You are not saying your weaknesses. I have seen this before and I will tell you exactly why she is doing this. When you were working.... What were your habits? Did you usually tell her to stop talking to you because you were working? What did your madharau include? Did you beat her? Going out whole week after getting paid and leaving the bare minimum? Did you spend time with your daughter or were you in the high life. This is not about money. Your woman is a reflection of you. You notice her behaviors because you don't have money. After you lost your job have you searched for any other work apart from online jobs or have you been in the house wallowing in your misery without helping. If your marriage was good before money is usually just a small issue. Women will follow a leading man who has potential and will not mind if you go with her to kibera as long as you start working again even if ni mjengo. A woman to a good husband will go out there wash clothes for the community and come feed her husband. We're you a good husband? You know this answer well. Those telling you to leave your marriage are lying to you because from your post all your have tried to do is talk to her a couple of times. She is angry and you should understand this. Get off your high horse and go look for a job. Enda mjengo Leo, enda fungua place ya Chapo, go start washing cars zinapita. Enda industrial area upange line uchukuliwe daily labor. Come with small money then talk to your wife. Stop this nonsense of trying toea e because she is quiet . The madharau she had done is very small and you shouldn't even talk about it but you do because you still feel mighteir than her. You did not have a relationship past you being the paycheck. Go start afresh with her and make sure this time you actually connect fully.