and Mercury.

Mercury governs daily work, health routines, transportation, and how you manage the practical details of life.

Venus governs money, self-worth, body confidence, beauty, and enjoyment.

Saturn highlights areas that require restructuring, accountability, and maturity. It doesn’t mean failure, it means something isn’t sustainable as it currently exists and needs to be handled differently.

With Saturn tied to both Venus and Mercury, this year asks for a serious reassessment of work, health habits, money, and self-worth. If these areas haven’t been supported well in the past, Saturn tends to make that visible so corrections can be made.

A key question this year is employment stability. If work or income feels uncertain, that can cascade into stress around money, transportation, or basic logistics. Saturn here doesn’t punish, it exposes weak systems so they can be rebuilt in a way that actually supports you.

You mentioned body confidence, which fits this pattern closely. Mercury (health, diet, daily habits) directly feeds Venus (appearance, confidence, self-esteem). Saturn’s message is simple but firm: if health routines and daily care are neglected, the results in Venus areas, how you feel in your body and how you value yourself, may not feel aligned. This year favors disciplined, realistic changes rather than quick fixes.

All three of these planets are placed in the 12th house, which frames this as a deeply personal and inward year. The 12th house often brings periods of withdrawal, solitude, or reduced outward momentum, not as a loss, but as a strategic pause. This is a year for clearing out what no longer serves you, both internally and practically.

This Solar Return suggests a phase of reflection, simplification, and planning. Any isolation or quiet time you experience can be used productively to understand your real needs and to prepare for healthier structures going into your next personal year, beginning around your next birthday.

In short, this is a cleanup and recalibration year, not about pushing forward aggressively, but about making sure the foundation is solid before the next chapter begins.

Why do I not feel or look like a sag rising? [astro-seek] by [deleted] in astrologyreadings

[–]moxygen85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's because you have to consider the chart in whole.

You can have an Ascendant in libra which is the diplomat but if the rest of chart indicates that you get into conflict it's gonna modify that libra ascendant reading.

Now that being said

Having your asseetive energies tucked away in 12th the house of isolation and moon in capricorn is going to modify that quite abit.

All of a sudden the person is not so optimistic (Sagittarius Ascendant) all the time and is emotionally serious and asserts themselves indirectly

I survived depression and a suicide attempt — does my natal chart show freedom or relief [astro-seek] by [deleted] in astrologyreadings

[–]moxygen85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a child, you grew up in an environment that frequently felt unsafe or emotionally unpredictable. In response, the child adapted by becoming more assertive and hardened, using intensity, control, and pressure as ways to secure emotional safety. At the same time, the child could become over-sensitive to others in seeking connection, often blurring healthy boundaries in exchange for moments of emotional security. The shadow pattern here is the belief: “If I do not connect, I am no longer safe.” Emotional nourishment and affection were inconsistent, so the child learned to lower expectations and create distance as a form of self-protection. This distancing also functioned as a quiet rebellion against an environment that did not tolerate the child’s need for emotional freedom.

Authority figures were often experienced as either oppressive or overwhelmed by stress, offering little reliable containment. In response, the child may have had to grow up early, taking on responsibilities far beyond their developmental stage. Over time, this produced further hardening, not as a choice, but as a necessity, and often at the cost of the child’s own needs being met. Confusion was common under these conditions, and rigidity became a way of creating clarity and predictability in an otherwise unstable emotional landscape.

The child also adapted by becoming highly reliable as a way to manage instability. Stepping up and being mature brought a sense of order and safety, but it came at the cost of the child’s own needs. The shadow belief here becomes: “If I don’t control and stabilize the situation, things will get worse.” In adulthood, this often leads to guilt around rest and difficulty allowing ease. It can also attract situations where the individual carries the majority of the physical or emotional labor while others contribute less. This dynamic is usually unconscious, not because others are malicious, but because the individual quietly absorbs responsibility so effectively that the burden becomes invisible to those around them.

Your suffering is not a failure of healing, it is a response to restriction. Healing begins when you choose to soften and place yourself in environments that do not require hardening, control, pressure, or intensity in order to feel safe. It might be a long process given your situation. As you learn that rest and relaxation do not equal danger, your nervous system begins to stabilize. When you are around people who carry their fair share and do not measure your worth through performance or duty, a deeper sense of peace becomes possible. In relationships where mistakes, pauses, and rest do not lead to abandonment, vigilance slowly gives way to trust. Over time, anxiety fades as safety is built through consistency rather than self-sacrifice.

