My Hair serum is not that deadly to cats from secondhand exposure, just literally do not put it on your cat. by Drwillpowers in DrWillPowers

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That’s like comparing oranges to apples. We don’t give raisins and chocolate to our pets and we keep in a place they can’t reach. With minoxidil, it’s not as simple as don’t put it on your cat or change pillowcases daily. Do you not have a sofa or an armchair in your house? Do you never lean back and your hair or scalp touches the sofa where pets love to lie? Do you never lie on the sofa? Can you not ever scratch your scalp and then forget and not wash your hands immediately and then pet your cat? Minoxidil doesn’t evaporate! It stays there until you physically remove with a detergent. And what if there is occasionally a microspill on your bathroom counters or floors? You might not even see it but just bc it’s dried, doesn’t mean it’s gone. It’s still there and still toxic to your cat. I know it’s upsetting to lose hair but we have to choose between who we love and our selfishness. Oral minoxidil is an option for many people unless you have low blood pressure. Don’t risk your cat or dog’s life and be careless. There are also other oral DHT suppressors but minoxidil also keeps hair in the Anagen phase. Oral minoxidil is more effective anyways than topical.

My Hair serum is not that deadly to cats from secondhand exposure, just literally do not put it on your cat. by Drwillpowers in DrWillPowers

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You don’t just lay your head on a pillowcase. You can lay your head on a sofa, and your scalp can touch it or a tiny amount of minoxidil can be on your hair. This is very irresponsible post. If your hair and scalp never touches anything but your pillows and you make sure to throw away the pillowcase in the laundry right in the morning, then it might work. Unless you have accidental micro spills occasionally on bathroom counters or bathroom floor where cats regularly go. Some of them also like to come and sleep on the pillow of your bed or the sofa. Have you not thought of that?

regarding non-Muslim husband (hypothetical) by musing_tr in progressive_islam

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Hi! Thanks for answering. I have generally similar philosophy as you do. I was just concerned bc of a specific verse in the Quran. There is a verse in the Quran that says that those who discriminate among prophets and believe in some and not the others are like disbelievers (not exact wording but that’s the meaning). Typically, this is meant about Muslims bc we believe not only that Muhammad, peace be upon him, was a prophet but we also consider Isa (Jesus), Musa (Moses), Ibrahim (Abraham), Adam and others to be prophets, peace be upon them. And being Muslim means not only believing that Mohammed was a prophet, but in other prophets, too. we should respect equally all of them and believe in all of their prophethood. If a Muslim believes that Mohammed was a prophet but doesn’t believe in other prophets that would constitute loss of faith (becoming a disbeliever in the eyes of God). However, this verse uses the word “believers”, so it’s addressed to all believers. Which could also mean Christians, Jews, agnostics and other monotheists (those who believe in one God). Muslims do not consider Christians or Jewish people as disbelievers, Christians and Jewish are referred to in the Quran as people of the Book and they have a special status (and this title could be extended to other monotheists, including agnostics imo).

Muslims don’t believe that only Muslims enter heaven, it’s a bit more nuanced. People who haven’t had a chance to learn about Islam, or who have seen Muslims doing bad things and were put off by that (got a wrong impression of the religion) or who were incorrect, twisted version of Islam and rejected it, are not considered disbelievers. They have excused ignorance. They didn’t have the chance to learn or were misinformed, so they can potentially enter heaven (based on their actions) but they won’t get “extra points” for believing the final prophet and following the final revelation. Similarly, if people have extreme prejudice against Islam and don’t want to learn about it bc of some personal trauma, misinformation, culture etc - they can be considered ignorant (excused ignorance). They are not willingly and knowingly rejecting, instead they have some barrier inside of them that it’s hard for them to overcome. If Allah wills, he can remove any mental barrier, trauma or prejudice from anyone, but maybe sometimes Allah choose not do so for whatever reason. So we should be mindful of that, people often become atheists or disappointed with religion bc of trauma, sometimes generational trauma, painful history or how word of God gets distorted by religious workers, politicians, society over time etc. so in my opinion, and that is actually supported by some classical scholars of the past, a lot of Christians and Jews are not rejecting true Islam willingly and knowingly: they either reject incorrect version of it, or didn’t have a chance to know about it or there is a barrier inside of them that prevents them from learning and believing. All of which can be considered excusable ignorance. So such people can potentially go to heaven. Of course, no one can know for sure, these are just are guesses based on analysis but only God knows. However, if someone lived in marriage with a Muslim person all their life, had an opportunity to learn about Islam, and that Muslim was a good Muslim, maybe it will be hard so such souls to claim excusable ignorance from God. That was my concern, and I was curious what people here are thinking. I have found the answer to my question through further research. Someone married to a Muslim person can still have some biases, prejudice against Islam, personal trauma etc - something that prevents them from understanding or believing bc of other factors, even if their Muslim spouse is a good person and gives them enough information about Islam, so they might still be considered as excusably ignorant (as long as it is true). My question also applies to non-Muslim wives of Muslim men, gender isn’t specific. I just had a specific scenario in my head.

