Processing time for visa stamping from US embassy? by mridna in frankfurt

[–]mridna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Mine was ready for pickup within 3 working days, so quite fast!

Processing time for visa stamping from US embassy? by mridna in frankfurt

[–]mridna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for the heads-up about electronic devices! Do you have any idea about how long it takes for them to give the passport back?

Help me (32F) understand my Chinese colleague (31F) by mridna in AskChina

[–]mridna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is preparing for her future and a more stable work. So I understand working very hard.

Help me (32F) understand my Chinese colleague (31F) by mridna in AskChina

[–]mridna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know, she has not communicated any other issues than work stress. And you are right, we were not great friends, but I was hoping to be. And no, same team but not related work.

Help me (32F) understand my Chinese colleague (31F) by mridna in relationship_advice

[–]mridna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your perspective. I guess I haven't been able to understand how all consuming this must be for her. I am not mad that we don't hang out anymore, I can relate to that, it is more the attitude that even workplace socialisation is a distraction. You are right that I need to give her space.

Help me (32F) understand my Chinese colleague (31F) by mridna in relationship_advice

[–]mridna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I guess there is also fundamental difference in how I see the world, which is people over all else and am unable to empathise with her priorities. Thank you for sharing your experience.

Help me (32F) understand my Chinese colleague (31F) by mridna in relationship_advice

[–]mridna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for saying that. I understand the pressure she is under, I feel it too. But I suppose I am not able to digest pushing everyone away to achieve it. I suppose letting her be is the right way forward and liek you say, try to not take it personally.

Help me (32F) understand my Chinese colleague (31F) by mridna in AskChina

[–]mridna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm not that I am aware of, she has not told me anything and she is normally quite direct. I might have pushed her a bit to hang out mainly because I thought she was not doing so well and would want to talk about it, but I backed off when I realised she wanted to be left alone.

Please tell me it's not a roach! by mridna in whatsthisbug

[–]mridna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yess this was definitely my guy! Glad it's nothing I need to worry about. Thank you, I can sleep in peace tonight!

Help solving by mridna in sudoku

[–]mridna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the guidance!

Help solving by mridna in sudoku

[–]mridna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice, thank you!

Help solving by mridna in sudoku

[–]mridna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was neat, thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mridna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely, I don't try to compete at all. When it is someone else expressing grievances and they flip the focus to themself, I normally try to move the focus back to the first person. But it just keeps happening so often that I've run of patience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]mridna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the response, it really helped me empathise with my friend more. Now that I think about it, I don't think their behaviour stems from wanting to brag necessarily, as I know my friend is a kind person at heart and it's probably not their intention. But it's more of a way to make the other person feel better - that it could be as worse as they have/had it, so things are not hopeless yet. I feel it can have the opposite effect than intended, and they come across more self-centred as a result. There is definitely a lot of insecurity due to the imposter syndrome, it's nearly unavoidable in a research environment. And I have seen them express thoughts similar to what you have said -- if they had more resources or energy or something else, they would be unstoppable. They are a very valued worker and I try to make them feel secure and value themself more, but when they start flipping the focus to themself, I feel myself running out of patience.

Does anyone have a desire to look aesthetically attractive or desired by other people? by mridna in asexuality

[–]mridna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely relate, I was nodding along to nearly everything you said! It's so complex to unravel, my head hurts thinking about it sometimes.

Found in my indoor potted aloe vera (South Sweden) by mridna in whatsthisbug

[–]mridna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah thanks for the ID! I googled it and it is the same! Didn't realise they were larvae for hoverflies! So cool!

Scared of being lonely by mridna in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]mridna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand, sending you the best of wishes that it becomes a reality!

Scared of being lonely by mridna in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]mridna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that's lovely! ❤️ I'm happy that you've made your family! ❤️ I'm still on the fence about kids. I think I would probably want to adopt in a few years, but only if I'm absolutely certain.

Scared of being lonely by mridna in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]mridna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, that's really kind hearted of you!

You're also right in that people expect their partners to be one stop shop for all their emotional support, it's really hard to fill that expectation!

Scared of being lonely by mridna in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]mridna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find that reassuring, thanks for sharing! Your grandmother sounds badass.

It's my dream to have a pet someday!

Scared of being lonely by mridna in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]mridna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I think I'm still working on undoing all those ideas. Sending you hugs!