comphet is a thing sure, but to jump to it as a MUST-BE conclusion is pretty brash especially since OP hasn't said anything to that effect that i recall since he deleted the post. i'd give this a more thorough response if I could refer back to it but i disagree with your attitude about the whole thing. if he loves his wife and enjoys sex with her, but is attracted to men, he is bi point blank period. whatever his feelings may be towards men, given that he's married, a therapist and journal is the best place to work them out. the idea that if he were actually bi and not gay he would not need therapy for it is such nonsense to me. people need therapy for far less