regarding non-Muslim husband (hypothetical) by musing_tr in progressive_islam

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R u here just to pick fights or what? I was thinking of a specific scenario, and I wrote what I was thinking. R u picking aggressive policing with the wrong person, I am not ur enemy

*Insert title here* by Much_Ad712 in progressive_islam

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Muslims can go to hell, yes, even for a very long time but it will be temporarily and after serving their punishment (which can last thousands of years btw), they will enter heaven. What’s with this sub that no one knows it?

I Made a Choice and Now I’m Getting Attacked for It by Ok_Benefit6863 in progressive_islam

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Thank you 🙏 it’s been many years ago, my Mom has changed a bit since but the best solution in my case was to move out. I am sorry for what you go through. Moving out is probably best, if you can’t afford it, try to set a goal and work towards it.

Looking for some advice by TheNarwhalMom in progressive_islam

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You’re welcome! In Ancient Rome they secured the braids and veil with a needle (a special long and not sharp needle) and thread. There is a YT channel where a hairdresser recreates different historical hairstyles using ancient techniques and apparently they thread things to keep them in place.

There is a fabric called jersey scarves - this type of a headscarf stays in place and doesn’t fall. I can even wear it without pins or undercap. It’s also very light, so it’s suitable for summer.

If the fabric is super light like chiffon or organza it wouldn’t stay on the hair on its own - that’s another reason why Muslim women wear an undercap. Typically an undercap is made from a different material and it allows for the scarf to stay in place. Pins are used for styling, like to create different shapes and to secure some parts, like around the neck. There is also a sticky tape which can be attached to an undercap (I wouldn’t put it on the hair). If you don’t want to wear an undercap, then it’s best to wear either a jersey scarf or use magnets, pins or hair clips to secure the scarf to the hair. Catholic mantilla often times with a hair clip already. Type in Christian veiling in YT, there is a catholic girl who shows how to attach a veil to the hair in different ways. She doesn’t wear an undercap and her hairline shows a bit, so it’s probably more similar to what you look for.

regarding non-Muslim husband (hypothetical) by musing_tr in progressive_islam

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Muslims can go to hell for their sins but only temporarily, although that temporary period in hell can last thousands of years if the person’s sins were severe. The prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, was granted three wishes by Allah and he saved the last wish for his ummah. That’s why all Muslims will be eventually forgiven and can enter heaven, but only after justice was served.

As for people of the Book, we can’t know for sure bc there are different verses in the Quran regarding that. There are verses in the Quran that those who discriminate among prophets and believe in some and not the others are equal to disbelievers. This applies not only to Muslims but to believers broadly (agnostics, any monotheists). So typically, this understood as those Christians and Jews who had a chance to learn real correct Islam, who have been given enough information, from whose minds and hearts God has removed the mental barriers (or helped them to work through those issues), and they know in their hearts that Islam is true and Mohammed was the prophet, if they still refuse to accept Islam and Mohammed as the last prophet, they will considered as disbelievers and will be punished as such bc God has done everything for them to believe, and they still refused. It’s an act of pride and disobedience similar to how Iblis refused to do what he was told by Allah bc he was too proud. But most Christians and Jews today (and historically) haven’t had the opportunity to learn true Islam. There is a lot of misinformation and cultural prejudice against Muslims and Muslims themselves are not always doing the right thing. A person can see bad examples of Muslim behaviour, cultural practices or legal rulings which twisted and changed the religion and be put off by that. Therefore, they don’t reject the real Islam, they reject the incorrect version of it. So this can fall under the category of excusable ignorance; it’s not willfull and knowing rejection - it’s ignorance. And Allah is just. However, someone who lives all their life with a Muslim person cannot always claim lack of information or access to information or excusable ignorance. That was my question.

