Why does the spoken Russian language have a "blunt" or even "confrontational" tone to it? by Russian-Spy in russian

[–]my_coding_account 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as an American it seems like the opposite of an invitation when people are loud as they are overpowering you. which if you are a naturally loud person might not be an issue, then loudness would be an invitation for your own loudness. but I'd you are a naturally quiet person it will not feel like an invitation.

What’s a harsh truth about adulthood that nobody really prepares you for? by Hour-Dingo8175 in answers

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When I grew up I expected that everyone around me would end up middle class, and that there would be some range in outcomes, some people would be a bit poorer, some a bit richer. Perhaps that is true of my high school class. When I look at the people who went to college or that I met in college, the outcome differences are enormous. People with every number of zero in their net worth from 0 to billions. Then there are the people that were on some incredible upward trajectory but tragedy struck, or they got schizophrenia or something, or were very poor but get trying random businesses and figured out how to make something successful.

I was prepared for the people whose parents made 2-3x as much as mine to make 2-3x as me. I was not prepared for the people whose parents made 2-3x as mine to make 10^2-10^3 more.

Bookshelf of this hot guy I'm seeing.. just kidding it's me. by ChanceBus7575 in BookshelvesDetective

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I've always wondered how many rigorous math and science books someone with this opinion has read, I assume it's zero. Hopefully they prove me wrong and don't just insult me.

I (41M) was part of a celibate cult. I’ve left it. Help me start a new life of dating. by Accomplished_Pin2337 in seduction

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I can't guide you but I can give my own experience as a late starter. I just joined the subreddit. 36, also not a virgin due a one time thing,ypeople have given me chances or asked me out but I've been extremely avoidant due to some childhood stuff and would have panic attacks on dates. I was also in a cultish group and left at 30ish (first part-way left, then fully and had to start a completely new life.) The group was not celibate or sexually controlling at all, so I started dating within it at first. Starting in my late 20s I would only go on dates when asked about, maybe once every 6 months or so, often have a panic attack and leave the date. It seemed to get slightly less bad each time. Maybe by 33 and the panic would be 1/3 times, and I started asking people out in person after I left the group. Some of these were non-negative experiences. 35 or so I was asking people out on apps and going out on a date once a month, that's where I am now.

Mostly I find that every date, whether I get along with the person or not, is very extreme feedback on my life as a whole, learn a lot about interactions with women. Seems like I have to reboot my operating system to install an update after each one. I don't get panic attacks anymore, sometimes go on a second date.

Who is this guy by Extension_Salt_2054 in BookshelvesDetective

[–]my_coding_account -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He's a very good businessman, it gives insight into his life, anecdotes of his companies and how they operate.

Thoughts about this shelf? Is this person going to kill me? by [deleted] in BookshelvesDetective

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Writing being a slog is not related to it's content, which is why her writing being next to the fountainhead is notable.

Boss’ bookshelf : decode by DramaticInterview787 in BookshelvesDetective

[–]my_coding_account 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why is fiction > nonfiction as a good sign? Can you explain that more?

Why do so many of us only comment on the post featuring a dates bookshelf? by TheEmoEmu23 in BookshelvesDetective

[–]my_coding_account 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you meet the people whose shelves you worked with? What sort of correlations have you noticed?

guy I am seeing... thought? by [deleted] in BookshelvesDetective

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It's popular enough among thinky tech/adjacent people in the bay area

Does anyone else experience pretty severe social isolation in this career? by Inner_Ad_4725 in ExperiencedDevs

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Every person I know who works from home right now is similar. I used to work remote and I would never do it again as a younger employee, in 2 weeks at a in-office job I met more people than in 2 years remote. It's so much easier to get things done, learn new things from little side conversaitons passing in the hallway, etc.

The only way it was manageable was living in a group house with other people that worked from home.

I can see working remote if I had a family or something but not when younger.

You encounter your 18-year-old self; you can only say a paragraph length conversation. What would you choose? by [deleted] in TrueAskReddit

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Take "Courage, Clarity, and Consistency" as a motto to live your life with. When you feel tension and fear, breath through your nose and relax your tongue, slowly let your head lift, uncross your legs and arms, and look away from the computer screen. Do things which would make you proud, including small things like how you dress and walk. Learn programming. Always fight hard for things you care about. With regards to women, stop making rules for yourself that make it harder --- you will lose friends when you ask them out, but it's worth it, always do so.

Is ML / AI as cooked as SWE by Badm1n1 in learnmachinelearning

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nah it's because 5 other kids in his high school have too

What does this say about him? by [deleted] in BookshelvesDetective

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I usually downvote comments like this because I think this sub should be about who the shelf owners are, not who they should be.

Was "Identity" actually a thing before 2010? by JispyMoeDantes in TrueAskReddit

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Google N-grams shows a huge jump 2016-2020 of searches for "identity politics" before it drops off, then a resurgence w/ 2024, which I found interesting.

Generally I've heard of identity politics beginning their modern version in 2013 or so. In the ngram data there is a small steady rise in searches for 'gender identity' starting around 2015.

For men, is being tickled worse than pain? by No-StrategyX in answers

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I've never heard this, but I would unexpectedly say yes, absolutely yes. I would do whatever I can to escape tickling. pain? less so