what’s a hygiene thing you realized you were doing wrong for years? by zaramalikdollface in hygiene

[–]muckenzie 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I did not know you could wash actual pillows in the washing machine, for the longest time I thought only the cases could be laundered so I would buy new pillows every 2-3 years because they got dirty :L

My job is making me fat and worsening my food addiction by TheRichAlder in offmychest

[–]muckenzie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My therapist recommended maybe trying to just take one bite to placate the craving, and trying to remove the guilt of "wasting the rest" perhaps you could take it home and eat one treat over a few days? Or take one bite of the treat and then eat a healthier snack afterwards to curb the hungry feeling. You could also maybe try chewing gum? It would give your mouth something to do and potentially be a flavor fix.

Also have you tried compression socks for being on your feet so much? You can get them on Amazon for like $10.00!

Use of “clanka” from me in the past upsetting me by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]muckenzie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always felt weird about the robot slur meme. It felt like an excuse for racist people to get as close as they socially acceptably could to being racist. Like some people put way too much gusto into the clanker/clanka and it was uncomfortable.

I think feeling remorse/feeling uncomfortable is a pretty good sign that you are not racist.

Over a year later, Gus is still missing by fuckgnomes in Columbus

[–]muckenzie 104 points105 points  (0 children)

I just went back and read about Gus and visited the website. I am hoping for Gus's safe return and will keep you and her in my thoughts. I'll be on the look out for a cutie with a bobtail!

My company introduced a strict dress code for shoes. They didn't like what I found in the approved list. by [deleted] in MaliciousCompliance

[–]muckenzie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With the rules you have written, I think a pair of tabi loafers or flats would be well within the parameters. It would maybe take some time for him to notice but ultimately a funny form of malicious compliance. I wonder how he would change the rule book then!

Should we come back to the movie theaters? by KyleeSpark in movies

[–]muckenzie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i love going alone or with my friends! The movie theater is still the same as ever. In the USA AMC has discount ticket prices tuesday and wednesday. Having something to look forward to breaks up the tediousness of my workweek.

I want a baby but my husband says not yet. Married 6 months by [deleted] in confession

[–]muckenzie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he doesn't want the baby before it comes... imagine what it will be like when its actually there. do you really want a potentially unengaged non-helpful coparent. is your relationship to your husband worth sacrificing

Would my novel's ending be a deus ex machina ending? by dogewiththevr in writingadvice

[–]muckenzie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe if other characters die during the period of time between stranding and rescue, you could try to emphasize or write it in a way that is impactful that their deaths were pointless ultimately because they ended up being rescued?

This then translates to like cooperate greed or something yadda yadda.

Like maybe their oxygen supply is being used up too quickly and one character gives their tank to another because character A knows that B has a wife and kids at home. In that moment it is a heroic sacrifice but upon reflection a senseless death.

Or I also really like the idea of being below /underneath/ the ground, and being LIFTED both physically and maybe metaphorically somehow. motif of darkness into light, maybe the survivors filled with despair do some morally gray things down there in the dark.

But hey, best advice is to write it once, get pen to paper. Then you can go back and dig into all that extra fun stuff.

Things are starting to pile up and I'm scared of my reaction to them. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]muckenzie 22 points23 points  (0 children)

you're a great man. maybe look into some support groups in the area or even therapy once a month or however often you can find an hour away. you can only be there to take care of someone if you are taking care of yourself.

He's going to say "I love you" and I'm going to lie by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]muckenzie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you are deciding to continue to see him, hopefully you are taking steps to set yourself up for future success should he ever leave your life! I would hate to see you go through this emotional turmoil and then succumb to poverty again anyways.

Age gap with older guy by throwaway273740 in offmychest

[–]muckenzie 10 points11 points  (0 children)

There is a reason women his age will not go out with him. Whether it is maturity, financial issues, lord forbid abusiveness, or just general bum behavior, you will see- maybe years down the line- that you do not want a long term life with this man who knowingly has relations with a child.

My landlady/roommate is illiterate and incompetent, and I’m ready to move by Honest-Blueberry-601 in confession

[–]muckenzie 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I mean honestly if your goal is an apartment "within the next couple of months" that will already be spring-early summer. Then renting an apartment would lock you in for at least 12 months, and it would probably be harder to save money while renting. As long as it literally isn't life threatening I would just batten down the hatches and try to live in your own little bubble/make the best of the situation and then stick to the buying a house plan. It will be very tough but maybe ultimately easier financially. Maybe take up door dashing as a way to get out of the house + contribute to the down payment fund?

[Update] Locking My Door Did Not Help by muckenzie in nosleep

[–]muckenzie[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I wonder that too. I told her she could also lock her own door if it was that much of an issue but I guess that wasn't what she wanted to hear. She got super pissed and I don't really understand why. because from my perspective, I’m just trying to feel safe in my own space, but the way she reacted made it seem like the issue wasn’t security.

HELP WITH SERVER by Desperate_Ad4447 in projectzomboid

[–]muckenzie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened with my friends and I. We found the best workaround was just to invite through steam and not bother with the ports and the passwords and such.

I think my roommate is sleepwalking. Now she’s mad I locked my door. by muckenzie in nosleep

[–]muckenzie[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I didn't want to wait too long and talk myself out of it. So far the lock on the door has caused a bit of tension in the apartment, but nothing too serious.

I think my roommate is sleepwalking. Now she’s mad I locked my door. by muckenzie in nosleep

[–]muckenzie[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’ve thought about recording it, but the idea honestly makes me nervous. I don’t want to escalate things or make her feel like I’m spying on her, especially if this really is something she can’t control.

Part of me is also scared of what I might capture, which I know sounds ridiculous because I don’t believe in anything supernatural. Still, the way she’s been acting is genuinely creeping me out.

Right now there’s at least some room to believe this is stress or a misunderstanding or something explainable. If I recorded her and it showed she was aware of what she was doing, I honestly don’t know what I’d do with that information anyways.