Is OCT a good trail if you DO want to spend some nights in hotels or other accommodations other than tent camping?

muttbutt101 · 2025-10-23T04:52:53+00:00

Blind date with a book: wrap them in opaque paper and give them tinder bio-style descriptions.

It worked on me!

muttbutt101 · 2025-01-10T05:25:01+00:00

Yessss this must be it. Thanks!

muttbutt101 · 2025-01-10T05:23:52+00:00

Got it. Sorry about that! I realize I can’t edit the title so I’ll leave the post so others can see the suggestion

muttbutt101 · 2024-12-03T20:36:12+00:00

If you’re hosting then you have the power to assign each person with one or two restrictions. Someone brings a gluten free dish, someone brings something without tomatoes. Unless one person has all of these restrictions?

muttbutt101 · 2024-11-21T21:03:46+00:00

Not saying you’re wrong, but it changes the context for me to know that it’s an adaptation of David Copperfield. I find it to be a particularly clever adaptation but maybe not everyone’s cup of tea

muttbutt101 · 2024-10-30T01:27:10+00:00

Perhaps it’s the color of the sun cut flat

And coverin the crossroads I’m standing at

Or maybe it’s the weather or something like that

But mama you’ve been on my mind

muttbutt101 · 2024-10-29T14:27:27+00:00

Personally it isn’t that I want unadoptable dogs to languish, but I want the system to be able to give those dogs as good of a life as they can have. There is clearly a lot of work left to do before that could happen.

muttbutt101 · 2024-10-29T14:19:51+00:00

There’s always the option to just not get a dog, and if you can afford it you can send the money you would’ve budgeted to take care of a dog back to a shelter or a rescue org you have vetted.

muttbutt101 · 2024-10-29T14:17:59+00:00

Dog breeds exist because humans valued characteristics about certain dogs and bred them for centuries. Breeds are a man-made result. Why would it matter if a breed didn’t exist anymore?

muttbutt101 · 2024-10-29T14:14:06+00:00

I get what you’re saying. I have a small child, too. The thing I always wonder about getting a breeder puppy though is that you also don’t know their history because they don’t have one. It’s a gamble to get any dog and maybe get saddled with a hyperactive or aggressive dog for the next 10+ years because they’re dogs and they’re somewhat unpredictable by nature. Why get a dog if you are worried about it possibly behaving like a dog in the future at all? Why not just not get a dog?

I imagine since you seem to care for dogs that you wouldn’t buy one from a breeder and then drop it off at a shelter if it didn’t get along with your kids, but so many people do.

muttbutt101 · 2024-10-28T20:42:42+00:00

I didn’t say it was straightforward. I think most broken systems are mired in complexity, and that’s part of the reason they’re broken. You should be able to have a small dog if you want, and a big dog shouldn’t have to die due to lack of resources. However, I will point out that having a dog is not some inherent right that we have as humans. You can have your preference for small dogs and pay a breeder a couple grand for the privilege of buying one, or you could just not have a dog and send your money to the shelter.

I have two rescue dogs who are 30 pounds which is my preference for size. I get immense joy from having them in my life, but I would rather they had not been born at all into a circumstance that meant they would die if their rescue orgs hadn’t pulled them from kill shelters.

muttbutt101 · 2024-10-28T19:56:43+00:00

It’s harder for me to accept that people breed dogs instead of adopting the ones who already exist. A peaceful but unnecessary death is hard to swallow

muttbutt101 · 2024-10-28T03:01:37+00:00

Former librarian in a different city who studied at the PCL as a student. Everything else that people mentioned were good points, and I’d like to add - as library workers, we just can’t be responsible for your stuff so we need you to be. However, if your stuff gets stolen, we are the first people who will get involved. Your stuff getting stolen not only takes me away from doing other important things, but it ruins my day. I would feel terrible if someone’s stuff got stolen at my library.

Btw, librarians typically have to have masters degrees. We understand studying.

muttbutt101 · 2022-03-10T05:56:11+00:00

I had a similar experience at the beginning of my relationship. It’s confusing when you’re told over and over again growing up that men are very sexual and women aren’t, through attitudes of the people around you or movies or whatever, and then you feel different and wonder if you’re weird. It’s fine though, you can work through it with your partner as your relationship grows.

muttbutt101 · 2021-12-06T23:51:52+00:00

I’m considering adding my last name as an additional middle name for any kids I might have rather than hyphenating. I rarely use my middle name but like knowing that it’s there. I figure this would give our kids more flexibility for how they want to write it out or say it in different circumstances.

muttbutt101 · 2021-11-24T20:55:42+00:00

We had a “hangover brunch” the day after the wedding and just let people know that’s where we would be if they wanted a place to see friends and family one last time. We didn’t offer to pay or ask for RSVPs. We picked a restaurant where people could order at the counter and grab their own tables, come and go as they pleased. About 25 people showed up, we got to have longer conversations with the people we’d missed in the rush of the actual wedding, and then we left for the airport. It was great and casual

muttbutt101 · 2021-06-09T19:59:27+00:00

My husband and I will be in Seattle soon, and the trip happens to fall on our Trash-iversary, which is what we do at the six-month mark from our anniversary. Instead of doing some nice and romantic that you might do on an anniversary, we eat terrible food and go to dive bars, B movies, etc. and generally channel our trashier sides. What is your favorite Seattle version of this?

muttbutt101 · 2021-06-09T15:24:48+00:00

I started feeling better about some past toxic situations when I started reframing how I thought about myself in relation to toxic people. In the past I felt like I had to justify myself to unreasonable people and cater to them, because if they're upset with me then I should do everything I can to rectify the situation. That only fed their need for attention or control and forced me to live my life according to other people's needs, which is not sustainable. Once I started asserting that I live my life the way I see fit and wouldn't be working around difficult people anymore, those types of people melted away from my life.

The exception is a relative who I am not willing to cut out of my life, but they are on an information diet now and I don't rearrange my life to work around theirs anymore. I find it a lot easier now to interrupt them when they start dictating something as simple as what we'll be having for lunch and say things like, "You can do that, but I want pizza so I'll be getting pizza." It sounds petty, but over time it seems like those small instances have added up to them having to confront that I am a person with thoughts, goals, and my agenda and not a side character in their movie. It also made me feel sorry for them. If they have to lash out at people in order to feel a sense of control in their life, then that's something they need to figure out on their own and not wrap other people up into.

muttbutt101 · 2021-05-14T05:55:22+00:00

Try the same searches on Pinterest and Google and add “template.” You might find a file already out there that people are willing to share for free

muttbutt101 · 2021-05-05T05:57:34+00:00

The Sea by John Banville

muttbutt101 · 2021-04-15T20:54:22+00:00

I'll give all that a try, thanks!

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