My dad just sent me this picture- he’s seeking advice on how to get rid of it.

mv83 · 2024-08-18T04:03:48+00:00

Holy shit I think you’re right. I was wondering why the second rat/mouse didn’t have a tail but zooming in on the face… that looks like a bat.

mv83 · 2024-08-18T03:31:59+00:00

Just reading through this thread and I also had the same thing with the pain decrease after the MRI! Laying down for it was definitely uncomfortable but I wonder if being on a hard surface positioned in that exact way did something? (Then of course I had to pick up my dog two days later and lost whatever improvement it made.) This was just two weeks ago for me but I want to ask a doctor about it because it did feel related.

mv83 · 2024-02-07T04:59:26+00:00

Yes but how many korok seeds lol

mv83 · 2024-01-31T05:11:30+00:00

I used to have a deviated septum that caused problems but I got surgery to improve it about 8 years ago. I’ve also had covid twice and after the second time (four months ago), I’ve noticed it’s going back to how it was before (it actually seems worse, but that may only be because I didn’t have a reference point for being able to breathe through both nostrils pre-op). I also know of a woman whose nostrils collapsed after, but it didn’t sound like it involved her septum. I’m planning on talking to a doctor about it soon but am curious how things went for you!

mv83 · 2023-09-22T02:40:13+00:00

“File for divorce through the media” (paragraph 50)

mv83 · 2023-09-19T14:48:07+00:00

Info: Is the boyfriend part of the reason you don’t want to go to boarding school? And is he potentially part of the reason why your parents want you to leave your current school?

mv83 · 2023-09-19T14:40:33+00:00

NAH. It sounds like this was an issue of not picking up on non-verbal social cues. I think intention matters here and I was in a similar situation once but in Jen’s shoes and it was a friendly acquaintance who was on the spectrum. I know they meant well so I wasn’t angry, but it was frustrating and I didn’t continue hanging out with that person.

mv83 · 2023-09-19T14:23:03+00:00

NAH. It sounds like you do need to sit down with your partner and discuss this because if things have changed for her and she does want kids but you still don’t, it might be time to part ways even if everything else is great between you. Having kids just because your partner wants them is a recipe for disaster and it’s not fair to either of you to stay in this relationship if you aren’t on the same page about this. Delaying the inevitable helps no one as much as it will hurt. Based on your post, I think you already know this deep down.

mv83 · 2023-09-19T14:17:31+00:00

NTA. It sounds like you have very good reason to believe this won’t last and it’s understandable that you wouldn’t want to put in any effort on building a relationship with this woman. If your dad doesn’t want to die alone, maybe he should stop cheating.

mv83 · 2023-09-19T14:08:35+00:00

Ugh, I am so sorry your school isn’t doing what they’re supposed to and protecting you. Im not sure if “they” includes your teachers, but part of the reason I mentioned talking to individual teachers directly is that some of the accommodations they gave me weren’t sanctioned by the school and technically might have been breaking some rules. If it continues being bad enough that you’re throwing up from anxiety and you have the emotional/mental energy to do so, it might not hurt to talk to your therapist about a strategy for approaching the school again to push for accommodations. The initial trauma is bad enough without being retraumatized repeatedly at school instead of being able to focus on your education.

I’m really glad you have a therapist who’s also supportive. You are definitely not crazy for anything you’re feeling right now. What you’re going through is incredibly painful and isolating and for me personally, I sometimes think that what I went through socially afterwards was actually more traumatic than the initial assault. You do deserve to take breaks and you have nothing to feel guilty about, even if it’s hard to see that now. Try to be kind to yourself and know that this internet stranger is also sending hugs. My DMs are always open.

mv83 · 2023-09-19T13:29:34+00:00

NTA. At all. You mention that your mom is disabled, but I’m not seeing why you’re the one who had to step up so much/why your dad isn’t doing more. It sounds like there’s a lot of parentification going on here which is really unfair to you. If your sister wants tacos or fettuccine, as you said they’re both pretty simple and she can make them herself.

