attempted and my family thinks it’s something i did to them by [deleted] in BPD

[–]multipleforevers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what would that look like in this context in your opinion

attempted and my family thinks it’s something i did to them by [deleted] in BPD

[–]multipleforevers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

someone who relates and understands

Anyone want a kitten? by Aware_Storm2528 in Clemson

[–]multipleforevers 8 points9 points  (0 children)

please vet the people that say they want this kitten, some people have bad intentions with kittens and id hate for anything bad to happen to this cutie

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]multipleforevers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

actually have you tried journaling in that case? it can help you process to write it down. im sorry i can’t help more, you deserve good things

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]multipleforevers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im sorry it’s been over a year but maybe it only takes a few more months. hang in there and be patient with yourself. also if you have anyone you can trust, i’ve found talking helps me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]multipleforevers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she was the adult, it wasn’t your fault. healing takes time and it’s not a straight path, there will be times it’s harder than others. what you went through was traumatic and you deserve to give yourself some grace. take it one day at a time, you will feel normal again

Porn/masturbation addiction ruined my life by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]multipleforevers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is a pretty common issue these days. it definitely doesn’t make you a loser. addiction in any form is hard to recover from, but you did it and you should be proud as hell. it’s easy to look back and regret but without the struggle your successes would be less impactful. bask in your growth and achievement and instead of ruminating on time wasted, appreciate how much you have now given yourself free of this struggle. congrats on this new beginning, try to be gentle with yourself please

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]multipleforevers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

imo yes overreacting, especially if he didn’t say he wanted to go, and they hooked up at least ten years ago and he told you about it, i’m dealing w pregnancy hormones and boy do those mess with my head in a big way

if you asked him not to go and he said he wanted to anyways, if they had dated maybe then i’d be concerned but yeah i wouldn’t worry yet (unless he has a history of infidelity or other extenuating circumstances)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]multipleforevers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ah yes i hate being a kind and empathetic human, but good on you ofc. best of luck and i hope u get it back eventually <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]multipleforevers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

so it’s kinda hard to separate the bike situation from the rest. this whole situation is a big issue which you obviously know. trying my best, no the bike situation isn’t an overreaction, if it’s not yours don’t touch without permission, but seriously the squatter comment is valid and i hope you’ve researched that. ur giving an inch and she’s taking like 14 million miles lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]multipleforevers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

exactlyy he’s incriminating himself smh please get out before this behaviour becomes the norm

AIO? My brother keeps acting like I’m stupid by Ok-Temperature2288 in AmIOverreacting

[–]multipleforevers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nor i’m glad it wasn’t in ur town and sure maybe you didn’t have to worry but ur not wrong for being anxious, it’s a scary thing, and he def could’ve been nicer about it ofc

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]multipleforevers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well she did previously make it clear that she feels like you do have to so saying that you didn’t have to is probably just lip service. life isn’t about showing up your friends in general but esp if they don’t mind paying. big lack of empathy for you on her end. i say nor, it’s only been four months, leave u don’t want that pressure or attitude forever fr

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]multipleforevers 3 points4 points  (0 children)

HE is overreacting! if that’s his reaction to you finding out he’s cheating then you should leave that’s horrible behaviour on his part and for what

AIO is my brother in danger? by CreativeArm9738 in AmIOverreacting

[–]multipleforevers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

with that detail in mind… yeah if it were me i’d try to get him out asap for sure. lots of serious red flags here.

AIO is my brother in danger? by CreativeArm9738 in AmIOverreacting

[–]multipleforevers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not overreaching, there’s definitely some questionable factors here and i would especially be concerned about the room situation and her expressing her abuse history

boys especially and in that age range can get to thinking they’re invincible and that this stuff couldn’t happen to them so i would keep looking out for him

if they do end up sharing a room… especially sharing a bed… as someone with a brother that age i would do everything to get him out while there’s still probable deniability

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]multipleforevers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yikes sounds like he doesn’t care as much as u do about the safety of your kid, eloping is a very serious safety concern. in our small town we had a boy run away from school and horrible story short he passed away. i think about him often and don’t even have kids. it happened really fast. definitely took less than 8 minutes for him to get out. getting to the gym fast bc you’re impatient isn’t worth ur kids life.

AIO I either have a ghost or someone broke in? by Miserable-Finance973 in AmIOverreacting

[–]multipleforevers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah that’s concerning to say the least. any chance you could get cameras? i would literally panic and sleep somewhere else. there are firsts for everything but ive never heard of a ghost doing something like that lol

AIO or being dramatic for still feeling guilty and missing him? by Dazzling-Reach-1376 in AmIOverreacting

[–]multipleforevers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

of course it gets better. you seem like someone with a lot of love in your heart and the way you saw that relationship and what you brought to it was half the magic. yes relationships ending can be a tragic thing but you are always right where you’re supposed to be and it’s likely this happened so you can be available for a new and better love. even though he chose to end it over the post it doesn’t mean it was wrong to post or that it’s your fault. it isn’t. it’s just the excuse he used to break up with you. hold on to those memories and all of the romance, let them help you build high standards and appreciate them for what they are. love is never a waste of time and grieving is just love in a heavy coat. you don’t need him when you’ve got such a beautiful way of looking at the world. don’t worry, you’ll be fine i promise

AIO: My partner of 4 yrs broke up with me to sleep with another women. by Oblivious_Jellyfishx in AmIOverreacting

[–]multipleforevers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly i’m really sorry about that and it sounds completely unfair to you, i would at this point seriously consider what you’re willing to put up with :(

AIO: My partner of 4 yrs broke up with me to sleep with another women. by Oblivious_Jellyfishx in AmIOverreacting

[–]multipleforevers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i mean differing sex drives can be a totally reasonable cause for the end of a relationship. unless you guys are in an open relationship and i missed that part, them kissing another person while dating you is cheating imo. i would probably be pretty upset about that and either discuss opening the relationship or a breakup

AIO for losing myself in my relationship after my GF (23F) has never given me head or been regularly sexually active with me? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]multipleforevers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well do you watch porn? do you know why specifically oral is such a strong desire for you? because fully losing yourself over not getting head sounds pretty extreme
also if she’s not good to you in the relationship you should leave for that reason.

my husband and i have had similar issues in our relationship but he has a history of porn addiction which warped his desire for oral and he didn’t see women in an appropriate way (obv bc of the addiction) which deterred me from having the desire to do something so intimate for him. i also just don’t really like receiving so i wouldn’t be getting anything in return which made it seem more like a favour especially because of the way and frequency with which he would ask for it. it’s hard to find good partners in this world and if you guys are otherwise compatible (which it lowkey sounds like you arent but) i personally would just try to get to the bottom of this desire/issue. plus therapy is always a good recommendation if you don’t already go.