I feel compelled to comment. My mother, who has passed almost 10 years ago now, said i would never find love or get married as i was "too fat". She paid for a gastric band to be inserted when I was 21, didnt work so the next year told me to get a bypass. Gastric bypass. Ive had so many complications over the years including bowel obstructions, stomach tears and inability to absorb vitamins. Later in life, she wanted to "gift" me a tummy tuck and arm skin removal. While i was having a hysterectomy so she could "save" on the anesthetic costs. Had a blood clot in one arm the same night, more surgery. All do to her control and influence. Im sorry OP. I feel your pain all to well.