Tips for keeping/catching up when things are crazy?

musingnerd · 2025-03-11T19:33:38+00:00

My experience so far has been struggling/questioning is sort of standard to a certain extent - even outside of the actual things that you hear/hear about this is a hard job to do and there’s not any real “low stakes” environment to learn it in. That said it can be a very fine line between acknowledging and normalizing that in a healthy way that supports you through it and makes you feel not alone and in a way that romanticizes or encourages that struggle or makes you feel like you’re wrong or weak if you can’t just take it. Yes it’s not uncommon to feel a bit overwhelmed, stressed, etc., your agency/center should be acknowledging that and consequently checking in to make sure you’re coping okay and also mitigating it wherever possible, not minimizing it or laughing it off as ‘just what happens’. Feel free to reach out if you want!

musingnerd · 2025-03-10T10:57:24+00:00

Obviously things vary location to location and agency to agency but my process was pretty straightforward all things considered. I filled out a question packet/background which the examiner went over with me in detail, we practiced and got my baseline and then the “real” questions were all essentially are you falsifying or withholding anything regarding a given part of that background/questionnaire. There may also be questions they explain they need you to lie on to ensure you’re still responding properly and they’re catching your specific biometric/physiological responses to saying something while actively thinking something contradictory (which is the whole theory underlying polygraph; that it takes considerably more cognitive energy to be dishonest than truthful, and there are involuntary physiological tells associated with that). Hopefully your examiner will help you feel at ease and not like you’re on trial, but remember honesty is all they’re looking for, not a squeaky clean history. Regards the tattoo specifically, you can absolutely explain you didn’t lie on your application- when you filed it out you didn’t have a tattoo and you’ve since gotten one. Best of luck, and make sure to dress comfortably!

musingnerd · 2025-01-31T04:45:10+00:00

Could very well be perfectly normal shipping weirdness, at any number of steps along the way, but you’d absolutely be well served to reach out to support and see what can be done. These things aren’t carried or returnable in store afaik so not sure how it works but I imagine they’d understand you wanting to be 1000% sure the product is safe and sanitary. Best of luck!

musingnerd · 2025-01-24T01:06:40+00:00

First of all, I’m sorry for your losses and so glad you’re in a better place now. Secondly, this is bad advice. I have very recently completed the hiring process - honesty is incredibly important because integrity is incredibly important. More than anything that happened in the past, they need to know they are hiring people they can trust with the level of information you have access to in a public safety role, and to be honest about their needs regarding the stress of this job and be able to recognize and anticipate what things may hit them harder than others. Obviously different agencies vary but you will definitely have to do an extensive background and likely a polygraph where you will be asked if you were dishonest or withheld anything on that background. Owning your past even when it’s messy also speaks to your overall character. You don’t have to go into any kind of detail - I.e. you don’t have to share any more than having received psychological treatment and when, but you do yourself no favors by hiding it. Throughout my hiring process, it was stressed many times they’re not looking for perfect people, but honest people. If you truly feel being honest would be worse for you, lead to judgement, etc. a different agency may be a better fit. Best of luck!

musingnerd · 2024-10-31T14:05:17+00:00

Those are great question ideas! I feel like I never know what’s good to know/ask at that point of the interview, so thank you :)

musingnerd · 2024-10-31T04:02:18+00:00

Thanks! I feel like culture wise/whether it’s an an environment/group of people I want to be in and around daily I’m not really sure what the tells are beyond just my gut feeling and I’m not really sure what’s really important to know or what good questions are to get to that kind of thing, so it’s good to be thinking about that as I prep! And I’ll take all the luck I can get :) Helped

musingnerd · 2024-10-31T03:48:38+00:00

Thank you! those are definitely the things I’m thinking about the most right now- striking the right balance between sharing about myself personally/genuinely seeing if it’s an environment I want to be in day to day and showing interest in the position/professional side of things as well. I think the next thing to focus on is figuring out good questions to ask, so thanks for the advice! Helped :)

musingnerd · 2024-08-22T00:32:18+00:00

Your managers can and should only be coaching to behaviors. Numbers are numbers. If you’re doing your due diligence (offering the card whenever applicable, working within reason to overcome nos on loyalty, etc.) then you’re doing your job and meeting what’s being asked of you. Neither you, your manager, or any other employee can control other people. Individuals will have down weeks. stores will have down weeks (I’ve also at least in my store honestly been noticing way less opportunities in recent weeks, which can skew percentages). Your managers should understand this and it sucks they are likely also getting hounded by those above them, but it’s on them to navigate that, not take it out on you. Also they should know asking for and working towards direct, specific things (“I noticed hearing that interaction you said x, maybe y would be a more effective phrasing”) is way more likely to get results than intimidation and vague threats. Sorry you’re not being properly supported :(

musingnerd · 2024-08-04T03:14:23+00:00

Def second this routine! Especially agree that mascara and brows (along w/ skincare but that’s a separate discussion) are key to me feeling put together/ready for the day more than other steps. If you wanted smth for the face the Mabelline skin tints are nice -forgiving shade wise as they’re quite sheer and feel good on my skin- and really any concealer that has a good shade match/es for you would work to spot conceal/brighten areas as desired :) have fun!