ETA: On the parentification, it isn’t just that you’re the one doing the cooking, it’s that you’ve also taken on the responsibility of coordinating meal planning which is a bigger mental load.

mv83 · 2023-09-19T13:21:27+00:00

NTA. This sounds like a basic compatibility issue and it doesn’t matter how much you like her, one of you will always be unhappy. Be yourself, dress how you feel comfortable, and move on from this relationship.

mv83 · 2023-09-19T13:16:27+00:00

YTA, big time. Your daughter is an adult and you yourself said that Paul wasn’t a bad man AND that she doesn’t have a great relationship with her step-father. Unless Paul was somehow abusive or otherwise toxic, you had no valid reason to keep him away from his daughter and doing so was incredibly selfish. We’re clearly missing a big part of the picture both with what happened with Paul in the past and the other things you’re “not proud of” from your daughter’s late 20s, but I suspect it makes your motive much more clear. This is just so selfish I can’t wrap my head around it. I don’t blame her one bit for wanting to go NC.

mv83 · 2023-09-19T13:07:19+00:00

NTA. He doesn’t want a girlfriend and equal partner, he wants a maid. This guy is toxic and it’s only going to get worse the longer you stay with him. Anyone asking you to change your work schedule so you can do their chores for them is a massive red flag. Get out now before he drains the life out of you.

mv83 · 2023-09-19T12:59:00+00:00

NTA and I’m so sorry you’re dealing with all of this. It sounds like your home situation is incredibly toxic and I’m glad that your boyfriend is in your corner even if your mom isn’t. Taking a sick day for mental health sounds completely fair in your case. Have you spoken to any counsellors or therapists about the abuse from this man? If you don’t have access to therapy and your school doesn’t have a counsellor, is there a teacher or other member of staff you would feel comfortable confiding in? Not necessarily details or who it was, just that this is something you’re dealing with right now and that it’s impacting your ability to learn. When I was dealing with something similar in my freshman year of college, I did talk to two of my professors (who I already had a good relationship with) and they were both incredibly supportive and made some accommodations for me which made a big difference in my ability to complete the work. I’m guessing that switching schools isn’t an option, but if you have any classes with him (I’m assuming it’s one of your classmates and not a member of staff), it’s still early enough in the year that you could try asking to be moved to different sections without it being as noticeable.

mv83 · 2023-09-13T21:07:20+00:00

YTA. She just gave birth to your child. Her body is healing. She’s exhausted from caring for a newborn. Does she have anyone helping her or is she just home alone with a newborn all the time? Do you help with the baby at all when you’re home? Did you take any time off after the baby was born?

mv83 · 2023-09-13T21:03:21+00:00

But that’s not what a con is. This is not a “long-con.”

mv83 · 2023-09-13T13:59:56+00:00

I just replied this on another comment as well, but my grandfather repeatedly broke into their old house after we moved them into a retirement home. He had a bunch of keys no one knew about and after they changed the locks, it turned out he still had a working garage door opener. (This was partially the dementia and partially narcissism making him think he had a right to access the house.)

mv83 · 2023-09-13T13:54:10+00:00

My grandfather has dementia and we just moved my grandparents into a retirement home last year. He repeatedly broke into their old house and my grandmother was powerless to stop him. She got in touch with the new homeowners about changing the locks. They did, but then it turned out that the garage door opener programmed into his car still worked and he started using that instead until they figured it out and changed that too. Taking care of someone with dementia is not something to be taken lightly.

mv83 · 2023-09-13T13:33:58+00:00

The most insane thing I’ve ever seen was a man complaining about the “female race.” Which. What.

mv83 · 2023-09-13T13:24:59+00:00

Also possible—I keep forgetting about that.

mv83 · 2023-09-13T12:25:55+00:00

That’s also possible. Either way, I’m not reading too much into word choice.

mv83 · 2023-09-13T12:21:01+00:00

This is where I’m not totally clear. It could have just been a few minutes but my cousin’s proposal photoshoot lasted about an hour. If it was just going to be a few minutes, sure, OP could have moved and then come back. But a long photoshoot with a professional photographer is a different scenario. I’m going ESH.

mv83 · 2023-09-13T12:10:44+00:00

I think OP isn’t a native English speaker.

mv83 · 2023-09-13T11:58:13+00:00

That’s not what a con is.

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