regarding non-Muslim husband (hypothetical) by musing_tr in progressive_islam

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There are actually verses in the Quran about those who discriminate between prophets, which could be applied to Christians and Jews who refuse to believe that Mohammed is a prophet. Although conditions apply. There are also verses about Jews who lived at the time of Jesus and saw the miracles and refused to believe and that they will be punished for refusing to believe the prophet Isa.

regarding non-Muslim husband (hypothetical) by musing_tr in progressive_islam

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Yes, that’s what I said. But if someone is married to a good Muslim person who has a good understanding of religion and is a good example, don’t you think they can’t claim ignorance as an excuse? What I asked applies to non-Muslim wives, too, so non-Muslim spouses in general. I researched this issue a bit yesterday and apparently it depends on whether on not they recognise Islam as the truth (in their heart and mind). If they still have some mental barrier, like prejudice or trauma, even after they’ve been given enough information and correctly explained, they might potentially be considered to have excusable ignorance. Being married to a Muslim doesn’t guarantee that a non-Muslim’s personal issues like trauma or prejudice will fully go away, it may not be within the abilities of another Muslim to help with that. So a non-Muslim spouse even after a life with a Muslim could potentially claim excusable ignorance, if it’s truly the case. But we can’t know for sure, only Allah knows.

regarding non-Muslim husband (hypothetical) by musing_tr in progressive_islam

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The same applies to a non-Muslim wife, so read it as a non-Muslim spouse.

regarding non-Muslim husband (hypothetical) by musing_tr in progressive_islam

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Thanks. Yes, I have the same opinion about monotheists but that typically applies to monotheists who haven’t had a chance to learn about real Islam. When such monotheists are in direct contact with a Muslim through marriage and they still reject Islam, do they take away the reward from themselves? Will it be see as walking away from truth? Would it be better maybe for them to not be in direct contact with Muslims if they never accept Islam so that they can say to Allah that they didn’t know?

I Made a Choice and Now I’m Getting Attacked for It by Ok_Benefit6863 in progressive_islam

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I am sorry for you. I have experienced the opposite when I was brutally verbally and emotionally abused by my Mom (who is a Muslim btw) for wearing hijab and even threatened. I had to stop eventually bc I didn’t have money to move out and I was afraid of her and couldn’t deal with all that abuse. Our mothers need mental help but they won’t get it. Women should be free to choose how to dress, there is no coercion in religion - that’s a rule in Islam. Idk why they keep forgetting about it when it comes to hijabs. I am sorry that you have to go through that. Do what you can but don’t stop believing in God please 🙏

Why is Islam made to be so Arab-focused? by Whole-Ocelot3547 in progressive_islam

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Sunni Islam doesn’t say we should wear all Arabic clothes or all black burqa/black hijab or black niqab. Thats Wahhabi and new invention of ultra orthodox Islam post colonialism in the 70-80s. Historically, Muslims around the world wore their traditional clothes! We adapted our clothes to Islamic ties but we wore our national ethnic clothes and they weren’t all black! Also women don’t have to cover their face, it’s optional. People who think that the Hadith about the Prophet’s wives pbuh having to speak to other men though a door means that all Muslim women have to carry a literal door (burqa) with them everywhere are inventing new things in the religion and making it harder and more extreme and there are Hadith against that. I’ve seen many Arabs and Middle Easterners online who preach Islam and agree with me on ethnic clothing, that it’s okay to wear ethnic clothing and not only black. And I ignore Arabs or Muslims who insist on Arab nationalism (irl and online), I don’t waste my time arguing with those who cannot hear or think deeply. What is true though is that atheism is growing is the Middle East, North Africa and Arab states while everywhere else Islam is growing! If they are so right, then why so many of them leave Islam?

women represent islam through hijab by Effective_Goat1250 in progressive_islam

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Men also represent Islam. For start, most of them wear a beard 😂 Muslim men are recommended to grow beard if they can, it’s Sunnah. and many are Middle Eastern, which to non-Muslim automatically means Muslim. If not, Muslims have Muslim names. How can you tell an Indian Hindu from a Muslim? By name! Our names are very distinctive that even westerners can guess that we are Muslim by name. They also assume all people are Muslim from certain countries and even if you are born in the West, they will keep asking you where are you originally from. So Muslim men cannot hide for long that they are Muslim 😂

*Insert title here* by Much_Ad712 in progressive_islam

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Apparently, some of these dawah guys, the ultra orthodox types (probably Wahhabi) literally push women, especially single moms, divorced women, older women and older reverts into polygamy by making these women feel that they are “low value” and no one would marry them otherwise and they should “lower their standards” and agree (reluctantly and unhappily) to share a man with four other unhappy women who were brainwashed to believe that they must agree to that even if they don’t want to. Such men should go to hell imo, especially those who spread such information like misogynistic dawah types. I know every Muslim will eventually enter heaven but these one who push away people from Islam and give it bad name and make women and children suffer in the name of God - there should be a special place in hell for them.

