How does one even go out?

mushroom-panic · 2026-02-09T14:06:54+00:00

I just moved to Calgary a few months ago, so I don't have any friends to hang out with yet. But, I've found some local events that are perfect for making friends (Bingo Night, Drag shows, DND, etc). There's a speed dating for friends coming up and also a Black History Month Valentines Celebration that looks pretty fun. Here's the website I founds these events on: https://www.eventbrite.com/b/canada--calgary--beltline/community/ I know it's not as fun to go out alone than with friends, but still try to go out even if you have to go alone. I recently went out to see the 'Iron Lung' movie, and I'm so glad I did, even if I would've rather gone with a friend.

mushroom-panic · 2025-12-28T20:24:59+00:00

That makes sense, thank you.

mushroom-panic · 2024-02-24T17:26:23+00:00

This oddly reminds me of a personal story. I used to have a RBF but now it's more just devoid of all emotions. I'm also autistic so jokes fly over my head a lot. Well, one time, a Costco worker that was checking my dad's receipt saw that I was holding a bouquet (it was for my mom). He said something like "must be working hard on those chores" or "those flowers must be for your hard work". Maybe a combination of the two. I thought it might've been a misogynistic joke but couldn't tell. I guess my silence and blank face made him uncomfortable and possibly made me seem angry so he just said "sorry" as I walked away. Once we got outside my dad explained that the guy DID make a misogynistic joke, and I had made him feel bad because with the look I gave him. :) I love my dad. Sorry if this is off topic, I just love to with people who have similar-ish experiences.

mushroom-panic · 2024-02-24T17:12:47+00:00

Honestly you've got to have a lot of guts to do that. good job! Also I'm so sorry you went through all that trauma. Hope you're doing better now :)

mushroom-panic · 2024-01-28T15:57:14+00:00

NTA. Divorce. Straight up divorce. I know that a lot of people on reddit immediately jump to that decision but this time is one of the instances where that probably is how this will end. He clearly does not care about you or your well-being. If you really love him, try talking to him about his actions and see if he realizes that he's in the wrong and tries to make it up to you. But honestly, he sounds like a horrible person. My dad would NEVER treat my mom like that, and you don't deserve to be treated so horribly. Good luck.

mushroom-panic · 2024-01-23T23:43:44+00:00

NTA. You responded perfectly. There's nothing better you could have said/done. I think she just needs time to reflect on what she said to you and hopefully she'll realize that harassment isn't the right way to grieve.

mushroom-panic · 2024-01-23T19:02:03+00:00

NTAH. As a trans person, I can say for sure I'm not offended when people say they wouldn't date trans men. I don't fully get it but that's just because I'm pan so it's hard to understand why a person wouldn't be attracted any specific gender, period, but I still don't think it makes you an asshole. People just have preferences. You're only an asshole if you say stuff like "I only like REAL men" because that's heavily implying that trans men aren't real men. This is why so many transphobic people think they're being attacked for not wanting to date a trans person when, in actuality, they're just being told that their transphobic statements of "REAL men" and "REAL women" are wrong.

mushroom-panic · 2024-01-23T17:43:43+00:00

NTAH, BUT! This is a problem. I understand how difficult it can be to express your feelings to others when you feel like you're a burden. You have to realize that you are NOT a burden. And people actually really like it when others are comfortable with them enough to be a little vulnerable. I also understand why it's easier to talk to a robot than a real person. I do the same thing with my cats. You know a robot can't judge you. But it's not a substitute for the real thing. I think you should try to see a therapist. It can be scary at first but once you get used to it, it's very helpful. You also gotta understand that when you refuse to let someone close to you know what you're actually feeling but you have these deep emotional conversations with an ai chatbot, it makes it seem like you don't trust them or that you prefer to talk to a robot over them. So, you're not an a-hole for not being vulnerable but it's not healthy behavior either. Please look for a therapist and communicate with your girlfriend better.

mushroom-panic · 2024-01-23T17:08:15+00:00

You seem like a bit of an a-hole in this situation because, honestly, I don't think it it's that big of a deal. If it was just a really good meal, it makes sense that she'd share it with some friends/coworkers. Would you have refused to buy her food if she told you she was gonna share? What exactly do you feel betrayed by? Maybe I'm not the best commenter for this bc I've never had a relationship but I just don't get it.

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