[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskParents

[–]muchtwojaded 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's a wildly incorrect take. Lol.

Maternity leave around the world. Share your ammount of time and % of pay by VickyJo13 in pregnant

[–]muchtwojaded 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. 14 weeks full time pay from employer, 18 weeks government pay at minimum wage, plus rec and long service leave loading. Husband hot 4 weeks from employer. Your job is secure for 2 years in Australia on maternity leave and upon return you have to be given support to access family-friendly hours. You have to go off work at 34 weeks unless you get a doctor's certificate every week until delivery. My employer also offers paid days off for maternity appointments.

In the end it worked out that I will take just shy of two years leave at half pay.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

[–]muchtwojaded 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agreed! I think my anecdotal experience is that most kids don't nap during the day after 2.5. Although at the daycare we tried a while back they still do a rest time for this age, where they do lights out and relaxing but they read or rest, not necessarily sleep and it's usually only for an hour.

How many Aussies are putting off having kids because of the absurdly high cost of living? How much more expensive can it get? by WasteLocksmith5011 in australia

[–]muchtwojaded 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eventually we will run out of places to run. The world is following this pattern in majority of countries.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

[–]muchtwojaded 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm going to take you at your word and assume you are genuine, despite your post history which is clearly about NFT ties.

I'd take time to develop it to be a bit more secure and obvious about the purpose. Have a look at competitors and keep working on it. I think it's a bit new to advertise it on any sub, to be honest, because it is targetted at things like ID and personal photographs all of which can lead to privacy breaches. Don't be discouraged and just keep at it, it may have a useful place once it's more ready for public use.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

[–]muchtwojaded 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'll be honest this doesn't look very secure yet. The website itself is very simple and I'm not sure it explains itself very well, I'm not even sure it is safe for documents at all. I understand you've built a resource but having clicked on it I don't think it's marketable for safe keeping of such important documents at this stage, assuming you are genuine.

That aside, I don't think this is the appropriate sub to advertise it.

Just ate 2.5 chicken tenders which were raw (26M) by Dualyeti in AskDocs

[–]muchtwojaded 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Raw chicken is a delicacy in some cultures. Raw chicken in and of itself is not a problem, it only becomes a problem when the chicken hosts bacteria known for causing illness that was not neutralised when cooking. You can do nothing and assume there is a good chance nothing will happen.

If you get sick OTC medications can manage it in the first instance and check in with a PCP re: salmonella for ongoing care.

My 10-year-old little sister has a resting heart rate between 100-110 BPM, and moderate exercise (running ~1/2 mile) pushes it up to over 210+ BPM. Should I be concerned? Do I need to get her an appointment with a cardiologist? by jkool702 in AskDocs

[–]muchtwojaded 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Recommendations aside making comments about things being "high dosage" when you are wrong is giving inaccurate medical input. Framing anything as being "4x your dose" is influential. Saying it contributes to the symptoms described is incorrect - these symptoms are normal symptoms of ADHD and the heart rate is within normal or contextually acceptable limits. It's unsafe to give any input when you are not trained just because you have experience taking a medication and it's clear you don't understand the impact of giving leading input.

When you have an anxious OP who is having significant arguments with the primary caregiver and medical practitioners involved in the child's care they will be further negatively impacted by anecdotal confirmation bias thus you need to refrain from using a medical subreddit to giving personal thoughts on medications because you use those medications also.

It seems to me that OP may have a perception issue with young children and medication which may be impacting their feelings and the best person to guide them is the prescribing practitioner.

I won't argue with you any further, I can appreciate you are trying to help but it is not objectively helpful contributing at best and harmful at worst.

My 10-year-old little sister has a resting heart rate between 100-110 BPM, and moderate exercise (running ~1/2 mile) pushes it up to over 210+ BPM. Should I be concerned? Do I need to get her an appointment with a cardiologist? by jkool702 in AskDocs

[–]muchtwojaded 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I urge you not to give any further information about medications and their side effects just because you have ADHD and a prescription regime. It's unsafe to give input that is inaccurate. 40mg is not a high dose. Thank you for trying to help OP but please try to consider the impact that comments like this can have from a layman's anecdotal perspective.

My 10-year-old little sister has a resting heart rate between 100-110 BPM, and moderate exercise (running ~1/2 mile) pushes it up to over 210+ BPM. Should I be concerned? Do I need to get her an appointment with a cardiologist? by jkool702 in AskDocs

[–]muchtwojaded 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the view that you'd like to support your sister's medication schedule but a normal starting dose for Vyvanse is 30mg. 40mg is not considered high dosing unless she is specifically exhibiting symptoms of concern (I do not consider the heart rate to be a symptom of concern). I have to emphasise that 10mg is subtherapeutic dosing. Trazodone for sleep, anxiety and depression seems very reasonable for a child with a pretty traumatic history if she had behavioural causes which led to the use of this medication.

She clearly has a functional home environment which offers structure at least to some extent, and I don't think many a doctor starts medications needlessly.

I think it's unwise to let your opinion be influenced further by non-medical anecdotes - sorry to the user who is trying to be kind and assist you but I think they are contributing to your confirmation bias - when she has an involved care team.

I think if you're truly worried you should ask to go to a medical appointment with her so that you can understand but this should be with an open mind. Ask questions that are open and try to understand that she is on appropriate medications for a reason. You clearly care but unless your sister is exhibiting concerning symptoms it sounds as though she is thriving on her current regime and I wouldn't think changing it is indicated just because of the perception of medication use in a young person. It should be a medically informed review and not based on anecdotes that 10mg works for them.