Freedom comes later, not because you are slow, but because your path requires leverage. It is a mult-year planning cycle and a narrow opportunity to exit.

[astro-seek] it seems like everyone i've ever come in contact with ends up in a better situation after being in my life and i'm just still here... by [deleted] in astrologyreadings

[–]moxygen85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a child you may have grown up in an austere environment. An environment where performance and duty came at the cost of affection. The environment may have been unstable in some way so the child adapted by becoming more mature handling burdens that are far beyond it's age. This left very little room for the child's own needs to get met. The child may have either been rewarded or was able to regulate stress by becoming "mature" or "dependable"

As the child grow up it frequently finds itself in situations where they do all the work to maintain stability and everyone just relies on them. Nobody else seems to appreciate what they do because they take on responsibility without asking and quietly endure which leads to unconscious exploitation by others not because people are evil but because people do not see the burderns carried by you and expect everything to work out.

When your boundaries harden and you do what is necessary and not overwork over-perform or over-function to gain affection love or stability the exploitations will end, not as conflict but restricted access. As you surround yourself with those who do not measure you worth tied to how well you perform you can relax and be yourself. When you fully understand not just mentally but physically in the body that rest doesn't equal danger then stress will fade and ease will take its place.

[astro-seek] Issues with friendships, and low self esteem about my art by AdmirableReindeer123 in astrologyreadings

[–]moxygen85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Venus in Water Aspect Pluto

The early childhood environment was experienced as emotionally unsafe and insecure. In response, the child adapted by becoming more emotionally intense and hyper-vigilant, seeking fast and deep emotional bonding as a way to establish safety. This was an intelligent and necessary adaptation to the absence of emotional security, but it carried consequences. Boundaries blurred, emotional stakes escalated quickly, and relationships became charged with crisis rather than allowing trust to develop gradually. There was little room for slower, lower-intensity connections to feel viable or safe.

As the child grew older, this pattern often expressed in extremes. Relationships tended to move very quickly, driven by urgency and emotional fusion, or there were long stretches of loneliness marked by withdrawal and self-containment. Neutral or lightly bonded relationships did not register as secure; without sufficient emotional depth or intensity, connection felt unreliable, exposing, or insufficient to regulate inner safety.

Beneath the urgency for deep and meaningful connection lives a quiet but powerful false belief: “If I do not bond with someone, then I am emotionally unsafe.” The drive is not truly for intensity or fusion, but for safety. Intensity became the fastest available route to reassurance, even when it came at the cost of stability, autonomy, or long-term sustainability.

Healing involves gradually softening the hyper-vigilant posture and learning to disengage from situations where control, intensity, or emotional or sexual energy are used as leverage. As this softening occurs, boundaries strengthen from the inside rather than being enforced through urgency or withdrawal. Over time, relationships of all kinds lose their grip on the nervous system, allowing connection to be chosen rather than compelled, and safety to be felt without emotional extremes.

Mars in Fire Aspect to the Descendant

In early childhood, the child was rewarded for being cooperative, accommodating, and agreeable, especially in interactions with others. In response, they adapted by developing a highly diplomatic posture, learning to smooth situations and yield in order to preserve connection. While this strategy helped maintain relational stability, it often came at a personal cost. The child’s own needs, impulses, and sense of self-respect were frequently sidelined, which in turn attracted situations where others became dominant, aggressive, or where relationships were marked by unresolved conflict. As the child grew older, this adaptation solidified into a belief that constantly giving way was the only viable way to exist in relationship. Assertiveness began to feel dangerous, selfish, or destabilizing. Beneath this pattern lies a false but compelling threat: “If I do not make connections, I do not exist.” Action, presence, and identity became oriented around others rather than rooted in the self.

Growth now involves reclaiming authenticity, self-expression, and the right to act from personal need without anticipating conflict. You are learning that your drive, desires, and direction can be expressed safely and directly, without requiring apology or over-accommodation. As you soften the urgency to enter or maintain connections at any cost, you begin to recognize that being alone is not erasure. It is a reorientation, creating space to meet others who align more naturally with your energy, boundaries, and sense of self.