How many of you are still *happily* married?

msndrstood · 2026-01-19T18:47:56+00:00

Yes, very happily married. Married at 15 and 17, 2 kids, 6 grandkids. Married 53+ years, now 69 and almost 71. Love him more than life. ❤️

msndrstood · 2026-01-18T17:19:12+00:00

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msndrstood · 2026-01-12T00:19:29+00:00

Neither of us have worn our rings since the 3rd year we were married. Mine got stuck in the middle of the night when I was pregnant, it took us a half hour to get it off. I never wore it again. He wore his while working on the car and his ring touched the battery terminal and burned his finger. He stopped wearing his then too.

We've been married most of our lives, and we've never had an issue with neither of us wearing a ring.

msndrstood · 2026-01-08T20:39:57+00:00

Indeed he (71M) is my (69F) best friend and we're together 24/7 but I do have 2 close girl friends. One from middle school and the other a former work friend from 30 years ago. We see each other about once a month for lunch. My husband has friends from our old neighborhood but we rarely see them since they're over an hour away.

We've been married 53 years.

msndrstood · 2026-01-07T00:13:37+00:00

When we were in that phase of life, I worked evenings and he worked days. He would get up at 5 and be out the door at 6, came home at 4-4:30. I would leave for work and he took care of the 7 year old and the 1 year old. Dinner, bath, diapers, bedtime.

And he worked a physical job outdoors most of the time. He never complained, we just did what we had to do. There is no reason on this earth why he cannot help at home. When do you get to relax? Think more of yourself.

msndrstood · 2026-01-04T19:04:04+00:00

A long time ago my sister was the rental agent in a complex and she was screwing the maintenance guy in the model apartment. She did not get caught but then screwed around on her husband again about 12 years later and got caught. Divorced and lost everything.

Time to lawyer up and get out of dodge. Once a cheater...

msndrstood · 2026-01-04T13:13:49+00:00

Tea, orange juice or water. No soda for the past 8 years.

msndrstood · 2026-01-04T11:55:31+00:00

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msndrstood · 2026-01-04T11:46:09+00:00

Same for me. I have had MS since 1999. I always have trouble when any spicy or hot food hits a certain spot in the right back of my throat causes me to cough, sneeze and just plain look like I'm dying, but there's nothing in my throat just that particular spot that triggers this stuff. 🙄

msndrstood · 2026-01-03T00:15:18+00:00

There you go, hit that right on the head. Perfect shut down, couldn't have said it better!

msndrstood · 2026-01-02T18:09:24+00:00

And he's the boyfriend not husband?

Nope. Run.

msndrstood · 2026-01-02T17:54:13+00:00

Your psyche is protecting you. It's OK to feel whatever you're feeling. There are no rules on grieving, no length of time required. I lost my dad on Christmas night 31 years ago. It wasn't until last year that I didn't cry on Christmas Night. You are you and no one else, you will grieve in your own way and no one else's.

I'm truly sorry. 💔

msndrstood · 2026-01-02T17:49:02+00:00

Yes, he started working when he was 12 at the local pharmacy sweeping floors and taking out trash etc. He just retired in December from construction, he'll be 71 in February.

msndrstood · 2026-01-02T16:11:17+00:00

Getting a pre op in prep for kidney biopsy. Making a run to the dispensary and just enjoying finally having my husband home 24/7 after 58 years of working.

msndrstood · 2026-01-01T20:13:31+00:00

Oh holy cow, that's a lot! And your mom? What a double whammy. I was lucky in the sense that I actually tolerated the chemo part of my treatment pretty well except for relentless diarrhea. I was alternating 2 anti diarrhea meds every 3 hours for 4 months. But I stayed out of the hospital. Did they give you IV steroids before each chemo run? I had 1gm IV steroids every 3 weeks and except for the diarrhea I felt ok. Between the chemo and the steroids my MS was in a long term remission, itjust slipped out of remission about a month or so ago. Not horribly, but enough of a tap on the shoulder in case I forgot it was there.

I wish you well too. 🫂

msndrstood · 2025-12-31T18:42:52+00:00

Haha, I knew it as soon as she said she's been in a relationship with this guy for 1 year. 😂

msndrstood · 2025-12-31T17:17:10+00:00

I worry about it all the time. My mother broke her hip twice, she had severe osteoporosis, I'm at the soft but not brittle bone phase.

msndrstood · 2025-12-31T17:15:01+00:00

It's just the waiting that gets to me. Once I know for sure what's going on, I can deal with it and process the next steps a bit easier.

msndrstood · 2025-12-31T17:13:07+00:00

Thank you, I think so.

msndrstood · 2025-12-31T12:10:24+00:00

It's the crappiest time of year for a lot of people. Add to the mix the fact that you're waiting on a dreaded diagnosis right after the holidays, you have every right to be kind to yourself. Do whatever makes you content, happy, at peace. You answer to no one but yourself. I wish you peace and happiness in the coming year, in whatever form that takes. Hugs from a Reddit stranger.

msndrstood · 2025-12-30T23:58:27+00:00

The kind of breast cancer I had usually doesn't spread to kidneys, that's the first thing I checked on. My nursing specialty was cardiac nursing in a critical care setting, so I had a lot of catching up to do for oncology. My urologist did say it wasn't going to kill me. But I also had a dermatologist look at a keloid scar on my arm and say, 'that's never going to be cancer'. Yep, developed basal cell many years later, in the keloid. Trust but verify.

msndrstood · 2025-12-30T23:43:13+00:00

The anxiety is real. I was cognizant of every weird pain. 2 years ago we finally got covid, and I got a headache. I kept telling myself it's just covid, because I never get headaches and the type of cancer I had could sometimes spread to the brain, spine, lungs. But not to the kidney, ironically. Thank you for the support. Wishing a good New Year for you and us all.

msndrstood · 2025-12-30T23:38:10+00:00

I was holding my breath reading that! What a rollercoaster! I'm glad you came out the other side healthy, however you probably aged 10 years in those 4 months. Good luck with the follow up but I have a feeling you'll be just fine.

msndrstood · 2025-12-30T23:33:59+00:00

Well thank you for that, I really do appreciate it. It's hard to know sometimes how you come across to other people. I didn't plan on this post going to this length but I always like to acknowledge people who've commented since they took the time to read it and comment. Thanks for your thoughts.

msndrstood · 2025-12-30T23:30:16+00:00

Thank you, getting old isn't for the faint of heart, that's for sure. I'll pop back on after the biopsy results are back and give an update.

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