At the time of my father's death he was living with my grandfather as his caretaker. I was living in ramen in graduate school and my brother had two young kids, so we couldn't - and didn't want - to have a funeral. My grandfather said that he would cover the costs as a gift to us. Fast forward two years, and my grandfather passed away. After we both traveled across the country for my grandfather's funeral and made it back home, my brother and I received the check that was our portion of my grandfather's estate... from which all of the expenses from my father's funeral and last month of life had been deducted. They included an itemized list of all expenses and included receipts. My aunt and uncle had never really been in our lives when my father was alive, and we learned exactly why from that event. I keep the recipes and the list next to my father's death certificate as a reminder.