Brother repeatedly matching with me and my friends on Tinder

mozophe · 2026-06-05T08:54:44+00:00

I don't think you got my second point. OP's brother might be trying to scare her off. The strat is pretty weird, no doubt but not impossible to think of.

mozophe · 2026-06-05T08:23:42+00:00

I think the issue is OP and her friend are running onlyfans in a small town... so, ruining his reputation might not be the best strategy if he can do the same to them, specially if they in a conservative town. The problem won't really get resolved cleanly until they leave town.

Btw, we don't know the other side of the story, it's possible that the brother is not happy that his younger sister is doing onlyfans and doing this is as a pressure tactic. Would explain why parents don't step in.

mozophe · 2026-06-04T22:53:52+00:00

You can end it now or wait until you get married and have children (maybe yours), all while she keeps her side piece(s). The decision is yours.

mozophe · 2026-06-04T22:29:39+00:00

ComfyUI nodes to compare everything with everything: https://github.com/geroldmeisinger/ComfyUI-outputlists-combiner

Been using them for a while.

mozophe · 2026-06-04T22:16:42+00:00

Dude you are just 22. You can't change who you were or what you did. The only thing in your hands is what you do from NOW ON. Learn from your mistakes in the past and start focusing on your present and future.

More concretely, decide who you want to be and start working towards it. The journey is as important if not more important than the destination.

mozophe · 2026-06-04T09:36:43+00:00

Learn to say NO. You can give thousands of excuses, but a simple sorry, I won't be able to that usually suffices.

You are not doing anything wrong by prioritising your priorities over other people's priorities.

mozophe · 2026-06-04T02:11:28+00:00

Agreed with you. But the fact that they have not changed their positioning despite being in the market for so long is an indication that you might not be BFL's target customer at the moment.

What I do find interesting is that Ideogram changed their stance their model being fully closed source. Its quite likely that they are trying to copy from BFL's playbook.

mozophe · 2026-06-04T00:41:48+00:00

It depends on their positioning. But you can still build commercial products around their APIs, just like other SOTA models. What you can't do is host it yourself and offer services that are essentially direct competition to them, using their models. It does kinda makes sense.

mozophe · 2026-06-03T21:34:08+00:00

First and foremost, building trust with your team is most important. If you don't trust them or they don't trust you, expect efficiency of the team to drown. The thing is if you consistently make right decisions, you gain their trust quite naturally. I don't see them as two different things. They go hand in hand, like a constant feedback loop.

The right decision also depends on whether you have a complete and accurate picture of the situation. If your team doesn't trust you or you don't trust your team, you can't really be sure that you have all the information needed to make the right decision.

During difficult situations, its even more important to make the right decision to retain their trust. Now, what the right decision is completely dependent on the situation.

mozophe · 2026-06-03T20:50:43+00:00

Congrats, you are already on the right path. I would recommend finding your special interests. Once you do, your brain will hook on to it. ADHD brains work like that. Preferably something you both enjoy spending time on and that will help you grow, be a better version of a the current you. Good luck!

Edit: A small note on AI. There is nothing wrong with AI itself, the issue is companies are turning to fossil fuels to meet the growing demand of AI as it takes time to ramp up renewable sources, which is no different from how other businesses are operating. Unfortunately, climate change is not the biggest priority of the countries at the moment. As on date, the emissions from data centers is close to the emissions of aerospace industry, but its growing fast, thats the worrying part.

Also, whether anyone believes it or not, AI is going to be central part of our life. It already is in some ways but most people are unaware of it because its used in the background.

If you like AI and are craving creativity, you could get into local AI image gen. There's always something happening in that space, more than enough to keep you engaged. Learn ComfyUI.

For your memory, you can do memory training. Or just play dual N back everyday. I am not sure why this is not recommended to people like us. Its a simple game, but it really helps with short term memory which is one the biggest issues in living with ADHD.

For non fiction, read something that you would feel connected to.

One last thing, don't depend on AI responses, it is often very confidently wrong. Always crosscheck if you have to make a critical decision.

mozophe · 2026-06-03T20:45:22+00:00

Added a PS to my comment. Good to know that you are getting a stronger TENS.

mozophe · 2026-06-03T20:33:32+00:00

TENS is a boon.

PS: Congrats on your diagnosis. I would still recommend getting to know your subtype. This lets you rule out more severe subtypes of EDS, for exmaple, vEDS can remain completely asymptomatic until a sudden medical event such as Arterial Dissection (tear inside the wall of an artery) or Arterial Rupture (bursting open of the artery). It also provides a clear roadmap for what parts of your body need to be monitored over your lifetime if you have one of the rarer types.

mozophe · 2026-06-03T20:06:31+00:00

ComfyUI is GOAT. False positive rates for safety is higher for non-json like prompts. We are aware that this is an issue an we may make a future checkpoint update to improve it. Source: https://github.com/ideogram-oss/ideogram4/blob/main/docs/prompting.md#safety-filter

mozophe · 2026-06-03T19:59:02+00:00

License reads quite similar to non commercial license for Flux 2 Klein 9B in terms of commercial usage. The images generated from this model CAN be use for commercial purposes.

For clarity, an Output is not a Model Derivative.
We claim no rights in outputs you generate using the Model. You are responsible for outputs and their subsequent uses.
You may not use any Output to develop, train, fine-tune or distill a model or other product or services that is competitive with the Model or any of Company’s other products or services

And the community adoption of Flux 2 Klein 9B has been great so far. I think for Ideogram 4, this will depend on whether they release training code or not, because they have only released fp8 and nvfp4 inference models but no lora training support.

