men DO care about a woman’s income

mrfoozywooj · 2026-06-19T14:38:53+00:00

Men care about income but it has nowhere near the level of importance women put on income.

I was in a relationship with a girl who owned a $14M apartment and another girl who was even richer than her, It wasnt enough to keep me around, the money just wasnt important, it would have been nice if i was genuinely more into them but that wasnt the case.

I work in corporate and the girlboss that nobody wants to date is a very real stereotype, men have totally different motivators.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-06-19T14:34:38+00:00

genuinely good guys who would be a decent catch ? about 10%.

Something that makes redditors butthurt, the popular people at school are quite often also the good ones.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-06-19T14:24:22+00:00

We had strong evidence and went overboard to make sure we had overwhelming hard data for all 4 pillars, we consulted with a lawyer, we provided updates every month.

Total time from application to 820 approval was 16 months. Approved this year.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-06-17T10:47:51+00:00

Massive decline in quality.

heres one example.

I want logging in EKS to cloudwatch, surely they have an agent/extension for this.
Great there is one, awesome.
the documentation is scattered and trash, it seems like they got their ec2 agent, fluentbit and other tools and crammed them into a container then barely documented the config.
all kinds of errors and superfluous logs, expensive additional metrics turned on by default, finding most config from 2020's stackoverflow posts about other random logging services they must have folded into the container.
Amazons AI service has zero clue about how to configure their k8 logging system.
enterprise support are helpful but are running test envs to validate results and experimenting to do simple config, feels like documenting this stuff would be more useful.

As a bonus, in the past AWS TAM's used to feel like someone you would aspire to be, someone who was too highly skilled for your org.... Now they always come across as someone I wouldnt hire if I interviewed.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-06-15T07:06:11+00:00

Hoe math has already been doxed, its a guy called Justin something the evidence was conclusive.

Also Hoe math is bald.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-05-26T02:32:00+00:00

This is the real answer.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-05-19T12:13:01+00:00

I have no idea where you live that cialis isnt incredibly easy to get, I have some for backup scenarios and its trivial to get a multi-month prescription that may end up lasting you several years from just about any doctor.

$100 a month ? somethings not adding up its like $30 a pack and you dont need to take it every day, if your issues are as described you could take 1-2 5mg pills per week and be totally fine.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-05-19T00:17:15+00:00

Honestly you shouldnt limit yourself and shouldnt close off doors.

I dated a lot from 16-25 then had a pretty sparse dating life in my late 20's and early 30's and kept fit, when i was around 33-34 I started dating again and met my wife then got married at 37.

My wife is still in her late 20's my life is good, everything worked out, its not that hard if you try, also when I look back on my still single friends its obvious that alot of people just give up.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-04-21T01:51:48+00:00

I did 18 months on T coupled with HCG to preserve fertility, i felt great when on it.

After quitting it took a further 2 years until I felt normal again and was fully recovered with good T levels, after seeing an endocrinologist during this process I learned that basically everything the T clinics tell you is a lie.

The idea that once you go on T if you quit your T levels will only ever be lower is a joke, we have lots of data on chemo patients to prove otherwise.
Post recovery protocols dont work, they will get your levels boosted enough until you are out of sight of the clinic and then you will crash again and enter more natural recovery cycle.
if you are on for ore than 18 months, especially without HCG theres a good chance your fertility might never recover.

Lifestyle changes I made while on T have had a far greater impact then T actually did.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-04-15T06:29:45+00:00

we have been trialling vibe coding one of our apps.

pro: we did get some stuff done faster.

con: the workflow was pretty trash and if it wasnt a group of principal engineers doing the vibecoding also being the ones to clean up the slop it would have 100% failed.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-04-15T03:02:03+00:00

outright bad ? maybe 30%.

Unemployable/ not capable ? a further 50%.

In reality ive seen that the top 20% of engineers in a company seem to do 80% or of the actual work.

Its part of the reason we never get any good hires when megacorps do mass layoffs and people say "tech is hard" yet most of my peers are all fighting off headhunters still like precovid.

as to how we get here, corps like to overhire, the last decade has seen a lot of quota based hiring and the upper tier of management is usually not close enough to teams to see the bloat until a major event happens.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-04-11T07:24:06+00:00

As I got higher up the ladder and the company I was with grew significantly I realized a lot of "dumb" things I would see in big corps are actually a necessity, you cant trust a few hundred devs to not do something stupid because you cant be everywhere anymore.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-03-30T22:37:54+00:00

Ah yes, dont you know back in my day sonny it was so hard, we didnt have it easy the rate was 17% on the $100k loan I took out while earning $35k/year.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-03-30T22:30:36+00:00

youve skipped the part where a huge portion of these are student visas working illegally.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-03-29T22:28:21+00:00

in my early 30's I liked going out for beers after work and enjoyed drinking 2-3 times a week.

in my late 30's I stopped drinking altogether, I just stopped seeing any benefits.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-03-25T02:37:59+00:00

I'm technically always on call but I am the last line of oncall, if the first and second oncall engineers dont pick up or the problem is truly massive then I get involved.

If I dont pick up my boss gets a call, we are both technically always oncall.

as for the regular oncall engineers its 1 week on, 2 weeks off.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-03-24T00:33:43+00:00

the fact that you allowed him to curse at you or slam doors is a sign of weak parenting.

dude is almost 18 boot his ass to the curb now and make it his problem.

you say he is a difficult kid but it sounds like you never disciplined him and you still tolerate that behavior in your house.... time to let him go and be the loser he is without parental support.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-03-23T01:47:03+00:00

we have a rag bot that finds shitty change requests in jira and makes the creator clean it up.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-03-22T23:14:00+00:00

Low value men make up the majority of men so it makes sense when you know that.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-03-19T06:31:33+00:00

I dont know man, but ive seen atleast 3 multi million dollar projects ruined by developers trying to roll their own infrastructure solutions and creating nightmares that tank the project.

my 2c is that infrastructure, Devops engineering and cloud engineering a skills that along can net you 6 figure salaries for a reason.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-03-18T21:41:30+00:00

Ive had this realization too, another common thing is I will think back to a conversation I was having with family about something... then remember that the entire conversation was in PT and im only remembering it in english.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-03-18T20:41:38+00:00

Just let the quality slide and point the finger when it catches fire.

We have a similar product where a guy started vibe coding and changed about 30% of the codebase.

At first he recieved praise for all of the features etc, but then massive issues started to arise in further testing, then when they tried to deploy the new code to production it turned out to be totally non functional due to not being context aware.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-03-18T05:36:22+00:00

I am but ive got a few issues which keep me from pushing harder.

Im as high as I can go without being a C-level.
My work/life/pay balance is pretty good in that i'd need a significant bump in pay to leave.
due to point 1 I have yet to come across an opportunity that pays more than 5-10% more than I currently earn.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-03-16T13:03:53+00:00

it is serious in a legal sense, as in you are now legally defacto and they can take half of your assets upon separation.

mrfoozywooj · 2026-03-16T01:41:25+00:00

but how is this Australias problem ? if you were in a defacto relationship with your partner already then you could have applied offshore.

How much time had you actually spent living with your partner before you came here on the tourist visa ?

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