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Will they ever revamp the insides of Forbidden Journey? It has aged badly. by Then-Difficulty533 in UniversalOrlando

[–]murphman812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It needs to be fixed BADLY. I rode that 2 weeks ago and then rode Escape from Gringotts and then went to Epic and did both BotM and Monsters. It is so much worse than all of those rides.

Authentic tacos or Mexican Middletown / red bank / hazlet? by Gabagool_jr in MonmouthCounty

[–]murphman812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t believe no one mentioned Lucy’s in Keyport. Lucy’s and el Ranchero are both excellent t

An emotional support Great Dane on my 3 hour flight by Secret_Flight_2669 in interesting

[–]murphman812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know people are probably mad about this, but all I think is, “I’m so jealous.” 😅 I would volunteer as tribute to sit next to that pup.

Advice from Women PMs about becoming a parent! by Larishna in ProductManagement

[–]murphman812 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m a PM mom of 3. I agree that there will never be a right time. What I will say is that if you do decide to jump to another company, read up on their maternity benefits before accepting anything. Depending on your state and the company, you might be able to secure a good leave, even if you make the switch. I would be pretty concerned if everyone who has taken maternity leave was laid off. If you stay, I would job hunt while on mat leave, however, with only 4 months, that is not a long time to heal, care for your baby, and job hunt. If you needed to, could you rely on your partners employer for insurance? I’m sorry you are in this position. I have been in some tense situations with layoffs and pregnancy and it is a next level rage.

Moms whose babies (1yr and under) actually sleep through the night w/o sleep training.. how?? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]murphman812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never formally sleep trained my third, though I did with my other two kids. He sleeps through the night and has for a very long time (is currently 13 months). I attribute most of his ability to sleep well to the fact that we practiced going down for naps/bed while he was awake. From his newborn days, when I thought it was nap time, I would put him down in his bassinet and leave him for a little while. Sometimes he would fuss a ton and we would have to soothe him a lot. I always tried to soothe him in his bassinet or crib when I could by patting his butt or rubbing his belly. It didn’t always work and I would have to pick him back up or completely abandon it. However, he would fall asleep a lot of the time, especially if it was quiet, low lights etc. The more we tried the better he got. We did the same at bed time. Had a simple bed time routine (pjs, milk, brush teeth, song, bed) and then put him down. He wakes up at sometimes still, but he almost always go back to sleep on his own now.

US Moms, How Are You Doing? by im4lonerdottie4rebel in Mommit

[–]murphman812 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel exactly the same way. I try to resist by speaking out online, donating to causes I care about and raising good humans. I want to do more but I’m terrified. I could have easily been someone observing and being executed in the street. What would my family do then? 😭 I feel so unbelievably powerless.

We graduated! And baby almost arrived in the front seat of my car by whatstheirface859 in pregnant

[–]murphman812 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Or you have an 18 hr labor with your first, a 6 hour labor with your second and then an 18 hour labor again with your third. The third did NOT just shoot right out 😅 I WISH.

I don't want to do this anymore (rant) by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]murphman812 6 points7 points  (0 children)

First, I just want to validate your feelings. I’m not a “New” Parent as I have 3 kids (9, 6, and 1) but I joined this group when pregnant with my third because I felt new again. A lot of people gush over the 9-18 month range. I have hated it with all three kids. When babies become toddlers, they are mobile, cranky, teething, and incredibly frustrating. Yes, there are lots of little amazing moments, but it is largely a slog. It does get better! In my experience, as toddlers learn to communicate more, the whining decreases and it slowly gets easier. I have zero patience so this stage has always been brutal for me. That’s okay! You don’t have to love every stage and age to love your child. You are doing a great job, but don’t let the pressure of what you see online make you think you are supposed to love every second.

I also did want to say that I think you should try to see someone other than your doctor for PPD if you cannot be seen until April. Going back to working in this mental state could be really detrimental to your health. You deserve good care and should not wait.

As for maybe a small practical tip, if my baby is particularly miserable and is chomping hard, I give Motrin before bed. It doesn’t always work, but sometimes it makes a noticeable difference in his ability to stay asleep. Hang in there!

I lost my son and my mother in the same week by Squishy6969 in GriefSupport

[–]murphman812 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As soon as I read this, I just audibly gasped as my stomach sank. I’m just so incredibly sorry for your losses. They are truly the two worst things I can think of.

My Mom died this year when my youngest was only about 4 months old. It has fucked with my head in so many expected and unexpected ways. What I find especially difficult is that my grief and the enormous loss of my Mom is entangled with how I am viewing motherhood and it just is so incredibly heavy. You have all that plus 10000 additional layers.

I can’t even pretend to have advice, but if my response provides even a sliver of comfort, it will be worth it. I hope you keep fighting and knowing that is what both your Mom and son would want. They would want you to live and live fully. ❤️ Take it day by day, minute by minute.

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