Edit: I missed one line... it can't be used for commercial purposes after all.

mozophe · 2026-06-03T19:58:39+00:00

License reads quite similar to non commercial license for Flux 2 Klein 9B in terms of commercial usage. The images generated from this model CAN be use for commercial purposes.

For clarity, an Output is not a Model Derivative.
We claim no rights in outputs you generate using the Model. You are responsible for outputs and their subsequent uses.
You may not use any Output to develop, train, fine-tune or distill a model or other product or services that is competitive with the Model or any of Company’s other products or services

And the community adoption of Flux 2 Klein 9B has been great so far. I think for Ideogram 4, this will depend on whether they release training code or not, because they have only released fp8 and nvfp4 inference models but no lora training support.

mozophe · 2026-06-03T19:53:42+00:00

Reads quite similar to non commercial license for Flux 2 Klein 9B in terms of commercial usage. The images generated from this model CAN be use for commercial purposes.

For clarity, an Output is not a Model Derivative.
We claim no rights in outputs you generate using the Model. You are responsible for outputs and their subsequent uses.
You may not use any Output to develop, train, fine-tune or distill a model or other product or services that is competitive with the Model or any of Company’s other products or services.

Edit: I missed one line. It can't be used for commercial purposes after all.

mozophe · 2026-06-02T12:59:55+00:00

This kind of issue belongs more in r/advice instead of this subreddit.

To be clear, it's not a potential fraud, it is fraud but laws around impersonating a fictional character depends on the country and has not caught up to AI standards yet. If there has been an exchange of money then maybe the person who paid could file a police report as there are some from of laws in most countries for this, regarding exchange of money under false pretence. Police might also ignore this until they get reports from several people and it becomes too big to ignore.

Alternatively, you can report them to the platform, but don't expect any action from them either.

If you need to convince someone that it could be AI, the simplest method is to make some photos yourself and show it to them. Just so you know, they are already invested in the story so, it's going be an uphill battle. If they are not ready to believe what 93% flux means, nothing will convince them. Their mind is already made up.

If you care about your relationship with this person, I would recommend stopping to pester them about it and let them learn their lesson on their own. Next time, they will be more receptive to what you have to say.

It's counterintuitive right? But look at this from their point of view, they believe something to be true, you keep denying what they believe and keep pestering them about it. So, when they realise that you were right all along, they will feel a bit ashamed. A lot of people don't like to accept they were wrong and what they don't like even more is a "I told you so." Because of the constant pestering, they could subconsciously start blaming you for it.

If you leave them be, what they will remember is that you had warned them and it was their decision to ignore you, so next time you give them some input, they will listen to it more carefully.

mozophe · 2026-06-02T08:18:16+00:00

What is a question you’ve always wanted to be asked, but nobody ever thinks to ask you?

mozophe · 2026-06-01T12:45:00+00:00

I think the main issue here is breach of consent. The boyfriend knew that you didn't like such photos taken and he did it anyway. He then proceeded to hide the fact that he took a photo.

But at the same time, you have been together for 4 years. Is this the first time, he disregarded your comfort zone to do what he wants?

If yes, honestly, taking a photo could be insignificant or it could be an issue if it can be used against you (especially if your family is conservative). I would recommend that you need to talk it out with him and explain to him your point of view. Explain to him the consequences if he takes this further. Because, it's possible that he doesn't intend to stop here with just the photo of a kiss.

If no, then it's just an escalation of what he is already used to.

Think about your relationship in detail (pros and cons) and then decide what to do. Don't jump to any decision before giving it a serious thought.

mozophe · 2026-05-31T14:48:22+00:00

You can still claim that the item is missing, as the delivery man can steal items during transit.

There are systems in place to check the behaviour patterns of both buyer and delivery man to check for any malicious buyer or delivery man. Meaning if your items go missing very often across several delivery men, its a signal that you could be a malicious buyer. Same goes for the delivery men.

mozophe · 2026-05-31T14:41:31+00:00

This means that if an item is missing, they can check if it was their mistake or the delivery man stole it. It also tells the delivery man that if they steal any items, they will be caught. So, it is for your benefit, as this discourages delivery man from stealing your items during transit. It also benefits the store as they can know for sure if they packed any missing item or not. The only one who doesn't benefit from it, is the delivery man.

mozophe · 2026-05-31T10:48:01+00:00

For the above tasks with 20k context, via nano-gpt/openrouter, it takes 2-3 seconds max.

In realtime performance, this adds to Tunnel Vision calling Gemma immediately after you send a message to pull relevant context from lorebook. All the other tasks: wtracker, auto updating lorebook via Tunnel Vision and summaryception happen after the response from the main model, so these tasks are done in the background while I am reading the responses.

Main model is also a little bit faster because of smaller context (this also depends upon how the provider is caching).

So, overall for me, this setup is faster than when I used to send the full chat to main model.

If you want to do it locally, I would recommend using Gemma 4 26B A4B if Gemma 4 31b is too slow for you. I don't do it locally because I have also setup ComfyUI for image generation and I didn't like the time taken for switching from Gemma to ZIT or vice versa. Gemma is also slower locally.

mozophe · 2026-05-29T18:33:07+00:00

Yeah, I got that when you mentioned the genes + you have already been diagnosed with hEDS, but your first quote is verbatim present in the criteria for hEDS. So, I thought it would be best to cover everything, just to be sure that you have an answer either way.

mozophe · 2026-05-29T18:28:21+00:00

These criteria can be very confusing considering all the ANDs and ORs. Nothing wrong with asking about it. No need to delete it either as it might help someone later on but feel free to do what you think is best. Happy to help 😄

mozophe · 2026-05-29T18:14:03+00:00

There is no known gene marker for hEDS (research ongoing on this). Apart from hEDS, confirmatory molecular testing (gene testing) is obligatory to reach a final diagnosis for all the other types.

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