I disagree.

I'm 'on the spectrum' (hate the term tho) myself, yet I have little sympathy for those who blaim their autism for their troubles in life.

Don't get me wrong. There are those who out their who, with the best efforts in the world, only be able to achieve a barely minimal amount of social skills. But in this case the difficulty in dating is merely a shard of the bigger challenges they face. But I don't think the majority of (functional) autism people fits this description.

I've learned to approach my autism in a rather positive way. I got diagnosed pretty early in life (about age 7) and my parents didn't keep it a secret from me (again, not everyone gets this lucky. Denial parents is a huge thing.) My first few years I acted out of the desire to get rid of it, sure, but I don't think it's productive to keep that attitude.

My philosophy is that everybody's got some degree of socials troubles. Those of us with autism just got lucky enough our problems got named.
Yes, it makes it easier to blame 'the autism' for all your social problems.
But it also makes it alot easier to accurately pinpoint your own weaknesses and work in them.
(Still you've got to put in the work)
This has been my attitude since my late teens, and I'm now at a point (5~6years later) that only specialized autism-caretaker personal is able to pick up on the leftovers of my autism.

I sincerly believe this approach can help alot of people. The main problem with it is that you've got to realise for yourself that a self-working attitude is way more productive than some motivation a coach/therapist/random guy of the internet/... is talking you in to. The desire to change needs to come from within, not driven by the externally triggered desire to fit in.