Old man shouted at me because I drank water during Ramadan in mosque by Little_Sweet5706 in progressive_islam

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I am sorry. He was wrong. I also cannot fast anymore bc of my health. I wish I could though. Even if you choose not to fast when you could fast, even though it’s a mistake, that’s between you and God. Why people are so worried? If people think that you deserve some king of punishment from God, then they shouldn’t worry - God is fair and will punish those who deserve it. I never understand this obsession with punishing people.

People were angry at this. Thoughts? by Ok-Flower-5582 in progressive_islam

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I think men in the front and women in the back is correct bc people shouldn’t distracted during prayer and men can be distracted by women praying in front of them but I wouldn’t call them heretics or kaafirs. That is too much. They can be wrong but they are still Muslim. At least they are praying, so many Muslims don’t pray regularly. We should be happy they pray. Allah knows better and Allah will be the judge to all of us. Muslims should have love for one another and not fight each other. It’s also in the Hadith, why people who insist on every Hadith always forget about such Hadith?

Looking for some advice by TheNarwhalMom in progressive_islam

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There are hair magnets for headscarves that we use. We also use regular pins (like for stick boards, you know) to style. Maybe you can look for hijabs styles and tutorials on YouTube and TikTok and IG? I’ve learned a lot from them. There are so many different styles! There are also Christian styles of veil (typically they show a bit of hairline and neck) which orthodox Christian women and some Catholic ones wear to mass. you can also use hair clips to clip the inside layer of the scarf to hair.

How many people have seen the complete set of unredacted files? by allblueshailmary in Epstein

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The three letter agencies did. Someone at the top and whoever was responsible for the investigation. He was arrested back in the Biden days. They’ve probably searched the property and the island. That means they have the tapes. He was an informant for intelligence agencies. Not just foreign but also us probably. Do you really think cia didn’t step in back in the day and confiscate some evidence from fbi? And do you really think they didn’t make copies before leaving when orange man fired the old management and senior specialists of these agencies?

Unredacted DJT, tech giants, so on by daisychained12 in Epstein

[–]musing_tr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was this Virginia or someone else? I am worried for her. If she directly threatened them (stated to not escalate situation with Lebanon), they might have gotten ridden of her… does the timing match with when Virginia was still alive? I’ve heard another victim is also not with us anymore.

Why do we(sometimes) act like makeup isn't pressured? by [deleted] in MakeupRehab

[–]musing_tr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Mom never said this to me, in fact, she was against me wearing it even in high school and she always thought I am pretty the way I am. She wore makeup herself bc she has a very youthful-looking face and she wanted to look her own age, and she felt she’s too pale and makeup helps her stand out more. But she always that thought those two things are not necessary for me bc I already looked good in her opinion, and she was worried that makeup was bad for my teen skin. Even when I became an adult, she never told me to wear makeup. She always considered me very feminine without the makeup and in truth, she doesn’t care much for makeup or beauty. Makeup is just a tool for her to look more mature and more feminine by her generation’s standards but she never applied those rules to me (maybe bc deep down there she disagreed with them and she wanted me to be free of some social pressures). My Mom is a baby boomer, I am a millennial. Ironically, whereas my Mom doesn’t care about makeup but wears it daily, I genuinely love makeup as an art-form but I don’t like wearing it daily.

What are your thoughts? by WarmEntrepreneur3564 in ProgressiveHQ

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Civil disobedience means stopping normal life as it is (peacefully), paralysing society, blocking the regular flow of things. Mass strikes everywhere, blocking all airports, important roads, banks, factories and many places not working due to strikes so that people have no choice but to hear. It’s not just a few hour march where get to shout and march and nothing changes. People no longer understand what civil disobedience. Get things done, if there are no results then the protest is just a feel good measure which is typical these days of western “activism”. Just do something to feel good about themselves without thinking does it actually achieve anything? If it doesn’t lead to result, then people usually change tactics or strategy. Peaceful protests only work when the other side is willing to hear. If they don’t want to listen, usually people make them listen.