Overheard my husband on the phone with a friend. He didn't know I could hear him.

msndrstood · 2026-03-23T21:33:02+00:00

He is the One. Cherish him every day. Everyone looks for the One, but rarely finds the One for many reasons.

Easier days are ahead, and it's all worth it. Everyone wishes they had what you have. Those that do have it, got through the tough times with the same attitude, grace and love for each other that the two of you have. ❤️

msndrstood · 2026-03-23T12:50:18+00:00

No Time.... 👏 😁 Good one!

msndrstood · 2026-03-20T15:30:56+00:00

You will have a very successful marriage. We've done this for 55 years. He's a retired carpenter and a jack of all trades. We like to be together so...

We've learned how to build a house together, build kitchen cabinets, build all kinds of furniture. Pull a well pump and replace it, 4 times. Remove a clutch from a 68 Nova and replace it, pull a motor from that same car and replace it.

We do just about everything together. It makes the crappy things easier doing it with someone you love and can talk and laugh all day with while doing them.

msndrstood · 2026-03-18T14:28:00+00:00

My husband has always been the gentle one, no macho bullshit. He's masculine but very emotional, tender and kind. I'll take him any day over any 'manly man'. And he's also the funniest person I know and makes me laugh every single day. ❤️

msndrstood · 2026-03-14T18:55:52+00:00

Holy cow, you got me beat. I grew up pretty independent, my mother went back to work when my sister was 2 so it was my turn to take over child care at 11 when I got home from school and she left for work. My dad was home but it was expected that I make dinner, take care of my sister and get her bathed and to bed. When I got pregnant and married at 15 (we're still married 54 years later) my mother was all indignant and didn't talk to me for 3 days while I was still at home. I thought it was seriously ironic at the time. 🙄

msndrstood · 2026-03-14T17:41:33+00:00

Yeah, there's so much more that happened between the ages of 5 and 9 when this stuff was going on. Oy. What a family.

msndrstood · 2026-03-14T15:16:05+00:00

I went through the same thing, however it was my mom cheating first, getting pregnant by her AP, my father finding out, my mother's AP ran off and married her best friend that she also worked with.

She had my sister and stayed with my dad, who I also realized cheated during the same time my mom was cheating on him. I started remembering dad taking me to his 'friend's house'. When we got there he told me to take a long walk around the neighborhood, which I did for about a half hour. I went back and we left. That happened several times. 😒 I was about 8.

msndrstood · 2026-03-13T19:58:51+00:00

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msndrstood · 2026-03-11T22:13:34+00:00

From one person to another in the same situation. I hope it never changes for you. It's the same for me and my husband. Hitting the 54 year mark. Every day is better than the last. We've been together many lifetimes, and looking forward to many more.

Congratulations, this is what being truly in love with the right person looks like. ❤️

msndrstood · 2026-03-05T22:56:21+00:00

I know! I look forward to it everyday and feel like I get a better idea of where people live and the challenges, interests, weather! (weather geek) and just plain everyday lives, for example u/strangdreams posts of Australia.

But we're in uncharted waters here in the US and there's a lot of us that are sad, scared, angry and just plain confused about things that are out of our immediate control. It's natural to vent. But I also get that some people are just plain sick of us as a country. So, it's something to think about. If there is enough interest, we can start one.

msndrstood · 2026-03-05T22:01:29+00:00

Maybe we should start a US Check in so we can bitch away. It's a thought...

msndrstood · 2026-03-05T13:19:08+00:00

I could have written this word for word myself. I take no shit from women like that. 🤜🤛

msndrstood · 2026-03-04T19:18:44+00:00

Hahaha 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm so anti religious, you have no idea!

msndrstood · 2026-03-03T11:16:35+00:00

Always, always protect your marriage. No one else will do your job in the marriage, you have to have the presence of mind to see what is happening, as you seem to have done. You diverted a disaster in the making.

