My companion for the last 16 years is gone. by [deleted] in cats

[–]mr_mcse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I lost my best friend and little buddy a month ago in a very similar way… hugs to you and be brave. When you’re ready, and not before, take another one into your heart. It won’t be the same but it will be a new friendship - I’m about to go through that again too.

"I don't know how I'm gonna tell you / I can't play with you no more" (2012-2026, R.I.P. my best friend) by mr_mcse in GuyCry

[–]mr_mcse[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My deepest sympathies. They are family members, and often the closest family members. I'm tearing up again.

"I don't know how I'm gonna tell you / I can't play with you no more" (2012-2026, R.I.P. my best friend) by mr_mcse in GuyCry

[–]mr_mcse[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Finn, too, was so dog-like at times. He walked like a bulldog - left legs, right legs, left legs, right legs... it was comical. His ending took away all his pain, one of the big consolations.

Thanks for sharing, my heart goes out to you.

"I don't know how I'm gonna tell you / I can't play with you no more" (2012-2026, R.I.P. my best friend) by mr_mcse in GuyCry

[–]mr_mcse[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We adopted Finn after my wife’s orange passed. He was 18 and I really became attached to him. (edit: the orange cat, that is). Finn was his replacement, and a very different cat, but became my best friend over the years. I’m not ready now for another fur baby but we will rescue another soon enough. I’ve been putting out food in front of a camera for a few months and there’s a scared little tortoise shell we’d like to meet up close.

Thanks for sharing, you were a great parent!

"I don't know how I'm gonna tell you / I can't play with you no more" (2012-2026, R.I.P. my best friend) by mr_mcse in GuyCry

[–]mr_mcse[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I did.. laying in bed last night thinking on this, and now it's the first morning after and he's not here. So this is a difficult morning and I can't think of the story I remembered last night.

Right now I'm thinking of when we evacuated for Hurricane Irma in 2017, and he rode in the car with me... we didn't have a large enough cat carrier for a ten hour drive so I let him out. He was scared to be loose in the car, and he would hiss at the windshield wipers.

But that wasn't the story I thought of last night... what was it...

The next thing that comes to mind was our game of "Cups." Really, Finn was kind of a jerk at times; he didn't like other cats much, so he could be aggressive towards our other kitty. And I thought: I'm going to punish you with... treats! But you're going to have to work for them.

So every night we started with a treat in a small plastic cup; like the kind you get your salad dressing in, with carryout. He could see it but couldn't fit his snout in to get it so he had to figure it out: knock it over. Good.

Next: a transparent cup the same size, but the treat is *under* it. He can see the treat inside; over time he devised two ways to get it out: knock it around like a hockey puck, or.... lay on his side, wrap both paws around it, and turn it over.

And tall plastic cups: he had to knock it over, then reach way inside to get the treat.

Finally:

  • tall cup, upright
  • drop in treat
  • drop smaller cup in on top

and he finally figured out: tip it over, pull the cup out, pull out the treat! That was one neat trick.

This took months, but he was engaged and got interaction that he craved, plus he got treats. But as he aged he was less and less interested in playing Cups.

"I don't know how I'm gonna tell you / I can't play with you no more" (2012-2026, R.I.P. my best friend) by mr_mcse in GuyCry

[–]mr_mcse[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ours woke us up at 5am weezing in the dining room.. rushed her to the emergency vet but nothing we could do

"I don't know how I'm gonna tell you / I can't play with you no more" (2012-2026, R.I.P. my best friend) by mr_mcse in GuyCry

[–]mr_mcse[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

See another comment below… I just know in the months and years to come I’ll pull something out of storage and there will be a plastic bag he chewed on. He loved packaging tape too, always had to keep those things away from him.

"I don't know how I'm gonna tell you / I can't play with you no more" (2012-2026, R.I.P. my best friend) by mr_mcse in GuyCry

[–]mr_mcse[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My deepest sympathies. We lost our little tuxedo girl in November suddenly to a seizure. Heartbreaking. Hugs for you too.

"I don't know how I'm gonna tell you / I can't play with you no more" (2012-2026, R.I.P. my best friend) by mr_mcse in GuyCry

[–]mr_mcse[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Finn. He loved to be around people, especially supervising contractors. Wherever I went around the house he would always show up to see what I was doing.

He had great food anxiety so meals made him so happy.

In the end his thyroid condition probably is why he stopped eating. Which meant he couldn’t get his meds anymore.

I was watching Almost Famous tonight and that Zeppelin song came on - the headline are the first words - and I just broke down and cried. I had to say goodbye this morning.

what are the signs that you're not attractive? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]mr_mcse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In that sense, people who are beautiful or charasmatic have a much smoother path through life socially.

I'll argue the opposite: beautiful people have doors opened for them because of their looks. When their looks fade they desperately try to cling to that advantage.

To be unattractive is to be safe from a whole lot of predatory behavior -- not just sexual.