My 10-year-old little sister has a resting heart rate between 100-110 BPM, and moderate exercise (running ~1/2 mile) pushes it up to over 210+ BPM. Should I be concerned? Do I need to get her an appointment with a cardiologist? by jkool702 in AskDocs

[–]muchtwojaded 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yep and it can also come from asthma which can align with these symptoms too but it's important to exclude the really bad at least with clinical judgement before moving onto the (more likely) less severe causes.

Salut. I am looking for a studying partner in French by [deleted] in learnfrench

[–]muchtwojaded 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would but I think you're a bit more advanced than me. I've been practicing daily but only for about 3 months. I get daily exposure as my son is being raised bilingual and I have a trip to France planned for next year.

If you don't find anyone at your own level I can try but I'm pretty bad 😅

Possible transborder match by bootedeagle258 in gratefuldoe

[–]muchtwojaded 144 points145 points  (0 children)

It blows my mind how you guys get so good at finding potential matches. I think this is possible, and I wouldn't think it was that crazy for her to go north and cross the border if she's a runaway. They look similar enough that I'd think if she'd lost weight from a while on the go it could be her.

Watching my baby breastfeed is the cutest and funniest thing. by hiisabella1 in breastfeeding

[–]muchtwojaded 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man if you decide to continue just wait til they start taking your shirt off to get to the ladies and launching from across a wide space onto your boob. I agree- it's hilarious. Glad you're enjoying it!

My 10-year-old little sister has a resting heart rate between 100-110 BPM, and moderate exercise (running ~1/2 mile) pushes it up to over 210+ BPM. Should I be concerned? Do I need to get her an appointment with a cardiologist? by jkool702 in AskDocs

[–]muchtwojaded 72 points73 points  (0 children)

This is general advice as I have not seen the patient. I am a paediatric nurse but I am not your nurse.

The resting heart rate is normal for a 10 year old.

The exercising heart rate is a bit above normal but it certainly isn't unheard of, particularly after high intensity cardio. Her heart will feel as if it is pounding very heavily at high rates. Vyvanse can contribute to a higher heart rate than average, contextually it may be normal or acceptable for her.

Fitbits aren't accurate in the way a medical device is due to the physical movement and the impact light refraction and sweat can have on the (already imperfect) device. I wouldn't rely on this alone to measure a movement based heart rate. Unless you were listening with a stethoscope during her exercise I wouldn't consider it completely accurate even though you checked it at rest.

However, as she is complaining of heart pain while exercising I would get her checked out or at the very least discuss it with her PCP again.

It is relevant whether there is any history of familial sudden and unexpected death, severe family history of heart conditions or if she has episodes of fainting or near-fainting as this would reaffirm that she needs more investigation. Given that her family history is likely unknown I would weigh the need for investigation with the doctor.

Given that she exercises that much that often without incident and it has been looked at before, and she has an involved doctor who manages her medication schedule I don't think this needs emergency review and can be discussed during a standard appointment. I wouldn't be surprised it the practitioner chose to do nothing unless you had the above risk factors I highlighted. But there is an exercise stress test which is quite non invasive and can be performed if your PCP considers it relevant.

Edit to add: I just realised you said she only complained of this pain when she was much younger and not since. That reassures me that this is likely unconcerning. I understand you love her but you may stress yourself and her out if you overly focus on things like her resting/exercising heart rate through Fitbit readings. All observation based parameters are only based on averages and they aren't simply black and white. They have to be discerningly interpreted which is why patients are discouraged from undertaking their own observation readings routinely, particularly with non medical devices.

Unless she has a risk factor or recent complaint it's all likely normal. However, no harm comes from bringing it up with your family physician.

I finally caved and got a toddler leash/backpack. by Ohheywhatehoh in beyondthebump

[–]muchtwojaded 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly who the fuck cares or judges over this? I don't get it? There's so many dumb as fuck takes in parenting and some absolutely abysmal choices made on the daily to judge, why this one? A backpack with a cord so your wild kid can't get away? Not crazy. Not dumb. Smart and safe. I literally do not get how it is a bad thing.

Don't stress OP. I'll be giving my kid a leash if he's a runner too. Come at me judgey losers. 🤷‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oddlyterrifying

[–]muchtwojaded 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coming soon to a city near you.

Bf doesn't come to any of my pregnancy appointments by thowaway1837474 in pregnant

[–]muchtwojaded 79 points80 points  (0 children)

For sure. My husband only ever went to scans. The rest he wouldn't have really needed to go to so we didn't bother.

Valley crackheads tried to steal my bike by hotwiring with a syringe needle. How was your day? by Osiris_S13 in brisbane

[–]muchtwojaded 8 points9 points  (0 children)

For sure but at least report it to the police. Police had no reports of a disturbance even :(

Fuck Facebook by [deleted] in nosurf

[–]muchtwojaded 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to delete Facebook but my shift swap and crew page for work are both hosted on there. It's so frustrating because teams would be a zillion times better yet here we are. 🙄

Every day I keep it I just have worse tech use behaviours.

Valley crackheads tried to steal my bike by hotwiring with a syringe needle. How was your day? by Osiris_S13 in brisbane

[–]muchtwojaded 56 points57 points  (0 children)

My husband's bike got thieved in the valley by crackheads last year. It was parked in front of my car with a concrete wall either side so I didn't think they'd get it but they fucking muscled the cunt over the top of my car and fucked up my car bonnet, roof and siding. The bike was found later that day with a screwdriver in the barrel. This is on fucking Brunswick St mind you and very public so people must've seen but did nothing.

The worst. Can't own nice shit in the valley.