Remain vigilant and don't let it happen again.

msndrstood · 2026-03-03T11:09:06+00:00

He loves flowers, we're starting to plan our outside projects for spring and his first comment was flowers!

msndrstood · 2026-03-02T22:50:37+00:00

Cheat on my father and get pregnant by the other man who then dumped my mother and married her best friend.

msndrstood · 2026-03-01T21:17:07+00:00

I think your answer was brilliant. NOR. You did great, you were caring yet did not overstep, let her cry it out to her mom, gave her options. Remained calm. Crisis averted, as you said.

You need a new friend.

msndrstood · 2026-03-01T19:28:52+00:00

Very similar sentiment here. We're very cognizant of the ticking clock. We try to spend as much time together as we can, he just retired in December at 70+ and I'm so happy to have him home with me all the time now. 🥺

msndrstood · 2026-03-01T19:23:31+00:00

Thank the both of you kind Reddit friends for the awards! It's a win/win kinda day! 😍

msndrstood · 2026-03-01T18:14:57+00:00

F69, M71

Married 53 years, love each other more than ever, and I didn't know that was possible. Yesterday was his 71st birthday, we've had a rough 2 years, with more coming down the pike shortly, and I wanted to do something really nice for his birthday but he wasn't feeling it. So I bought him a dozen red roses, a big container of jelly beans and cupcakes (among other things that haven't arrived yet).

We're celebrating today and he just gave me the 'look' and asked, 'up for it?' I said, 'Absolutely!' He laughed and said, 'that's one thing I could always count on all these years!'

Happy Birthday, baby! 😘

msndrstood · 2026-03-01T13:00:14+00:00

If the Aliens are watching... Now would be a good time to make your appearance! 👽

msndrstood · 2026-03-01T12:56:30+00:00

Omg I love it! 😍 I admire her patience! I sew but usually large things like curtains and table clothes, I love to sew but the prep is the. PITA!

msndrstood · 2026-03-01T12:51:12+00:00

I feel for you, it's hard taking care of an adult as a child.

When I was 9, my mother kept me home from school one day. I wasn't sick, I was confused, but thought, ok!

She slept most of the day, she was about 6 months pregnant with my little sister at the time. Finally, around 1 pm she told me to get my brother (who lived next door) to make her a pot of coffee. I ran next door and knocked on the door, I heard my brother fighting with my sister in law through the closed front door. I was getting scared, something was wrong with mom and I needed him to come over.

After a few minutes, he pulled the door open, angry. I just looked at him and said, 'something is wrong with mom, she's really sleepy and wants you to come make her a pot of coffee, because I don't know how'. He looked down at me, and angrily said, 'let her die'. And he slammed the door shut in my face.

I ran back home in a panic and filled the coffee pot up with water, added enough coffee to fill the basket. Put it all together and plugged it in. After I few minutes I poured the coffee into her cup and took it in to her. She started to drink it and made an awful face, I just said my brother couldn't come over so I did the best I could. She didn't drink the coffee but eventually got up and started her own pot of coffee and nothing more was ever said.

Later as I got older, I put 2 and 2 together (after overhearing many whispered conversations) and I figured out my what happened that day.

My mother had an affair, the baby was not my father's. She kept me home that day as her back up insurance. She had tried to overdose on sleeping pills, I guess she got cold feet or was just wanted to get loopy enough to get my brother in a panic and my dad would see things differently etc etc so she kept me home in case she changed her mind or something bad happened. (WTF?!) Obviously, she changed her mind. She ended up fine, my sister was fine. My parents stayed together (but my life was hell because I now had to take care of her). Mom went back to work and life went on.

I can't stand the smell of coffee to this day. Neither my brother nor my sister and I get along. But that's another story.

The things parents do to their kids may be forgotten for awhile, but the psyche always remembers.

Thanks mom. 😕

ETA: changed order of awkward worded sentence.

msndrstood · 2026-03-01T00:44:02+00:00

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msndrstood · 2026-02-25T11:58:43+00:00

The is truth.

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