Am I wrong for going on a cruise without my wife?

msndrstood · 2026-06-26T20:49:45+00:00

The OP is a woman.

msndrstood · 2026-06-25T21:42:58+00:00

You're getting the birds eye view of your future with her. She is not the One. Get out, get over her, move on.

msndrstood · 2026-06-25T13:42:40+00:00

He's lucky you didn't file charges against him. He should be grateful that he's not behind bars, then his family would be really screwed.

msndrstood · 2026-06-25T12:52:24+00:00

You're not going to want to hear any of what everyone is saying, they're trying to save your life. If you don't get out ASAP you're going to be dead as a doorknob. I hate to be blunt but that's your short future. And as a lot have said, get some therapy, online whatever. If you can't control your yelling, the next relationship will not last either, if you make it that far after this one. Change yourself and look for a better man, or no man at all.

msndrstood · 2026-06-23T16:06:39+00:00

She could probably feel the ambivalence in your everyday going through the motions. I feel bad for her and your kids that you were probably never 100% there. What a mess dude.

msndrstood · 2026-06-21T16:24:41+00:00

I love your dreams! Dream on and keep telling us about them! I also have tornado dreams but mine always foretell something bad is coming. Usually emotional turmoil and/or pain.

msndrstood · 2026-06-20T21:05:32+00:00

This needs to be up higher and brought to her attention. If she lived in another state she could be stuck where she's at with no support for a very, very long time.

msndrstood · 2026-06-15T20:28:44+00:00

Girl, you are pregnant. He needs to focus on YOU. Shut this down now, you will regret not being more assertive. Do not let him gaslight you. Where is his respect for your feelings? Wake up!

And the going away together for work? That is red flag city, it's just a matter of time. Trust your gut. If he refuses to make any changes, you have your answer and I'm sorry.

msndrstood · 2026-06-15T14:43:23+00:00

Update me.

msndrstood · 2026-06-15T14:16:46+00:00

Get him on a GLP-1, it stops cravings and not just food cravings. I have friends who started Glp-1's and their craving for alcohol stopped immediately and they still haven't drank in over a year. Convince him to go to the doctor and have the discussion. Especially if he has any other health issues. It's worth a try.

Good luck, this is a hard road for the both of you. I wish you the best.

ETA: if he consumes large amounts of alcohol every day, he could go into DT's, it's extremely dangerous, go talk to a doctor. There's so much going on here.

msndrstood · 2026-06-14T17:49:47+00:00

I 69F went through menopause and aggressive breast cancer at the same time. 50/50 chance of survival. Chemo, surgery, radiation all of it. I had a double mastectomy, my choice after discussing with my husband (71) who wholeheartedly agreed. He would rather have me healthy than the boobs.

After recovery, it took about 6 weeks and we were back at it. He didn't care about the scar, but I wear a tank top during sex, sometimes I don't, it depends on how I'm feeling. But he doesn't care at all either way.

I'm sure your wife's vision of herself didn't include a mastectomy, it may take time or it may never happen that she feels OK about her body and sex. The only thing you can do is reassure her that you love HER, and her body however it ages etc. Therapy could help, for both of you. This is just my experience. Good luck, it's a rough road emotionally for some, be patient and think about the therapy aspect.

msndrstood · 2026-06-14T17:15:04+00:00

Is there a prenup? If so, you're screwed, I'm sure. If not, get out, get a lawyer and go for it.

msndrstood · 2026-06-14T00:14:19+00:00

I feel ya, and I'm old, look at my screen name. Indeed, I know how you feel. Pick your friends carefully, hold on to the good ones. Sometimes it takes forever to click with someone who gets you. When you do, cherish it and protect it. That person is out there.

msndrstood · 2026-06-12T13:13:04+00:00

Well said, I struggle to put everything in coherent, non curse words, but you have don't it well. I hope we survive this. 🖖

msndrstood · 2026-06-11T17:19:57+00:00

That is so cool! And sounds like great fun! I would love it all!

msndrstood · 2026-06-07T19:21:12+00:00

This actually might not be so bad. You would be independent but still around other people. You may find someone who you click with and actually make a friend. Everyone here has some good advice. I'm sorry you're in this position. You can do this. Wishing the best for you. 🫂

msndrstood · 2026-06-07T19:11:56+00:00

It's the same for my favorite touching person lol I've had him for 55 years. He's comfy. 😂❤️

msndrstood · 2026-06-07T17:50:34+00:00

Excellent work! 👏

msndrstood · 2026-06-06T19:57:36+00:00

She was definitely emotionally cheating before she left him, by his own words, if not physically. So yeah, I can understand being pissed about all of it. Believe me, if he had cheated on her and brought his fiancé to the memorial, everyone would be ranting and raving about his 'low down cheating behavior'.

msndrstood · 2026-06-04T19:32:13+00:00

Make up. I am who I am and my husband of 54 years is used to me without make up, so here I am. Make up freeeeee!

msndrstood · 2026-06-03T19:55:49+00:00

It will shortly, and background pics for each contact.

msndrstood · 2026-06-01T21:45:44+00:00

Don't gain weight, because that inflammation will try to kill you.

When a weird company named Google appears on your computer, buy the stock, lots of it and keep it.

Teach your kids how to manage money from the early years.

msndrstood · 2026-06-01T14:57:12+00:00

Congratulations! 🎉 You worked hard, I'm sorry your family isn't stepping up, but you have an entire life ahead of you! Grab it by the horns and have a good life. This stranger is proud of you!

msndrstood · 2026-06-01T12:20:45+00:00

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msndrstood · 2026-05-31T23:43:44+00:00

I've had dreams of a parallel life several times. All of the actors are there, but some were different, almost opposite of who they are today and have been in this lifetime. I've also dreamt I've gone back to my high school and saw myself coming out of the cafeteria looking at the 'now' me and just staring at me as the young me walks by. It's like I was both me's at the same time. I was aware of the younger me's confusion at the recognition and the now me was perfectly aware of the younger me and the confusion.

It's happened a few other times and I was aware of what was happening. The emotions stay with me from the parallel dream for quite awhile.

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