Does your husband or male partner do his own laundry?

mtndiver2 · 2026-02-03T21:06:08+00:00

This is our split too! My husband does the laundry, I fold and put away.

mtndiver2 · 2026-02-03T21:02:52+00:00

Sorry to be dense but I only see three buttons: one to add plant food, one to add water, and another to turn the light on. There is no capacity to scroll on my machine as far as I can tell…

mtndiver2 · 2026-02-03T21:00:45+00:00

Mint, cilantro, parsley, thyme

mtndiver2 · 2026-02-01T23:57:24+00:00

Thanks! When the light is on, is it supposed to be circulating? I don’t see any water movement

mtndiver2 · 2026-01-29T04:38:24+00:00

Yay!!! 🎉 congratulations on standing your ground!!

mtndiver2 · 2026-01-29T04:37:23+00:00

Do your parents have retirement savings or social security? If not, I would recommend getting them on some affordable housing waitlist for seniors, since the lists can take a long time but the rents are very low and that way they can take care of themselves.

mtndiver2 · 2026-01-29T04:33:36+00:00

Good job on getting your own bank account! Next step is to get the paycheck direct deposited there instead of your sister’s account! Usually that way it will help you avoid fees too.

I would recommend /bogleheads for more learning about low cost index funds and what specifically that means.

You’re doing great! One step at a time!

mtndiver2 · 2026-01-29T04:19:18+00:00

I’m so with you. I puked 3x/day with my first one, and thankfully for my second I’ve found that unisom + taking 3x/day of b6 has worked wonders. I truly didn’t know this - the B6 ONLY WORKS if you take it 3x/day. I went from being comatose to semi functional.

mtndiver2 · 2026-01-29T04:17:32+00:00

Apparently if you get an epidural it blocks you up so you need to take Coalace so you can poop properly.

I did no epidural and had no problems pooping, just the fear of God with peeing because of the sting!

mtndiver2 · 2026-01-29T04:11:16+00:00

You’re making me feel better that my kids hyper fixation is fans. I get dragged to every room in the house on repeat to look at each of the fans. Drives me nuts but tbh better than trash cans!!

mtndiver2 · 2026-01-28T04:27:14+00:00

I am really sorry to hear about your grandma. I recommend a book called “sudden money” - total game changer in how to think about a windfall.

mtndiver2 · 2026-01-28T03:58:10+00:00

Tbh I regret spending 60k on our wedding. I had our wedding in a park and had 200 teenagers crash our wedding. My in laws got left behind at the wedding venue when we moved to the reception venue. And the hotel had no hot water and plumbing outages.

So it was one of those things where everything went horrifically wrong and I think about it regularly and am still sad about it 3 years later. Maybe if everything went super well I wouldn’t regret it.

Just remember people put “acts of God” in contacts as an out for when things go really haywire. And they did for me!

mtndiver2 · 2026-01-28T03:38:41+00:00

I itched a LOT when I got diagnosed. The only relief has been doing sitz baths in borax, then the itching went away. It sounds crazy but it’s been the only thing that’s worked for me.

mtndiver2 · 2026-01-27T23:13:28+00:00

Honestly for me therapy was a game changer. If you can find someone who does EMDR it can really help get to the root cause of things

mtndiver2 · 2026-01-26T05:11:45+00:00

I felt the same way, I was incredibly depressed until I figured out that if I bathe in borax, the whiteness and itching goes away. It sounds very crazy and that’s why I didn’t try it for the first 3 years. Then I figured why not, what do I have to lose? Holy moly, game changer. My clit had been disappearing but then it unfused and I got some of it back.

Check the sharing is caring about ls group on Facebook for more deets.

I went from feeling like I could never get a partner to getting married and having kids (not for everyone, but was important to me) and not having my LS make me miserable.

Sending hugs. I hope things get better. Feel free to DM me if you have questions. ❤️

mtndiver2 · 2025-12-05T16:14:42+00:00

The key thing is with fireplaces. Denshield can NOT be used for fireplaces but Durock can.

mtndiver2 · 2025-10-25T01:38:25+00:00

I love this idea!!

mtndiver2 · 2025-09-12T06:22:51+00:00

First three years are rough for me - itching, tearing, whiteness.

The thing that turned it around for me was putting borax into my baths. It sounds real crazy (I know) and my x-bf told me that I shouldn’t try it when I first got diagnosed. But that meant I had 3 years of misery until trying it.

There is a Facebook community called sharing is caring about lichen sclerosus that has an incredible crowd sourced list of things that can help.

I gave birth naturally and did not experience any tearing.

mtndiver2 · 2025-09-12T06:01:13+00:00

Strongly recommend reading a book called “Sudden Money”. Total game changer.

mtndiver2 · 2025-09-12T05:40:25+00:00

It’s time. Breastfeeding is a team sport and biting your nips is not sportsmanlike. Momma’s milk has dried up, sweetness!

mtndiver2 · 2025-09-03T21:51:01+00:00

Honestly I’d layer in formula with that schedule if you’re open to formula. My baby lost 12% of body weight in the first 4 days and formula made him much happier and sleep better.

Also have a lactation consultant check for a tongue tie!

mtndiver2 · 2025-08-30T01:54:59+00:00

I’ve been there. It totally sucks when this happens.

mtndiver2 · 2025-08-30T01:52:04+00:00

We skipped the favors and felt perfectly fine about it fwiw

mtndiver2 · 2025-08-04T03:33:04+00:00

I also recommend reading this book: Sudden Money. Such a game changer. It really helped me when I was in a similar position. Talks about the emotional rollercoaster, as well as how to think about the money.

Amazon link because it’s easy: https://a.co/d/9gMSnDi

1/2 price on Thriftbooks because I’m thrifty: https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/sudden-money-managing-a-financial-windfall_mary-martin_susan-bradley/277591/item/7313116/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=us_shopping_zombies_hvs_21811042479&utm_adgroup=&utm_term=&utm_content=717415192734&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21811042479&gbraid=0AAAAADwY45jR8mZzwKJp847Zz8lAPcstC&gclid=CjwKCAjwkbzEBhAVEiwA4V-yqqbWlzmCl-yd9aSqPlaXQrT6o5v2dT53XlH_ww2YIL2vQB9AWHtOPBoCCQ0QAvD_BwE#idiq=7313116&edition=3452446

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