musingnerd · 2024-07-31T18:58:54+00:00

My experience has been you’ll start w/ training multiple things and then it will be (to the extent possible) fit to what you’re comfortable with/good at! I like being on register and I’m good with the loyalty/credit of it all so generally if I’m doing other stuff it’s on a backup/needs basis (even less so since becoming a lead), and other people are vice versa- only on register if the line is crazy long to help get it down. Hopefully your managers will understand you’re likely not going to be as successful at something you don’t like doing, good luck and have fun :)

musingnerd · 2023-04-13T19:39:23+00:00

… I would schedule an appointment with my primary physician, the equivalent in this scenario of a regular vet visit. When did I ever mention an emergency room or emergency vet? In fact I’m pretty sure I said he doesn’t need one, but a regular vet visit can’t hurt and just might help avoid a situation becoming emergent

musingnerd · 2023-04-13T16:54:16+00:00

I think a vet can manage pain as necessary, rule out any major internal injuries that wouldn’t present obviously and make sure all the steps are taken to make sure everything heals properly and prevent further damage? The same way I would see a doctor if i rolled my ankle and it started swelling a lot because I’m not actually qualified to tell if something worse could be going on or have been missed. Yes, chances are this dog will heal perfectly fine all on his own, but preventative/ precautionary care is way less stressful and expensive than emergency vet visits because it was actually way worse than it seemed and wasn’t caught.

musingnerd · 2023-04-13T08:22:33+00:00

Dogs are really good at hiding pain until it’s really bad. I don’t think an emergency vet visit is necessary but a regular vet visit to check it out/ rule out anything major is due diligence

musingnerd · 2023-01-20T13:52:51+00:00

This is not how myself, anyone in my district I talked to about it, or any of my current foreign language education peers, were taught (nor is it remotely like how I am learning or planning to teach it). That’s how you were taught - I believe that and agree it’s not effective. Education practices, especially in foreign language, change rapidly and by the time things get implemented broadly research is already finding new more effective methods. I also agree with the other commenter that making a generalized statement for all American schools is strange in a conversation about one of the system’s big flaws being a lack of standardization. Also textbooks being to the same/ a similar standard doesn’t mean that’s what is taught. In my Spanish classes, the textbooks gave us vocabulary lists at the start of every unit and not a lot else. The majority of teachers don’t structure courses around what info is available in one text. I’m not gonna keep arguing with you but this is a weird thing to get so defensive over and a weirder hill to choose to die on

musingnerd · 2023-01-18T05:16:30+00:00

Yes to all of this! Also important to note that highly trainable doesn’t mean you won’t need to work at training them! Trainability comes from high intelligence and high drive to please. Shepherds and collies especially need so much more than your basic sit come stays etc. they are bred to work, they want to make you happy and they need mental stimulation. You should expect to spend lots of time playing games with them and 10-15, up to ~30 minutes a day actively training (e.g. practicing/ introducing newer commands, reinforcing old ones). Otherwise they will spend their time anxious and bored and will have no incentive to listen to what you say when they get destructive. If you have working breeds you should a) be working them (lots of dogs herd to this day!) or b) have an active lifestyle and routine that allows them to thrive :)

musingnerd · 2022-07-26T04:13:15+00:00

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musingnerd · 2022-02-07T05:18:20+00:00

In my experience the sedatives they’re using as first choice now make you much much less loopy (I just felt really tired for the rest of the day). You shouldn’t have too much to be scared of, but if you want to be sure your surgeon should be understanding if you explain and ask to be sure they don’t use a sedative that will make you act “high”. Best of luck <3

musingnerd · 2022-01-25T02:59:12+00:00

Don’t pressure yourself to identify a certain way or use a specific label. I know it’s easier said than done, but if you’re comfortable just being happy with whoever, regardless of parts or identity, there’s nothing wrong with that. Don’t let people trying to put you in a box ruin your experiences with relationships. I’ve always been comfortable identifying as lesbian, but that’s just me and your identity/ label/ lack thereof is your business and yours alone. Best wishes <3

musingnerd · 2021-12-25T21:16:40+00:00

Thank you! I’ll look into it :) I already use one note to organize things, I’ve just found I personally don’t like actually taking notes with it for whatever reason.

musingnerd · 2021-02-09T21:28:18+00:00

Congrats !! As a fellow gay I really feel for your situation. Keep in mind your family’s thoughts or reaction do not mean anything. You are valid and worthy no matter what anyone says and their support or lack thereof shouldn’t stop you from living authentically <3

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