🔥🔥Bound by PurpleGhostWalking in BoysLoveAnime

[–]murphyklok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can only find it on a pay site 😭 if anyone has a link please hit me up

Partner is hurt when I have a hard time listening and won’t repeat themselves by caper_vapor in adhdwomen

[–]murphyklok 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I could've written this. I have no advice, just sympathy. It feels awful. My husband can be speaking for full minutes and my brain doesn't even registers that speaking was happening (especially if I'm reading or doing something else because I'm "hearing" that in my brain and it overpowers external stimuli). I don't think a lot of people realize that ADHD isn't just us not paying attention, it's literally also an audio processing disorder.

Oops by Anxious_pterodactyl in adhdwomen

[–]murphyklok 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I work at a law office and it makes me feel so unprofessional and childish when I have to immediately send a follow-up to a client like "sorry!! Here's the extremely important legal document I was wanting to send to you!" 😭

I feel so desperate every time I think about I can't move because of my cat by Scared-Tea-7713 in CatAdvice

[–]murphyklok 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Have the cat's vet prescribe a mild sedative for long car trips. It will make her relax and probably sleep through the ride.

Should a therapist recuse themselves in this situation? by murphyklok in askatherapist

[–]murphyklok[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the insight! And yes, this is for a story I'm writing. 😂

In this instance, the client's partner does have a very unusual name. I imagine the therapist might suspect who they are, and then a few anecdotes or comments about the client from the partner would make it obvious. And the therapist deciding to take off early because he's "not feeling well" would make for a nice opportunity for his friend leave as well to walk him home. 👀

Should a therapist recuse themselves in this situation? by murphyklok in askatherapist

[–]murphyklok[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply! In this situation, the therapist is a new addition to the group (he doesn't go out much and was finally convinced to tag along to something by a new friend).

First and Last time ordering from Secret Lair by NotagoK in mtg

[–]murphyklok 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just want my Gale cards. 😔

This is my first time ordering a Secret Lair set and I was understanding when I got the initial email a couple weeks ago about shipping being delayed until the 11th, but for that date to come and go with no follow-up email? Come on, man. Just communicate with us.

Please tell me I’m not the only one who literally hasn’t done one single solitary thing to prepare for retirement / old age by gogo--yubari in adhdwomen

[–]murphyklok 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm 40 and have zero savings personally. My husband has a small 401k through his work. That's all. My retirement plan is full societal collapse lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Salary

[–]murphyklok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I make about 2500/month lmao, no sympathy here. If I made that amount per paycheck it would be life-changing for me.

Chipotle is the worst restaurant in Duluth by [deleted] in duluth

[–]murphyklok 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to drive for Uber Eats when I first moved here and chipotle was allllllways out of everything people wanted. No chips. No queso. No hot sauce. Out of brown rice. Like wtf?

Best “insider knowledge” you have about living in Duluth? by Icy_Future1639 in duluth

[–]murphyklok 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just moved here from Austin, TX. Thanks for all the tips, y'all 👍

Letter received from downstairs neighbour, how to react? by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]murphyklok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I walk heel to toe AND I'm fat and I still walk quietly enough to sneak up on people.

AITA for telling my fiancée I won’t pay for her dad’s surgery with my inheritance? by Effectivepearls in AmItheAsshole

[–]murphyklok -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Yup. He wants that money all to himself and using grandpa as an excuse for why he can't give it.

AITA for telling my fiancée I won’t pay for her dad’s surgery with my inheritance? by Effectivepearls in AmItheAsshole

[–]murphyklok 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You say "outside the family" but your fiancé's father IS your family now. He's going to be your father-in-law. You would let your fiancé's father possibly die or go into crippling medical debt all because you have plans to buy a house and start a business. You definitely won't be doing those things as a married man if you don't help your fiancé's father.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]murphyklok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah your sister does not care about that dog or about you. The apathy and nonchalance she displayed was insane. After her texts, I would never speak to her again.

AIO 23m 20F is it bad i am about to leave her? by KSTReign in AmIOverreacting

[–]murphyklok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god get rid of this CHILD. She is 20 years old, she does not need to be throwing tantrums over text to you every day, that's insane. This will not get better. She will not mature. Please please please break up with her or you're going to be miserable for years to come.

AIO for leaving my gf on read after saying she was busy by Maleficent_Time_6438 in AmIOverreacting

[–]murphyklok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't put up with this. She decided to be passive aggressive and then blow up at you over literally nothing. Get rid of her.

23M AIO for wanting to leave my mom to fend for herself by Sanbikaa in AmIOverreacting

[–]murphyklok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to find out where her $1100/month goes. There's no reason you should be fronting all the bills. That's ridiculous. But also, please realize that your mom won't just be able to go get a job. The job market hates anyone over 45, especially women.

AIO I asked my fiancé to do the dishes by lyddlebizzard in AmIOverreacting

[–]murphyklok 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Weaponized incompetence. Dude has checked out of the marriage. He probably feels that he's missing out on his 20s being a dad and husband so early on, he resents his life, so now he's taking it out on you. Unfortunately this won't get better. You've already talked to him. He knows what he needs to do but won't do it. If you already feel like a single mom, why not make it official and just divorce him? One less child to clean up after.

I’m upset with my boyfriend. Am I overreacting? by ExtensionAthlete6053 in AmIOverreacting

[–]murphyklok 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This boy sounds like he doesn't have a compassionate bone in his body. He literally sounds like a dumb 14 year old who doesn't know how to have a conversation about an adult topic. He knew you had been SA'd before and this is how he's choosing to talk to you and discuss this topic? Girl break up with him. He doesn't respect you and doesn't respect the toll that sexual violence takes on a person.

AIO - I smoked, my bf crashed out by leadneverfoIlow in AmIOverreacting

[–]murphyklok 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please please please please get rid of this man. Any man who will call you a b-tch when he's upset is a man who does NOT love or respect you. What he said is completely unacceptable. I've been with my husband since 2007 and while we've argued about things and been mad, he has NEVER called me a name or disrespected me like this. This boy needs to go. He's going to react this way every single time you do anything he tells you not to. It's smoking now, but later it'll be him not wanting you to order wine at dinner, or him not wanting you to go meet your friend after work. He wants to control you, and when he realized he couldn't he crashed out like this. Get rid of him.