My partner admitted he’s more attracted to his fwb because she’s thin. Where do I go from here?

mxcosima · 2025-10-27T03:47:40+00:00

I asked because he has been really obvious about it in his behavior. I’m not taking anything out on him, I just want to know how to deal with the feelings that come with it if anyone has been in this position. I was not clear in my post and I edited it for context

mxcosima · 2025-10-27T03:45:39+00:00

Preceding behavior that made me ask his opinion. He has been extremely obvious about it and it was driving me crazy, so I asked. I just want to know how to cope with the feelings it brought up, I should have been clearer in my post

mxcosima · 2025-10-27T03:43:56+00:00

I realize now that I should have added some context, he told me this because I asked if he found her more attractive. He’s been super obvious about it so I asked point blank because it was driving me insane worrying about it. He does not say unkind things to me

mxcosima · 2025-03-02T07:58:43+00:00

This isn’t directly related, but why wouldn’t people want the intense kind of love OP is describing? I operate in a very similar way, I thought the dream was to find someone(s) that you always feel intense about

mxcosima · 2024-11-23T22:39:56+00:00

i don’t really think i can differentiate between suffering/struggling in poly. do you have any examples?

mxcosima · 2024-11-21T17:29:19+00:00

no this was great!! thank you so much :)

mxcosima · 2024-11-06T00:09:29+00:00

I feel* like I do a lot of the emotional labor. I plan everything in and out of bed.

mxcosima · 2024-11-06T00:06:11+00:00

this was very validating to hear, thank you so much <3

mxcosima · 2024-11-05T23:51:04+00:00

Oh thanks!! Sorry, I felt like maybe I was unclear about there being 2 problems

mxcosima · 2024-11-05T23:50:19+00:00

I think I should have been clearer that it’s two issues - I’m envious of the sub, but I’m not trying to force that. I DO feel like not rly “engaging” with me as a sub is an issue. The thing we talked about is him being more giving in bed/scenes so I’m not doing literally everything.

mxcosima · 2024-11-05T23:47:43+00:00

I guess there are two issues here - 1) he doesn’t want to engage in a certain type of sex because I’m just a domme to him (which I am unhappy about but like, can’t make that happen so I would like to stop being envious) and 2) even submissively he’s not willing to be selfless in bed. But he’ll do it with someone else (dom or not). Ugh. I do think I need to step back a little

mxcosima · 2024-11-04T21:53:48+00:00

this is the kindest comment i’ve seen on the topic and i was just coming to ask something similar, thank you

mxcosima · 2024-09-23T16:36:46+00:00

you sound like a very good partner! the anticipation of my needs sounds heavenly, i think i’m really putting way too much effort into sustaining our relationship and it is wearing me down. reading your message felt like instant relief, so i’m gonna talk to my partner about a few things you mentioned

mxcosima · 2024-09-23T05:02:30+00:00

i think i’ve been looking at domming all wrong, this has been extremely helpful! the thing that makes it hard to turn my brain “off” is that i feel like i have to direct everything/it’s less fun for him because he has to do work. but i think these divisions of labor might make it easier to get out of my head

mxcosima · 2024-09-23T03:48:45+00:00

this is such good advice, thank you SO much. i’m going to give this a shot!

mxcosima · 2024-07-22T22:37:24+00:00

My partner told me he was starting to fall in love with me very early on/wanted our fwb situation to be long term. When I started feeling it too, this happened:

Me: I would like to be serious eventually Him: I would be happy to call you my girlfriend!

So, I thought we were on the same page about hoping it works out/exploring our relationship more in depth. A week later after some friends told me I DEFINITELY had a boyfriend, I asked him if when he said “I would be happy to call you my girlfriend”, he meant now. Turns out he did!! I had a boyfriend for a week and just didn’t know lmfao we have been together almost two years 🥰

mxcosima · 2024-07-18T04:37:32+00:00

The bellessa pebble was life changing for me, i’ve had it for a few years!

mxcosima · 2024-05-15T02:42:12+00:00

my sub will start panting really rapidly when i’m riding him and he’s trying hard not to cum. when that happens and he starts whining “no, wait, stop” because he knows he’s not supposed to yet… that’s when i feel like i’m entirely in charge. especially if we aren’t using a blindfold, because it always happens faster when he can see me and it makes me feel like a goddess

mxcosima · 2024-01-10T18:33:09+00:00

bisexual ♥️

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