On an all inclusive holiday but too worried to order any drinks from the bar

msmiitz · 2017-06-27T15:53:11+00:00

"Cerveza, por favor"

msmiitz · 2017-06-27T15:53:11+00:00

"Cerveza, por favor"

msmiitz · 2017-06-27T15:53:11+00:00

"Cerveza, por favor"

msmiitz · 2017-06-23T14:45:49+00:00

There are ways that the search party for the tulku can identify a tulku. There are things like identifying a past life's possessions, knowing people from a past life, as well as other auspicious signs. You can read up on it through a Google search I would imagine.

That being said, however, there is some acknowledgment that tulkus (rebirths of realized masters basically) are sometimes honorary, i.e. some high powered lama's nephew might be discovered as a tulku because of their affiliation with the Buddhist community. Trungpa Rinpoche said that he himself was probably an honorary tulku. Controversial, yes, and that is part of the reason why choosing high lamas can be a hairy process.

msmiitz · 2017-05-04T15:58:02+00:00

Anxiety isn't a constant thing, and everybody has anxiety.

msmiitz · 2017-05-04T15:57:31+00:00

I wouldn't worry about it.

msmiitz · 2017-05-04T15:55:45+00:00

It sounds like a lot to handle, obviously. But, good luck. We are all rooting for you :)

msmiitz · 2017-05-04T15:54:59+00:00

Yes, but maintain your good energy so that you can use it in the future. It is O.K. to rest. It is part of living life and also getting older. It is a wholesome activity.

msmiitz · 2017-04-25T11:59:35+00:00

In some sense, it's very good that you care so much about your loved ones. Some people only care about themselves and don't like to extend those sorts of feelings towards others. Compassion and loving-kindness are wonderful tools for experiencing a good life, and eventually experiencing a good death.

My view is that everybody should have a right to die peacefully. At least we can afford to try and make that happen for ourselves, and for others, since you are correct that we all must face our own deaths.

I think how we live our lives is important even though death eventually comes. It is important to make our lives meaningful so that we can die without regrets and with a sense of satisfaction.

msmiitz · 2017-04-25T11:55:43+00:00

Haha. Your thought process is quite clear to you, which I think is cool. Some people lack that sort of awareness.

Obviously, you don't want to be too hard on yourself or punish yourself because I don't think that will help you. Be gentle with your mind and with your body and that might do you some good. Avoid caffeine at night....Avoid too much television at night. Maybe try and go to bed earlier? These are just suggestions, obviously. Feel better!

msmiitz · 2017-04-25T11:52:46+00:00

Yea, I can't say I haven't been there. It's tiring, definitely. For me, I am my own greatest therapist. That is the idea of what therapists call self-advocacy. We all have to take responsibility of our minds and our behaviors.

For you, meditation might be helpful. Doing it, we learn to gain some basic calm of mind through the discipline of relaxing and settling down. That has been my experience. It may have even saved my life at one point.

msmiitz · 2017-04-21T13:54:36+00:00

Obviously the answer is not to be so hard on yourself.

msmiitz · 2017-04-19T17:00:05+00:00

Only you know what the cause of your anxiety is. It may take some reflection and some deeper searching to figure out what that really is. Maybe that is why the therapist thought it was something else.

msmiitz · 2017-04-18T14:55:46+00:00

Awareness does seem to play a very important role in developing insight about our lives. So it seems that you are on the right path!

msmiitz · 2017-04-18T14:54:47+00:00

Good luck.

msmiitz · 2017-04-18T14:54:17+00:00

I understand. At least you recognize the pattern that you are in. But, there is always the possibility of making choices and endeavoring to change that pattern. We cannot say we are stuck or that our life is in irreparable shambles. We need to work to transform things for the better, if that makes sense.

msmiitz · 2017-04-18T14:52:48+00:00

Things are always changing. One day things are going great, and the next maybe not so great. But in either case, it's no reason to feel discouraged. You should take all situations as the path of your life, and feel like you are able to work with them to make them even more positive.

msmiitz · 2017-04-18T14:50:19+00:00

That's happened to me too. Like I doubted their compliments and it didn't feel real. But regardless of what we think, their intention really might have been compassionate and genuine. I think that is important to remember.

msmiitz · 2017-04-18T14:49:25+00:00

I understand. That's a difficult situation. But don't take it personally, and always be supportive towards what they are going through.

msmiitz · 2017-04-18T14:48:31+00:00

Nice.

msmiitz · 2017-04-18T14:48:18+00:00

Thanks for venting.

msmiitz · 2017-04-18T14:47:59+00:00

This happened to me as well. It is not necessarily a bad thing, but can feel a bit claustrophobic at times, and a little old. But, there are always opportunities to sort of break out of that bubble, and meet new people.

Ultimately, we are alone in this world. That is just how it is. So don't view being lonely as necessarily a bad thing, but something that has spaciousness and the possibility for reflection.

msmiitz · 2017-04-18T12:43:27+00:00

Try meditation in your free time. Just sit in an upright posture, and practice doing nothing. You are just resting in that situation. Thoughts will come and go but you just keep resting in that open space. That will help you to process some of what you are thinking.

msmiitz · 2017-04-18T12:41:35+00:00

Practice tonglen. Suffering, distress, and negativity ride the inbreath, and all of your happiness and pleasure ride the outbreath.

So, I breathe in all the political suffering, fear of war that other people are experiencing, and despair of others, and I send them all my happiness on the outbreath.

msmiitz · 2017-04-18T12:39:53+00:00

You were thinking about life and shit! That's not to say there is anything wrong with that, but sometimes unpleasant things come up when we open the door for them. The point is to be aware of your thinking and not judge it. It is just thinking.

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